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SEPTEMBER 2023

FOUND!
HOW DNA TESTING IS BRINGING
FAMILIES TOGETHER
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BONUS READ

He Risked
Everything
to Save
Thousands
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HEALTH

Turn Anxiety to
Your Advantage
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WHO KNEW?

Wacky Birthday
Traditions
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13 THINGS

Whirlwind
Facts about
Extreme Weather
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DRAMA IN REAL LIFE

Alligator
Attack!
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LIFE LESSON

6 Ways to
Embrace
Anticipation
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Reader ’s Digest CONTENTS Features cover story REUNITED How DNA A testing is helping to bring families together. department of wit who knew? For Sale: My Catalog of Dad Jokes Wacky Birthday Traditions Once your kid stops laughing at your quips it’s time to move on. It’s not always about cakes and candles! by gary rudoren bonus read by sarah treleaven health culture Portugal’s Schindler The Beat Goes On Like Oskar Schindler, diplomat Aristides de Sousa Mendes helped save thousands from the Nazi regime. How to worry well. Meet the custodians saving recordings from destruction—or oblivion. by patricia pearson by simon button The Upside of Anxiety by stéphanie verge PHOTO: DALE MAY by chanan tigay my story heart Around the World in 1,000 Mammals Bedtime Stories at the Hunting Camp A conservationist looks back on his favourite animal encounters. Even grown-ups love to be read to when the lights go out. by vivek menon by l.k. oakley drama in real life travel The Deadly Swamp Floating Life An alligator attack was just the start of a hiker’s three-day ordeal. This community shows how cities can prepare for rising sea levels. by derek burnett by shira rubin cover illustration by Nilanjan Das readersdigest.in 3
10 Over to You a world of good 13 Below the Surface everyday heroes 14 The Sea Protector by lam lye ching smile 16 Bitten by the Dance Bug by richard glover good news 18 An Innovative Bike Helmet, Tractors that Run on Manure, Ozone Layer is Recovering and More by samantha rideout 4 september 2023 42 A Powerful Row-mance, Framed by Fan Art and more by naorem anuja quotable quotes 97 Masaba Gupta, Raghuram Rajan, Hannah Arendt and More trusted friend 196 Lakeside by Jeannie Phan Better Living life lessons 26 It’s Worth Waiting For by holly burns health 32 Just in Case by anna-kaiser walker news from the world of medicine 36 The Upside of Commuting, Antidepressants and Pain, Purple Power and More by samantha rideout food 38 Simply Souvlaki by lucy wildman 13 things 50 All About Extreme Weather by caitlin stall-paquet (top) courtesy of kathy xu; (bottom) nathan bla l ney/getty images Departments it happens only in india 36

Reader ’s Digest Humour 40 As Kids See It 98 All in a Day’s Work 152 Life’s Like That 178 Laughter, The Best Medicine 188 185 Humour in Uniform book review: history’s angel Culturescape rd recommends 182 Films, Watchlist, and Books (top) lekha naidu; (box) tim macpherson/getty images studio 186 Abanindranath Tagore’s Hunchback of the Fishbone by soumitra das 188 A Tale of Our Times by jai arjun singh Brain Games 190 192 193 195 Brain Teasers Sudoku Word Power Trivia NOTE TO OUR READERS From time to time, you will see pages titled ‘An Impact Feature’ or ‘Focus’ in Reader’s Digest. This is no different from an advertisement and the magazine’s editorial staff is not involved in its creation in any way. Your story, letter, joke or anecdote may be used by Trusted Media Brands, Inc. and its licensees worldwide in all print and electronic media, now or hereafter existing, in any language. To the extent that your submissions are incorporated in our publication, you grant us a perpetual, irrevocable, royalty-free right to use the same. You warrant that: you are the sole owner of all the rights to the submitted material and have the authority to grant the rights herein without restriction; the material is your original work, and that the material does not infringe or violate any copyright, right of privacy or publicity, or any other right of any third party, or contain any matter that is libelous or otherwise in contravention of the law; to the extent the material shared by you includes any of your personal details, you expressly waive your right to a future claim or enjoinment. In the event of a claim or liability on account of the above warranties, you will be required to indemnify us. We regret that we cannot acknowledge or return unsolicited pitches or submissions. It may also take some time for your submission to be considered; we’ll be in touch if we select your material. Selected items may not be published for six months or more. We reserve the rights to edit and condense your submissions including letters. We may run your item in any section of our magazine, or on www.readersdigest.in, or elsewhere. Not all submissions are compensated, unless specified in the invitation for entries or through express communication by the editorial team. We do not offer kill fees for story commissions that cannot be published in print or on www.readersdigest.in for any reason. Personal information limited to full name and city/town location will be used as part of the credit or by-line of your submission, if published. All other personal contact information is used solely by the editorial team and not shared with any third party. Requests for permission to reprint any material from Reader’s Digest should be sent to editor.india@rd.com. 6 september 2023

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OVER TO YOU Notes on the July issue A DREAM OF HEALTH FOR ALL Our public healthcare system is inadequately funded and inefficiently executed, leading to a very large population in far-flung places unable to access key facilities. With her experience as a member of the planning commission, Ms Hameed is obviously aware of the ground realities and, as such, her assessment of the ‘boat clinics’ and remote hospitals run by people like the Regis gives us a true picture of the National Rural Health Mission. The experiment needs to be replicated across the country. She has rightly pointed out that most doctors avoid rural postings. One reason is the large ‘capitation fee’ paid by students to get into medical colleges and their desire to make up for the same quickly! Governments must abolish this menace of private medical colleges raking in crores. Secondly, we must create decent infrastructure in the far off places for the young doctors to live there. Harsh, Gurgaon Harsh wins this month’s ‘Write & Win’ prize of `1,000. —EDs by contributing cash and other daily necessities. Richard Kharpuri, Mumbai Let’s be Friends Touch is important T for us, humans. While it is true that technology has helped many of us reunite with lost friends, it is a doubleedged sword. It offers the power to connect, but at the same time, it keeps us entangled in the infinite web of the Internet, thus wasting our precious moments. For a lasting friendship, we must invest real time with friends. They can’t be taken for granted by simply sending messages on social media. Rachel’s Winning Ticket Bhushan Chander Jindal, Noida Lapierre’s courageous step of quitting her nursing job and dedicatingg her life to reaching out to needy persons is an edifying act. Her story reminded me of the group of men and women in my native town who build a concrete home for a family of six orphans, three months ago. The men willingly provided both financial help as well as their labour to construct the house. The women aided the family For persons beyond 80 years, without a spouse, and declining health that results in restricted mobility, it’s tough to find ways to meet and share 10 september 2023

Reader ’s Digest intimate moments with someone, even briefly, to ward off loneliness. Leaving aside close friends we have had for ages, same-age acquaintances are a dwindling species, leaving little opportunity for new, meaningful human interactions. sense of community. A mentoring culture is a networkofstrongcommunication, multiple connections and a community built around learning. This creates an sense of belonging in employees, thus building social capital. Prafull Chandra Sockey, Hazaribagh, Jharkhand “I Have No Idea How to Fly this Plane!” Pass It On Mentoring is often overlooked as a means of building social capital. When an organization invests in mentorship programmes it nurtures four characteristics that grow social capital: conversation, connection, community and culture. Good mentoring begets good conversation. Through connection, mentors and mentees gain broader perspective within an organization. Research shows that mentorship improves results in organizational citizenship creating a better 12 september 2023 Pradeep Kumar, Surat During my career in the Indian Air Force, I was involved in flying a fighter aircraft; so this article kept me captivated. No words of praise are enough for the courage, determination, and never-saydie attitude demonstrated by Darren. He had never been trained to fly a plane but managed to land the craft successfully, without the aid of an instrument panel. Kudos to the air traffic control and ground staff too! The message of the story is clear: Never ever give up. Group Captain Dev Dutta Roy (retired), Greater Noida Rise Above Pain Antony Chuter’s story inspired me and lifted me out of depression. I suffer from chronic neck pain and in the last few months I had begun to believe that I was the most unlucky person in the world, as I was suffering acute pain at the age of 67. The article has assured me that I am only one among many suffering individuals worldwide. The several ways to counter chronic pain using medical and nonmedical interventions covered in great detail in this article has served as a comprehensive guide which has helped me deal with my pain effectively. Aparna Mansabdar , Pune Write in at editor.india@ rd.com. The best letters discuss RD articles, offer criticism, share ideas. Do include your phone number and postal address.
Reader ’s Digest A World of GOOD Reasons to Smile Below the Surface D COURTESY OF JASON DECAIRES TAYLOR ive into the sapphire-blue waters off the coast of Cancun, Mexico and you may find yourself finning past more than 400 life-size statues standing in defence of their oceans. Titled The Silent Evolution, it’s the work of British eco-artist Jason deCaires Taylor and calls attention to a startling fact: more than 75 per cent of the world’s reefs are threatened. His sculptures are crafted from sustainable, marine-grade cement and serve as an artificial habitat for aquatic life while drawing tourists away from overstressed natural-reef areas. “I incorporated as many references to climate change, habitat loss and pollution as I could; those are the defining issues of our era,” Taylor told CNN Travel. readersdigest.in 13
EVERYDAY HEROES Kathy Xu teaches a group of young students about shark conservation. An innovative ecotourism venture is helping combat shark fishing BY 14 4 Lam Lye Ching september 2023 K in Singapore, had always wanted to see a shark in the wild. The opportunity finally came in 2011, when she went on a snorkelling trip to the Ningaloo Reef, off the coast of Western Australia. Not only was she not scared of the whale shark, the then 29-year-old was so inspired by its beauty and grace that tears sprang to her eyes inside her snorkel mask. “I was screaming with excitement inside, while still trying to keep calm and enjoy the moment,” she says. After returning home to Singapore, Xu learnt about the shark trade taking place at one of Indonesia’s largest fish markets. In the village of Tanjung Luar, courtesy of kathy xu The Sea Protector ATHY XU, A high school teacher
Reader ’s Digest on the island of Lombok, shark parts including meat, cartilage and teeth are cut up for export. Most prized are the fins, which fetch high prices because of the popularity of shark-fin soup. Curious, Xu packed her bags and headed to Tanjung Luar. There, she spoke with several fishermen. Shark fishing is risky and involves hard physical work, but it is one of few ways for them to provide for their families. The fishermen were knowledgeable and felt a great sense of pride for the local sea life. Once they heard that Xu liked to snorkel, they urged her to visit the coral reefs near the fish market. The reefs were stunning, teeming with life and colour. Xu was confident that ecotourism was the solution—a way the fishermen could make a living without having to catch sharks. “I told them I’d pay them to take tourists out to see these snorkelling havens,” she says. Together, Xu and the fishermen came up with the idea of snorkelling boat trips, and a deal was struck. In late 2012, Xu quit her full-time teaching job to focus on building The Dorsal Effect, an ecotourism business she hoped would help save the declining shark population in Lombok’s waters. Initially, Xu struggled to find investors, but in 2013 she won the Young Social Entrepreneurs competition funded by the Singapore International Foundation and was awarded the equivalent of `6.2 lakh. She purchased snorkel gear, life vests and equipment and paid for boat repairs and refurbishments for the fishermen. In late 2013, The Dorsal Effect launched its first boat trip. Snorkellers paid US$120 [around `10,000] for a oneday excursion to explore places the local fishermen know about but could not be found on a Google search. It provides a much more reliable income for the fishermen than the precarious, and often dangerous, job of shark fishing. In 2019, while working on a research project, Xu and Singapore-based shark scientist Naomi Clark-Shen found a female Rhynchobatus cooki, or clown wedgefish, at Jurong Fishery Port in Singapore. A relative of the shark, the species had not been seen for more than 20 years and was believed to be extinct. The discovery gave scientists hope, and it could be grounds for an in-depth conservation study. For now, Xu, 41, is proud of the small changes she sees happening on Lombok, from the fishermen who now have a new way to earn an income to the school children who learn about sharks on tours with The Dorsal Effect. In the past decade, global demand for shark fins has declined—a promising result of conservation campaigns—but stricter government regulation is needed. “I love the grace of sharks and decided that I wanted to change the negative opinion people have of them,” Xu says. “By encountering a shark respectfully, in its natural habitat, maybe there could be more compassion and empathy toward marine wildlife.” readersdigest.in 15
SMILE Bitten by the Dance Bug By Richard Glover 16 6 september 2023 my exercise regimen now includes 40 minutes of vigorous dance in the kitchen just before bedtime. I leap into the air like a youthful Nureyev, performing a grand jeté to the left and then one to the right. Next it’s tap work, madly stamping the ground like a frenzied Fred Astaire. The cause is a double insect infestation. Pantry moths fill the air; cockroaches scurry across every surface. Both are common here in Australia, particularly during summer. I’m determined to win my battle. I say the cockroaches ‘scurry’, but that’s not the right word. Rather, it’s a brisk, purposeful walk. They have no fear; they own this place. From the dignified manner of their perambulation, illustration by Sam Island
Reader ’s Digest I assume they’ve already contacted my bank and taken over the mortgage. I have tried traps, of course, which the cockroaches regard as mobile housing, dotted around the place for their convenience. I have tried insecticide, which has a worse effect on me than on them. There are so many cockk roaches, I wonder if they’d mind fetching my asthma puffer from my bedroom drawer before I spray. More recently, I’ve considered contacting Kim Jong-Un and arranging a nuclear strike, but I’ve heard cockroaches can survive that, as well. The pantry moths are also oblivious to products that promise their eradication. Chief among them is the moth trap—essentially a sheet of sticky paper impregnated with female pheromones. It’s like an insect version of a nightclub. The problem: While it works on 95 per cent of the males, the ones that survive and breed with the females are, of course, the strongest ones. My pantry is now home to accelerated evolution. Wait three weeks and the moths will be the size of bats. Wait three months and you’ll open the door to be greeted by the dragons from Game of Thrones. And so I’m left with my dance routine. I pluck the pantry moths from the air with my hands; the cockroaches I dispatch with my feet. For reasons that are unclear, the insect infestation is my fault. Or at least my responsibility. “It’s repulsive,” says my wife, Jocasta. “When are you going to do something about it?” She means: “When are you going to hire a real man to solve the problem?” In fact, I’ve already called a real man, a professional pest controller, only to be told a visit will cost $365. It’s a figure that instantly brought new energy to my dance moves. I’m now more like Mikhail Baryshnikov with a side order of Jackie Chan, leaping from one side of the kitchen to another, a flying machine of death. I go to bed each night panting with exhaustion and calculating the bugs’ nightly losses against the breeding that will inevitably occur overnight. Female cockroaches can produce eight egg capsules in a lifetime, each holding as many as 40 eggs. How many is that? Just multiply eight and 40 and you’ll get the answer: Eww! Actually, that’s nothing compared to a female pantry moth, which lays 400 eggs at a time. They take as little as seven days to hatch. This is too much, even for Baryshnikov. I’ll need a whole corps de ballet. Apparently the pantry moth smuggles itself into your home through your shopping, so by freezing all your dry goods, you can kill off the eggs. Not so practical, though. Worse, who knew that flour, rice, almond meal and the rest of it are full of moth eggs? I never want to eat anything ever again. The only thing I can do is wait. Maybe Kim Jong-Un will destroy all life on the planet, proving science wrong by killing the cockroaches, too. Or maybe I’ll get over my reluctance to spend $365. That’s unlikely. So wish me luck. readersdigest.in 17
GOOD NEWS from around the world BY Samantha Rideout Tina Singh, founder of Bold Helmets. INCLUSIVITY In her work as an occupational therapist, Tina Singh has seen how devastating a brain injury can be. Singh also knows that a bicycle helmet reduces the risk of brain injury by up to 69 per cent. But until recently, none of her three active school-aged sons had a helmet that fit properly. That’s because, as a sign of their Sikh identity, they wear their long hair tied in a top knot under a patka, or small head covering. Taking matters into her own hands, Singh, of Ontario, Canada, spent several years developing child-sized helmets with space for a patka on 18 september 2023 top. Earlier this year, she launched Bold Helmets, as she has branded them. They were a labour of love for Singh, who wanted to promote greater diversity in sport by ensuring Sikh children could safely participate. Singh’s helmets are safety certified for bicycling, inline skating, kick scootering and skateboarding. “There are many other groups of people who lack the appropriate safety gear for their needs,” she says. “I hope my initiative provides inspiration for others. Just because something hasn’t been done before doesn’t mean we can’t find a way now.” gagan singh, courtesy of tina singh AN INNOVATIVE BIKE HELMET
Reader ’s Digest These Tractors Run on Manure INNOVATION Most tractors burn diesel, but global manufacturer New Holland Agriculture is tapping into an energy source that’s already found on farms: animal dung. Using a covered slurry pit and a processing unit, farmers can collect and purify the methane gas coming off waste as it decomposes. Normally, this methane would have floated into the atmosphere as a greenhouse gas. Instead, it can power tractors, and the leftover material can fertilize the soil for growing animal feed. This virtuous cycle reduces a farm’s carbon footprint and shields it from fluctuating fuel prices. The manufacturer unveiled the prototype for the world’s first fully methane-powered tractor back in 2013, but it’s only since 2021 that these machines have been commercially available for farmers in Europe and North America. westend61/g westend61/ g etty e images Finishing Crafts for Loved Ones COMMUNITY When somebody passes away before completing a thoughtful handicraft, such as a knitted blanket or needlepoint piece, their expression of love could get discarded or stored away rather than cherished. Knowing this, American knitters Jennifer Simonic and Masey Kaplan launched Loose Ends, a not-for-profit that connects skilled volunteers with handwork projects that were started but not finished by people who have died. The two match families with volunteers based on geography, the skills required and types of projects the volunteers enjoy. So far, some 8,000 crafters from around the world have signed up to complete meaningful mementoes and return them to the bereaved loved ones of those who started them. Ozone Layer is Recovering ENVIRONMENT In 1987, delegates from all over the globe met and agreed to regulate the human-made chemicals that were depleting the ozone layer. The layer protects life on earth by absorbing most of the sun’s ultraviolet radiation. Their efforts produced the Montreal Protocol, which not only prevented a radiation disaster but also mitigated climate change, since some of the ozone-depleting substances it phased out are also greenhouse gases. The progress report released in 2022 is promising: If current policies, such as banning chlorofluorocarbons (CFCs) in air conditioners, continue, much of the layer will return to its overall 1980 levels by 2040. “This is an encouraging example of wha at the world can achieve when we worrk together for the sake of our planet and d its people,” tweeted UN SecretaryGen neral António Guterres. readersdigest.in 19






BETTER LIVING Wellness for Body & Mind S ’ T I H T R O W G N I T I WA R O F To enjoy life more, embrace anticipation BY Holly Burns from The New York Times ALLE PIERCE KNOWS how to plan a vacation. A few months ahead of time, she “goes on a crazy Google spree,” constructing a spreadsheet of all the things she wants to do and see. She scrutinizes the menus of restaurants she is planning to visit. She uses a picture of the destination as her phone’s locked screen image and downloads a countdown app. 26 6 september 2023 illustrations by Alexei Vella
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reader’s digest “What’s so exciting about a trip is the anticipation before it,” says Pierce, founder of a luxury travel company called Gals Abroad Getaways, which plans group trips for women. Experts say she is probably right. Numerous studies suggest that having something to look forward to boosts your mood and lowers your stress. “Imagining good things ahead of us makes us feel better in the current moment,” says Simon A. Rego, chief psychologist at Montefiore Medical 28 september 2023 Center and Albert Einstein College of Medicine in Bronx, New York. “It can increase motivation, optimism and patience and decrease irritability.” Of course we can’t just book a flight every time we need a little cheering up. But there are ways to harness and incorporate the power of anticipation into your everyday life. GET EXCITED ABOUT A LOT OF LITTLE THINGS Anticipating a smattering of small, delighful experiences can be as enjoyable as looking forward to one big event, says Carrie L. Wyland, a social psychologist at Tulane University in New Orleans. “At the end of every day, write down one thing you’re excited for tomor row,” she says. “Maybe it’s a new book, or getting pastries, or a package you’re expecting.” The accumulation of these mini thrills means you will still reap the benefits of looking for ward to something, even if it’s not a big-ticket reward, says Christian E. Waugh, a psycholo g y p ro f e s s o r w h o
studies anticipation at Wake Forest University i n W i n s t o n -S a l e m , North Carolina. “Plus, with the nearer stuff, there’s more of a sense it’s going to happen for sure,” he says. “You’ve got more control over a small gathering this evening than a vacation in six months.” CONNECT WITH YOUR FUTURE SELF Research has shown that feeling as if you are on a path to your future self can have a positive effect on your well-being by snapping you out of s h o r t - t e r m t h i n king. Thinking ahead may help you prioritize your health and maybe even act more ethically. While it’s fun to daydream about your future self, the steps you need to take to get there can be intimidating, so start with clarifying the things in life you value the most, Rego says. Then set goals around them. If your priority is staying fit as you age, maybe your goal is to run a fiveklilometer race. But don’t wait to feel motivated before you take that first step. Instead, when you do something towards your goal, “focus on how motivated you feel afterward, not before,” he says. As you start seeing progress, it will get easier: You will look forward to doing the things that get you closer to your future self. CONSIDER A GENTLE BRIBE Anyone who has taken a child to get a flu shot and then ice cream afterward knows the power of building anticipation for a thing you don’t readersdigest.in 29
clients detailed packing lists a month in advance. “I get equally as excited about the clothes I’m going to wear on the trip as I do about the trip itself,” she says. But the promise of a new shirt works just as well for things you are nott so excited about. “Let’s say you’ve got a work presentation you’re nervous about,” she says. “If you’ve also got a new outfit that you can’t wait to wear, you’re going to look forward to it more.” FOCUS ON EXPERIENCES want to do by pairing it with a thing you do. In a study on “temptation bundling,” participants who were given an iPod loaded with audiobooks that they could listen to only at the gym worked out 51 per cent more than those who weren’t. It was so incentivizing that, when the study ended, 61 per cent of subjects said they would pay to have gym-only access to the audiobooks. To build anticipation for the group vacations she leads, Pierce sends 30 september 2023 Several studies have also suggested that we get more happiness from anticipating experiential purchases than material goods. Ramping up anticipation is an important trick of the trade for Lydia Fenet, a charity auctioneer. If it’s dinner with a celebrity, for example, she will envision all the ways that dinner could turn out. Maybe you and the celebrity become buddies. Maybe they become a godparent to your kid. “And right as I’m about to hammer down the gavel and sell the lot,” says Fenet, “I’ll turn to the audience and
reader’s digest say, ‘So they’ll be dining with their new best friend, George Clooney, and you’ll be sitting at home eating pizza.’” Dinner with Clooney aside, you can still maximize anticipation before an experience, such as a date. Choose an activity that is meaningful to you or a place you want to show the other person, says Erika Kaplan, vice president of membership for the matchmaking service Three Day Rule. “Then you’re looking forward to two things: the date itself but also introducing the other person to your world and seeing how they react,” she explains. REMEMBER THAT ANXIETY AND ANTICIPATION CAN COEXIST The flip side of positive anticipation is anticipatory anxiety—and the fascinating thing, Waugh says, is that they often happen together. “Anxiety and excitement are sister emotions,” he says. “Think about when you’re getting married or you’re having your first kid. It’s a jumble of both.” But it is detrimental only “when you just focus on the anxiety part and neglect the excitement part,” he adds. The key is acknowledging the happy, positive aspect of what you are doing along with the nervous feelings. Waugh says that research suggests “when you reappraise anxious things as exciting, it actually makes you feel better about them.” CREATE SOMETHING NEW If parties are something you look forward to, don’t wait for a holiday to celebrate—just invent an occasion. Throw a birthday party for the dog, or host a breakfast for all the kids on your street. Whether it is a party or a bribe or a nightly list, anticipation can be a powerful tool in manipulating our emotions. When TV writer Anna Beth Chao tries to look forward to something she is dreading, such as the four-day drive she just made from Los Angeles to her home in New Orleans, she uses this trick: “I basically tell myself a little story about what might happen,” she says. “If you frame it within ‘Well, what if it’s an adventure?,’ it’s easier to get excited about it.” THE NEW YORK TIMES (7 JUNE 2022), COPYRIGHT © 2022 BY THE NEW YORK TIMES COMPANY Life Lessons Courage is the most important of all the virtues because without courage, you can’t practise any other virtue consistently. M AYA A N G E LO U If there’s a single lesson that life teaches us, it’s that wishing doesn’t make it so. LEV GROSSMAN readersdigest.in 31
HEALTH Just In Case Does your first-aid kit have all the essentials? By Anna-Kaisa Walker T he last time I cracked open my home’s first-aid kit, I had one thumb swaddled in bloody paper towels after I’d accidentally nicked it while chopping onions. Fumbling through the zippered compartments as my thumb throbbed, I discovered nothing but a few yellowed bandages, dried-out antiseptic wipes, some gauze, tape and a pair of scissors like the kind kids use in kindergarten. Luckily I managed to stem the bleeding with the gauze and went on to cook a decent spaghetti Bolognese. But I’d come to the sober realization that my cheap, neglected first-aid kit 32 2 september 2023 illustrations by Kate Traynor
Reader ’s Digest would do my family no good in an honest-to-goodness emergency. “First-aid kits are most commonly used for minor injuries like cuts, but they can also help you in less-common emergency situations, such as heart attacks or life-threatening bleeding,” says Nathan Charlton, an emergency physician in Charlottesville, Virginia, who serves on the Scientific Advisory Council for the American Red Cross. That’s why our list is so comprehensive. Build yourself a good kit, then keep one at home and one in the car and be sure to take one along if you go camping. To help you make sure your kits contain all the right things, we spoke to experts in emergency medicine. These are the items they recommend: Aspirin Two 81-milligram tablets of chewable aspirin can be lifesaving if taken within the first hour of a suspected heart attack. But call a doctor first and await instructions; it’s not safe for everyone (for example, those on other blood thinners). Disposable non-latex gloves When helping another person, put these on first. Hand sanitizer If you can’t wash your hands, use this before treating any wounds. Wash or sanitize hands before putting on gloves. Antiseptic wipes If you don’t have access to clean running water, use these to clean and disinfect cuts before applying a bandage or ointment. Antibacterial ointment This helps prevent infection by stopping the growth of bacteria in minor wounds. For a cut or wound, clean the area first, then use this—not hydrogen peroxide, which is not on our list because it can cause the skin to dry out and might prevent the area from healing correctly. Hydrocortisone cream It relieves itching and irritation from insect bites or poisonous plants. Abdominal dressings These large dressings can help control heavy bleeding from major wounds. Keep firm pressure on the dressed wound until help arrives. Gauze It comes in small squares and rolls; both are good for packing and dressing wounds and stabilizing protruding objects (which you should never pull out). Waterproof adhesive tape Use this to firmly secure the dressing on a wound. Self- adhesive bandages Ideally, keep a variety of sizes in your kit, for minor cuts and scrapes. Triangular bandage This can be used as an arm sling. Instant cold packs These work just as well as ice and are ready when you need them; just squeeze to activate. Use to help reduce pain and swelling for muscle sprains or bruises. Tweezers Pointed tips are best for removing ticks or splinters and for cleaning debris from a wound. Scissors It’s worth having a quality pair so you can quickly and easily cut thick bandages or clothing. A special kind called trauma shears, which have sharp, serrated blades are especially good in a first-aid kit. readersdigest.in 33
CPR face shield If you need to perform rescue breaths, these shields, with a one-way valve, provide a good barrier against bacteria and viruses. Burn hydrogel Gel-saturated burn pads cool and soothe damaged skin; they’re ideal when it’s not possible to run skin under cool water. Mylar blanket These ‘space blankets’ help maintain a person’s core temperature after a severe injury or shock. Tourniquet If bleeding from an extremity is so severe that direct pressure can’t stop it, a tourniquet can help. You can improvise one using a minimum twoinch-wide strip of cloth and a small tree branch, but a commercially made 34 4 september 2023 tourniquet is better. The latest models consist of a wide nylon strap with a turn crank and a locking mechanism to hold it in place. IT’S IMPORTANT TO KEEP your kit acces- sible because you never know when you’ll need it. More medically reported injuries happen at home than in public places, at the workplace and on the road combined. Here are the important basics to be as prepared as you can be for any emergency. Buy the Right Container Your first-aid items should be kept in a waterproof bag or an airtight container
Reader ’s Digest with clear compartments that allow you to quickly see what’s inside. That way you won’t have to dig around or dump things out of the kit to find what you need. A good quality ready-made first-aid kit should have most, if not all, of the things we’ve suggested. Look for one created by a reputable organization such as the Red Cross, which are sold at major retailers, then buy any missing items separately. They also publish manuals, some in pocket size that you can keep in your kit. These guides can steer you through a range of scenarios—from panic attacks to spinal injuries—with pictograms. To be even better prepared, you can download the First Aid app, free from the Red Cross. It has step-by-step instructions, videos and more. The Red Cross also offers an online course on how to recognize signs of an opioid overdose and administer the lifesaving medication naloxone (Narcan). Learn more or sign up at redcross. org/take-a-class/opioidoverdose. MORE MEDICALLY REPORTED INJURIES HAPPEN AT HOME THAN Be Ready on the Road IN PUBLIC PLACES, In addition to keeping a first-aid kit AT THE WORKPLACE in your car, also keep a reflective AND ON THE ROAD vest and a warning triangle to put beside the vehicle in case you have COMBINED. Check Expiration Dates Add notifications to your calendar to remind you to check and make sure any medications in the kit are up to date. “That also reminds you why you have a first-aid kit, and it may also help you recall any training you’ve had,” Dr Charlton says. Get Some Training There’s no better way to prepare yourself for emergencies than by taking a course. Organizations like the Red Cross offer basic first aid and CPR certifications that can be completed over a weekend. to pull over, to make sure that other drivers (including an ambulance driver, should you need to call for help) can see you. Know When to Get Help Any cut longer than 1 inch will need stitches, says Lyle Karasiuk, volunteer chair of the Canadian Council for First Aid Education. If a wound is large or deep, or doesn’t stop bleeding after 10 minutes of pressure, head to the nearest hospital emergency room. Also seek help if you or someone else has trouble breathing, or experiences sudden or severe pain or any other potential medical emergency. readersdigest.in 35
WORLD OF MEDICINE By Samanttha Rideout By CRAVING CAFFEINE? TRY DECAF If you love your coffee but worry about consuming too much caffeine, you will be reassured to know that research indicates that regular coffee is a low-risk stimulant. It might even offer some protection against type 2 diabetes and Parkinson’s disease. But it can also cause heartburn, jitters or insomnia. So if you are trying to quit or cut back on caffeine, try decaf. An Australian study shows that drinking decaffeinated coffee can alleviate withdrawal symptoms such as headaches, fatigue and irritability. This surprising result probably tapped into the placebo effect: Even when people knew they were drinking decaf, it looked, smelled and tasted like the real thing, which they associated with feeling alert and well. 36 6 september 2023 More than just a lazy habit, procrastination can be bad for your health, suggests a study of more than 3,500 students in Sweden. Over nine months, those who habitually delayed important tasks experienced more anxiety and depression, poor sleep and pain in the neck, shoulders and back. Fortunately, cognitive behavioural therapy, either in person or through books and websites, can help. Strategies include learning to break down big goals into smaller ones and managing distractions—for example, turning off your smartphone until you’ve finished a task. PHOTOGRAPH BY ADAM VOORHES, PROP STYLIST: ROBIN FINLAY (PILLS). -SLAV-/GETTY IMAGES (DATEBOOK) news from the he The Price of Procrastination
reader ’s digest The Upside of Commuting People who work from home know the rub: For all that it costs in time and money, commuting to and from a job provides an opportunity to disengage from work before jumping into the responsibilities of home life. This ‘in-between’ time can help prevent burnout, according to a report in Organizational Psychology Review. Obviously, this works best if you can take public transit or opt for an easy drive instead of a busy road, and if you use the time well, perhaps to do something fun and relaxing such as listening to music. NATHAN BLANEY/GETTY IMAGES Chronic Pain and Antidepressants For more than two decades, doctors have been prescribing depression medications for ongoing pain, which is notoriously hard to treat. In fact, data from a cross-section of countries—the US, Canada, Taiwan and the UK— shows that among seniors, antidepressants are used for pain more often than for depression. Most of these prescriptions are ‘off-label’ (meaning they are not officially approved for this purpose). And this treatment isn’t as strange as it may sound: Antidepressants affect neurotransmitters, including those that send pain signals to the brain. A new BMJ review synthesized 156 trials involving about 25,000 participants to get an overview of what we’ve learnt so far about treating chronic pain with antidepressants. Although tricyclics are the most commonly used antidepressant drug class for pain, it’s unclear if they really help. But the review did find evidence that SNRI (serotonin and norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors) antidepressants can help relieve people with fibromyalgia, nerve pain, post-operative pain and chronic back pain. Purple Power For an extra boost of good health, reach for vegetables that are red or purple in colour. Radishes, purple potatoes, red cabbages, purple carrots, eggplants, purple cauliflowers and red onions all contain anthocyanins, a type of antioxidant that can help lower blood pressure and may slow cancer growth. A new study review from Finland says these veggies also reduce the risk of type 2 diabetes by affecting energy metabolism, gut microbiota (tiny organisms including bacteria) and inflammation. Reddish fruits such as blueberries, strawberries and blackberries contain anthocyanins too, but the research shows that the kind found in vegetables are particularly powerful. reade aderr sdigest.in 37
FOOD Simply Souvlaki Over millennia, this sizzling skewer has conquered the world By Lucy Wildman photographs by K. Synold C tmb studio ity street corners, village marketplaces and beaches across Greece have something in common: the scent of sizzling meat. Sold in restaurants and takeaways called souvlatzidikos, this staple of Greek cuisine is more ancient than the country’s classical buildings. The word souvlaki is from the Greek word souvla, meaning spit (although in Athens and southern Greece the dish is called kalamaki, which means ‘little reed’). It’s wonderfully simple: small cubes of pork that have marinated 38 september 2023
Reader ’s Digest overnight in olive oil, oregano, lemon juice, salt and pepper. The cubes are threaded onto wooden skewers and cooked over charcoal. Souvlaki can be enjoyed piping hot direct from the grill or wrapped in soft pita bread along with tomatoes, parsley, onions and the garlicky yogurt sauce tzatziki. “The earliest references to meat cooked on a skewer are found in Homer’s epic poems ‘The Iliad’ and ‘The Odyssey,’” says Mariana Kavroulaki, author of The Language of Taste: A Dictionary of Greek Gastronomy. But cooking meat in this way is even more ancient than Homer’s time in the 7 th century B.C. Excavations a few years ago of Bronze Age settlements on Sant o r i n i , a G re e k i s l a n d i n t h e Aegean Sea, sent the history of souvlaki back another 3,600 years. Archaeologists found evidence of skewer cooking, according to Lara Gonzalez Carretero, a lecturer in Bioarchaeology at the University of York in the United Kingdom. Much more recently, souvlaki gained popularity as a street food in Athens in the 1960s after vendors from Boeotia, a region of central Greece, introduced it to the capital. The dish also became a global hit. Throughout the 20th century, waves of Greek migrants, fleeing civil war in the 1940s and the military dictatorship that seized power in 1967, took souvlaki all over the world, with large numbers of immigrants settling in Germany, the United States, Canada and Australia. Today, more than five million people of Greek origin live in 140 countries across the globe. No wonder so many of us are familiar with arguably its most famous dish. New York alone claims more than 200 souvlaki outlets. In Paris, COOKING MEAT THIS WAY IS EVEN MORE ANCIENT THAN HOMER’S TIME IN THE 7 TH CENTURY B.C. souvlaki on a pita is known as un sandwich Grec. And while pork is considered the classic souvlaki meat, in sheep-farming Australia, lamb souvlaki is very popular—especially in Melbourne, home to 400,000 people with Greek heritage (more than in any city outside of Greece). Can’t get enough souvlaki? Neither could the people of Livadia, a town in Boeotia. Using 300 kilograms of pork and 150 kilograms of charcoal, 30 volunteers created a 201-metre long souvlaki running through the town square in 2018. It won the Guinness World Record for the longest skewer of meat. Sounds like a feast fit for all of the Greek Gods. readersdigest.in 39
AS KIDS SEE IT “I’ll have the spaghetti with meatballs but don’t let the meat, sauce or noodles touch.” My husband was a professional violinist and once performed at our son’s school. Some of the students sent him letters of appreciation. One eight-year-old wrote, “Dear Mr. Violinist, thank you so much for coming to play for our school when you 40 september 2023 could have been doing something more useful.” —Margaret Growcott My son walked into the kitchen and said, “I bet you don’t know what 47 divided by 4 is.” I told him it was 11, remainder 3. He said thanks and walked back to the room in which he was doing his homework. — @DevonESawa Reader’s Digest will pay for your funny anecdote or photo in any of our humour sections. Post it to the editorial address, or email: editor.india@rd.com cartoon by Susan Camilleri Konar

It Happens A Powerful Row-mance Roses are red. Violets are blue. If you climb a high tower, I will follow too! This rhyme succinctly surmises the spat between a young couple in Chhattisgarh that went viral on social media. The girl, a minor, was annoyed with her boyfriend and decided to climb a 42 2 september 2023 80-feet-tall high-tension power tower in the Gaurela Pendra Marwahi district. The boy, perhaps at a loss of how to defuse this high-voltage situation decided to follow her to the ends of the electric tower. Ah! To be young, in love, and dumb! This lovers’ tiff playing out at dizzying heights was noticed by the locals, who alerted the police and their respective families. As the police spent hours negotiating with the two, a large crowd of spectators milled about, one of whom captured the whole ordeal on camera making the lover’s quarrel internet famous. No CARTOON BY RA JU EPURI ONLY IN INDIA
Reader ’s Digest official complaint has been filed against the couple, but stern warnings were issued to the younglings that no amount of love or lack thereof necessitates risking life and limb. source: INDIATODAY.COM Framed by Fan Art Two thieves, Vijay Yadav and Sonu Yadav, broke into the house of corporator Anwar Kadri in Indore. The job was to steal and sneak away with their ill-begotten gains, but their best laid plans were waylaid because Vijay couldn’t ignore his heart’s calling. Staring at the house’s bare walls, a canvas flashed before his eyes and voila! He transformed into artist extraordinaire. Abandoning his role as a larcenist, he located a few sketch pens and started doodling on the walls. As he stood engrossed playing muralist—he even paid homage to his favourite actor Amitabh Bachchan in his doodle—he stumbled and crashed into a glass pane, wakk ing the house’s inhabitants. His co-burglar avoided the law by disappearing as soon as he had rid the house of its valuables. But Vijay, who decided to take a crack at wall graffiti couldn’t draw enough patronage for his art, and was quickly handed over to the police. source: INDIATODAY.COM Ghosts of fines past It was 30 August 1997, and railway ticketing clerk Rajesh Verma working at the Kurla Terminus Junction, Mumbai, was going through his working day. Missing a magic crystal with powers to predict the future, Verma presumably did what he always did— overcharge passengers. But, that day his luck went off track: a decoy check was being carried out and a Railway Protection Force constable posing as a passenger requested a ticket from to Ara. Verma who was supposed to return `286 in change after accepting a `500 note for the `214 fare, returned only `280—a full sum of `6 missing. A vigilance team check followed and `58 was found missing from Verma’s railway cash. They also recovered `450 from a cupboard which the team believed was used to hide more such skimps. A disciplinary inquiry followed, which led to Verma’s dismissal in January 2002. Since then, Verma has resorted to several unsuccessful departmental remedies to get himself reinstated, even taking his plea to the Bombay high court, which in August 2023—a whopping 26 years after the incident—rejected his plea, bringing his gravy train to a stop. source: INDIATODAY.COM —COMPILED BY NAOREM ANUJA Reader’s Digest will pay for contributions to this column. Post your suggestions with the source to the editorial address, or email: editor.india@rd.com readersdigest.in 43






13 THINGS All About Extreme Weather By Caitlin Stall-Paquet 1 What’s in a name? Plenty, when meteorologists assign them to hurricanes and typhoons. It’s a practice that began in the 19th century, when a British meteorologist living in Australia started naming storms after politicians he disliked, as well as Polynesian women. Using female names caught on with American meteorologists in the 1950s; weather reports included 50 september 2023 sexist cliches about ‘temperamental’ storms ‘flirting’ with coastlines. Male names were finally included by 1979. 2 The association with destruction tends to make some storm names unpopular baby names, which is what happened to Katrina after a Category 5 storm with that name devastated the US state of Louisiana in 2005. A very damaging storm may have its name retired, and some years there are enough storms to run through the 21 alphabetical names (Q, U, X, Y and Z are not used). The World Meteorological Organization keeps a list of backup names prepared for that eventuality. 3 From cows lying down when rain is on the horizon to ILLUSTRATION by Serge Bloch
Reader ’s Digest birds that fly lower prior to a storm, there are plenty of theories that animals can predict the weather. One that’s proven is that coastal sharks swim deeper during the drop in barometric pressure that precedes tropical storms. Sometimes animals are the weather: Waterspouts or tornadoes can pick up critters and carry them long distances, leading to accounts of frogs or fish falling from the sky, like the anchovies that rained down on San Francisco in 2022. 4 When ice forms on trees, the weight of branches can increase 30-fold. In 1998, the freezing rain of a devastating ice storm in eastern North America brought down millions of trees. The ice layers also collapsed enough electrical wires and cables to go around the world three times. Power outages left more than five million people in the dark—some for as long as 30 days. 5 Blizzards can be equally destructive, especially when they happen in unlikely places, like Iran’s 1972 blizzard— called the worst in history. Almost eight metres of snow fell over nearly a week, covering 200 villages and killing a reported 4,000 people. But ‘oncein-a-generation’ storms are happening more off ten as polar winds meet warmer-than-usual winters. Cold snaps and record daily snowfalls could become more norm than outlier. 6 After bursting onto the scene in the 1970s, the disaster-movie genre— with hits like The Swarm and The Poseidon Adventure—really hit its stride in the 1990s. (Twisterr grossed nearly US$500 million in theatres). Since then, disaster movies have stagnated, possibly because we feel ever closer to life imitating fiction. The 2021 film Don’t Look Up served as an apt commentary on climate change and society’s collective reluctance to act. 7 rising average temperatures are contributing to more heat waves and larger storms. Earlier this year, Cyclone Freddy hit parts of Aff rica and lasted a record 34 days. Human activity is known to compound the disastrous effects of extreme weather directly, too, like in western Canada when the torrential rains of 2021 in areas that had been clear-cut led to deadly mudslides. Major flooding in Germany and Belgium in 2021, and Australia’s unprecedented bush fires of 2020, were also caused by climate change. 8 When forest fires follow drought, bark beetles can make the fires even worse by turning wooded areas into fields of tinder. An infestation along the west coast of North America, from readersdigest.in 51
reader’s digest the Yukon to Mexico, killed more than 102 million trees in California alone. To make matters worse, trees can secrete chemicals called terpenes—which are highly flammable—as a defence mechanism against insect invasion. apocalyptic-seeming ‘blood rain’, a rare event that occurred in Spanish skies in 2022. This red precipitation was caused by dark sand being carried from the Sahara Desert and mixing with water before falling back to earth. 9 11 Lightning sprites make the skies glow with jellyfish-like shapes during thunderstorms, from the Chilean Andes to Israel’s Negev Desert. The crimson lights are produced by electric discharges in the mesosphere and their name is thought to be inspired by Shakespeare’s mischievous fairies in A Midsummer Night’s Dream. 10 Sandstorms occur when strong winds sweep across dry desert landscapes. In 2021, Mongolia’s southern province of Dornogovi experienced a record 20-hour sandstorm. These storms can sometimes trigger an 52 september 2023 Intense heat waves have a way of making society go off the rails. They can melt power lines and buckle railway tracks, which happened during the United Kingdom’s 2022 heat wave. People also tend to lose their cool: Studies show that violence spikes as our bodies heat up, possibly due to a drop in serotonin and an increase in testosterone, which can make us more aggressive. 12 The US experiences 75 per cent of the world’s tornadoes, with about 1,200 reported every year. And ‘Tornado Alley’, which runs vertically through the middle of the country from South Dakota to Texas, gets the brunt of it. In 2013, a record 4.2-kilometre-wide tornado hit El Reno, Oklahoma, with neverbefore-seen ground speeds: 476 kph! 13 Thanks to computer technology and global data sharing, weather forecasts are improving in accuracy, giving residents more time to seek safety. But some people still run toward danger: Amateur and professional storm chasers track highimpact weather and gather invaluable meteorological data—and perhaps a viral video or two. An episode of the 2021 documentary series Wild Canadian Weather followed the adventures of Prairie Storm Chasers. And DutchTReX, a stormchasing group based in the Netherlands, travels to the US each year during tornado season in search of the perfect storm.
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ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement INTRODUCTION The Brands We Trust eader’s Digest launched the Trusted Brand award in 1998, as an exploration into the brands that have earned consumer confidence and loyalty. In a world brimming with choices, where products and services clamour for attention, there emerge brands that stand tall as beacons of trustworthiness and quality. Reader’s Digest dives deep into the realm of consumer experiences, where the consumer vote shapes the landscape of brand reputation. For years, Reader’s Digestt has been synonymous with authenticity and reliability, making it the perfect platform to seek consumer insights about their favourite brands across segments and categories, sharing with us the factors that influence their purchases, including value for money, consistent quality, innovation and excellent customer service. From household names that have been around for generations to newcomers that have swiftly risen through the ranks, the award unveils the brands R that measure up to the yardstick of consumer approval and satisfaction. The Reader’s Digest Trusted Brand awards is an opportunity to celebrate these brands that have consistently, delivered on their promises and secured a special place in our lives. It is a reflection of consumer preferences, making it the perfect guide for discovering the brands that have stood the test of time and scrutiny. The following pages contain the brands that have earned consumer trust and love through the years. Our winners continue to embody the values of consistency, quality, and authenticity that have allowed them to become success stories. „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 56 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
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ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement IndianOil: Fulfilling India’s Energy Needs T he saga of IndianOil is the remarkable story of achieving self-sufficiency in the petroleum sector. It was the foresight of the founding fathers of the oil industry in India that led to the formation of this integrated refining and marketing behemoth. Over the last six decades, lndianOil has provided energy access to millions of people through its ever-expanding network of over 60,000+ customer touchpoints. Today, IndianOil is India’s highest ranked energy PSU in Fortune ‘Global 500’ list (rank 94) and the flagship national oil major. With a 31,095 workforce and extensive refining, distribution & marketing infrastructure, lndianOil plays a significant role in fulfilling the energy needs of the country. With a finger on the pulse of the market, IndianOil has pioneered several revolutionary products such as XP100 & XP95 (India’s first 100 Octane and 95 Octane petrol respectively), ClearBlue (Diesel Exhaust Fluid), composite LPG cylinders (new-age, polymer-wrapped cylinders), to name a few. IndianOil also spearheaded India’s remarkable transition from BS-IV to BS-VI grade motor fuels, much ahead of the 1st April 2020 deadline. Since its inception, IndianOil has constantly challenged the status quo. Its vision to be the ‘Energy of India’ and to emerge as a ‘Globally Admired Company’ are mere milestones in this glorious journey. And despite six eventful decades in the heart and mind of every Indian, the fire to light up the life of a lonely driver on a dark highway still burns within! Visit www.iocl.com „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 64 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER FINANCIAL SERVICES C AT E G O RY BRAND BAN K OF BARODA BAN K OF IN DIA B A NKS (NATIONA LIZE D) CAN ARA BAN K PUN JAB N ATION AL BAN K STATE BAN K OF IN DIA AX IS BAN K HDFC BAN K B A NKS (PR IVATE ) ICICI B AN K IN DUSIN D BAN K K OTAK M AHIN DRA BAN K AX IS BAN K C R E DIT C A R DS HDFC BAN K ICICI BAN K SB I CARD READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 66 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement SBI Card: Celebrating 25 Years of ‘Making Life Simple’ BI Card started its journey in 1998 with a commitment to transform the payments experience of modern India. Today, SBI Card is the largest pureplay credit card issuer in the country with over 17 million cards in force. Over the years, SBI Card has achieved several milestones with the latest being completion of 25 successful years in the industry in 2023. SBI Card continues to design innovative products and services that address the evolving needs of varied consumer segments. It has an extensive product portfolio catering to a wide category of cardholders, from new-to-credit to mass to super premium. For instance, the brand offers AURUM, a super-pre- S mium card, catering to CXOs and HNIs; and also has SimplyCLICK SBI Card for online shopping savvy consumers. SBI Card’s strong technology focus is an extension of its customer-centric approach. Its technology infrastructure and various tech-enabled solutions are aimed at enriching the payments experience of its customers. So, whether it is its comprehensive digital payments suite or end-to-end digital card enrollment experience through SBI Card SPRINT, SBI Card continuously leverages new technological solutions to enhance its customers’ convenience. With ‘Make life simple’ as its motto, SBI Card has evolved as a trusted brand over the years. According to Mr. Abhijit Chakravorty, MD & CEO, SBI Card, “We are humbled to be honoured with this recognition once again. This is a testimony to our strong relationship with our customers, which is defined by the values of trust and transparency. We will continue with our customer-first approach while delivering them a worldclass experience.” „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 68 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER FINANCIAL SERVICES C AT E G O RY BRAND BAJAJ AL L IAN Z GEN ERAL IN SURAN CE HDFC ERGO GEN ERAL IN SURAN CE INS U R A NC E (G E NE R A L) ICICI L OM BARD GEN ERAL IN SURAN CE SBI GEN ERAL IN SURAN CE TATA AIG GEN ERAL IN SURAN CE HDFC L IFE INS U R A NC E (LIFE ) ICICI PRUDEN TIAL L IFE IN SURAN CE L IC M AX L IFE IN SURAN CE SBI L IFE READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 70 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
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ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER FINANCIAL SERVICES C AT E G O RY BRAND ADITYA B IRL A SUN N L IFE MUTUAL FUN D HDFC M UTUAL FUN D MU TU A L FU NDS ICICI PRUDEN TIAL M UTUAL FUN D K OTAK M UTUAL FUN D SBI M UTUAL FUN D AM AZON PAY BHARATPE PAYME NT WA LLE TS GOOGL E PAY PAYTM PHON EPE READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 72 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER CAT E G O RY BRAND DHARA FORTUN E C OOKING OILS PATAN JAL I SAFFOL A SUN DROP CATCH EVEREST MA S A LA S M DH PATAN JAL I TATA SAM PAN N READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 74 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
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ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER HEALTH & PERSONAL CARE CAT E G O RY BRAND BAIDYAN ATH DABUR HE A LTH S U PPLE ME NTS HIM AL AYA PATAN JAL I ZAN DU CL OSE-UP COL GATE OR A L C A R E DAB UR RED PEPSODEN T SEN SODYN E COAL CLEAN BEAUTY OR G A NIC C OS ME TICS (PR E MIU M) FOREST ESSEN TIAL S K AM A AYURVEDA SOULTREE READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 78 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER HEALTH & PERSONAL CARE C AT E G O RY BRAND BIOTIQUE K HADI N ATURAL O R G A NIC C OS ME TIC S (R E G U LA R ) L OTUS ORGAN ICS PL UM GOODN ESS RADICO ORGAN AN N IC I HAIR COL OR SK IN YOGA AM RUTAN JAN IODEX PA IN R E LIE F OINTME NTS M OOV VOL IN I ZAN DU BAL M READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 80 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PL ATINU M (W in n e r s for 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (Winners f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER HOME IMPROVEMENT C AT E G O RY BRAND CERA HIN DWARE B ATH FITTING S JAQUAR J OHN SON B ATHROOMS K OHL ER AN CHOR FIN OL EX E LE C TR IC A L S W ITC HE S HAVEL L S PHIL IPS V-GUARD D'DECOR GODREJ IN TERIO FU R NIS HING S HOM ETOWN N IL K AM AL PEPPERFRY READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/ 81
ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement Johnson Bathrooms: Come Alive With Luxury stablished in 1958, H & R Johnson (India), is the pioneer in ceramic tiles in India. While Johnson is synonymous with tiles, in all categories and sizes—its Bathroom Division has been making inroads into Indian homes for the last 25 years. The Johnson Bath Division started operations in 1998 with the brand Milano. Milano was the first in India to introduce instant showers, shower panels and shower enclosures. It then expanded its product range to include sanitary ware, faucets and accessories. This led to a change in the brand’s positioning and it was renamed Johnson Bathrooms—a complete bathroom solutions provider. Foremost in offering innovative solutions to customers, Johnson introduced germ-free sanitaryware. Another unique feature of Johnson Bathrooms products is its water-saving technology. By incorporating efficient flushing sys- E tems that use 3/ 4.5 litres, it ensures water-saving in every flush. Another innovation is their 360-degree flushing mechanism which creates a powerful swirl for efficient flushing coupled with 100% surface cleaning. Rim-free WCs of Johnson are easy to clean and prevent germ build-up. The smooth zircon opacified glaze resists the build-up of stains. Johnson faucets come with high grade aerators that reduce water consumption. Faucets with tilting aerators enable control of water flow by adjusting the aerator and the Durashine chrome plating ensures a long-lasting dazzle finish. Johnson Bathrooms has introduced the Johnson International range in the luxury segment and Johnson Elite, in the premium segment. Both these product ranges include both sanitaryware and faucets, designed and developed for the discerning customer. „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 82 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER HOME IMPROVEMENT C AT E G O RY BRAND EL ICA FAB ER KITC HE N C HIMNE YS HIN DWARE SUN FL AM E WHIRL POOL GODREJ K URL ON MATTR E S S E S SL EEPWEL L GODREJ IN TERIO HAFEL E MODU LA R KITC HE NS IFB K OHL ER SL EEK READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 84 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER HOME IMPROVEMENT C AT E G O RY BRAND FEN ESTA MODU LA R W INDOWS A ND DOOR S PROM IN AN CE WIN DOW M AGIC HOM ETOWN PEPPERFRY ONLINE FU R NITU R E C OMPA NIE S THE HOM E DEK OR URBAN L ADDER WOODEN STREET CERA HIN DWARE TILE S J OHN SON TIL ES K AJARIA SOM AN Y READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 86 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
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ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement Johnson Tiles: Not Just Tiles, Lifestyles ohnson Tiles began in England in 1901 and came to India in 1958. Its journey began with a single plant in Thane and now H& R Johnson (India), a division of Prism Johnson Limited, is one of India’s leading names in providing solutions that include tiles, sanitaryware, bath fittings and engineered marble & quartz. Focusing on the hygiene, environmental sustainability and safety, Johnson is transforming the way consumers choose tiles with their offerings of Smart Tiles. Durability and aesthetics are expected of a good tile but Johnson defines “smart” by going beyond these fundamental attributes to provide additional value propositions to the products, which includes a mix of durability, aesthetics and functionality. Tiles from H & R Johnson (India) have a whole gamut of features that makes them a trusted choice. The tiles in the SMART category include X-ray radiation shielding tiles that protects from the harmful x-ray radiations, Solar reflective tiles that brings J down the temperature of the exteriors surface thereby improving indoor comfort. Other innovations include the patented Anti-static technology, these tiles ground static electricity and prevents the risk of fire or explosion, Tactile-warning and directional tiles for the visually impaired and MaxGrip, superior slip resistant tiles that ensures safety from slipping. Another interesting addition to the portfolio is Stepping Stone, a range of ready-to-use staircase solutions. Many of the tile collections from Johnson are Green Pro certified, which is a product certification that helps customers make an informed choice to buy ecofriendly products. Johnson’s relentless focus on innovation and customer aspirations has earned it several awards including the Superbrand title, the Golden Peacock Innovative Product Awards, Brand of the Decade, to name a few. „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 90 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement PLATINU M (W inners f o r 10 y ea rs a nd a bo v e) G OLD (W in n e rs f o r 1-9 y ea rs) ALL BRANDS LISTED HERE ARE IN ALPHABETICAL ORDER SERVICES CAT E G O RY BRAND B L UE DART DHL SHIPPIN G COM PAN Y DTDC COURIER COM PAN Y FR E IG HT A ND C OU R IE R FEDEX COURIER PARTN ER IN DIAN POSTAL SERVICES AM AZON FRESH BIGBASK ET I NS TA NT DE LIV E RY PLATFOR MS BL IN K IT SWIGGY IN STAM ART ZEPTO READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 92 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
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ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement Blue Dart: The Trusted Brand Shaping India’s Logistics Landscape outh Asia’s premier express air and integrated transportation & distribution company, offers secure and reliable delivery of consignments to over 55,000+ locations in India. At Blue Dart, the foundation has always been built on customer-centricity. The company’s fleet comprises 6 Boeing 757 freighters, 2 Boeing 737 aircraft, and a vast network of 12,000+ on-ground vehicles with 2200+ facilities across the nation and a diverse team of industry stalwarts, to bridge the supply chain gap, &serve as the trade facilitor for the nation. As part of DHL Group’s DHL eCommerce division, Blue Dart has access to a global express and logistics network spanning 220+ countries. Acting as a catalyst for operational eff ficiency, Blue Dart facilitates business for various sectors, including eCommerce, Pharmaceuticals & Medical de- BALFOUR MANUEL, S Managing Director, Blue Dart vices, BFSI, Consumer Electronics, and Automotive, among others.Aligned with green logistics and ESG principles under its Strategy 2025, Blue Dart continues to deliver as the Provider, Employer, and Investment of Choice. Balfour Manuel, Managing Director, Blue Dart says, “Blue Dart’s 17th consecutive recognition as the Trusted Brand fills us with profound pride. The entrusted faith placed on us plays a pivotal role in charting our path to success. Having served as the nation’s Trade Facilitator for nearly four decades, Blue Dart’s standing as aTrusted Brand is well-deserved.” „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 94 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/

ADVERTISING FEATURE Trusted Brand Special Supplement CONCLUSION Fostering Relationships Built On Trust brand’s success isn’t built overnight. It hinges on understanding customer needs and aspirations, then delivering consistent quality and experiences that align with their target audience. To ensure that a brand keeps its consumer base happy and continues to stay relevant in a dynamic market, effective marketing and innovation are key. In a marketplace where trust can be fragile, earning strong customer relationships can ensure that the brand fosters loyalty. In the end, a successful brand transcends the realm of a single good or service to become a dependable friend in customers’ lives, forging bonds that last the test of time. The Reader’s Digest Trusted Brand award winners have gone beyond simply achieving brand sales. They have won consumer trust by consistently delivering on their brand promises, ensuring quality products and deep commitment to brand responsibility. A They have maintained transparency in business practices, pricing and fostered a culture of responsiveness to consumer feedback, deepening accountability. Placing the consumer at the centre of their practices, has allowed these brands to earn lasting loyalty over time. The Readers Digest Trusted Brand awards celebrate the brands that exemplify a dedication to quality, dependability and consumer trust. Through the years these winners have consistently made a genuine difference in the lives of consumers. These awards celebrate these enduring relationships between brands and their consumers. Congratulations to all the trusted brands, and may the legacy of trust and excellence continue to shine brightly in the years to come. „ READER’S DIGEST | SEPTEMBER 2023 96 100% VOTED BY CONSUMERS View all results at https://www.readersdigest.in/tb-winner/
QUOTABLE QUOTES Whether it’s beauty or fashion, there’s an obsession with youth. But if we’re lucky, we’re all going to get old. —Lauren Hutton, model and actor, in Byrdie Evil comes from a failure to think. It defies thought for as soon as thought tries to engage itself with evil and examine the premises and principles from which it originates, it is frustrated because it finds nothing there. That is the banality of evil. from left: hardik chhabra, yasir iqbal —Hannah Arendt, academic Anxiety is a trap; it’s not a trend to be followed. It’s no ot supposed to bee cool, it’s meantt to be fixed. —Masaba Gupta, designer and actor Autobiographies are always written as if the author had it all mapped out with perfect foresight, ignoring the risks and uncertainties at that time. This misleads, as much as those beautiful photographs of a past holiday abstract from the heat, the mosquitoes and the lack of connectivity. —Raghuram G. Rajan, economist I always hated the expression ‘being the voice of the victims’. They have voices; what they need is a megaphone. —Louise Arbour, former Supreme Court justice and United Nations high commissioner for human rights, in Maclean’s readersdigest.in 97
All in a Day’s WORK On the first day of school, I asked each of the kids in my first grade class to say what they wanted to be when they grew up. One boy said “artist.” “Oh, that’s wonderful!” I gushed. “What kind?” He replied, “Con.” —Sara Lidtke I was walking near New York’s Wall Street and popped into a deli. I ordered a sandwich and chatted with the owner. I asked whether being in the financial district ever led to his getting valuable tips from his informed customers. He paused his sandwich-making. My 12-year-old cousin asked my boyfriend, a teacher, how he sleeps at night knowing he’s giving kids homework. — @lemonmombley 98 september 2023 “Every day, those brokers come in here,” he said. “They get their bagels, sandwiches, doughnuts, coffee …” He pointed toward the door of his shop. “And every day, they’re out there on the sidewalk, pushing and shoving on a door that is clearly marked ‘pull’. ” —Steven Scharff, in the New York Times Before creating the private detective Sam Spade, author Dashiell cartoon by Terry Colon
TIM MACPHERSON/GETTY IMAGES Reader ’s Digest Hammett was himself a Pinkerton detective. The Sunday Long Read website ran a listicle Hammett wrote in 1923 for the magazine The Smart Set detailing some of the odd things he encountered on the job: ÊA man whom I was shadowing went out into the country for a walk one Sunday afternoon and lost his bearings completely. I had to direct him back to the city. ÊI know an operative who, while looking for pickpockets at a race track, had his wallet stolen. ÊA chief of police once gave me a description of a man, complete even to the mole on his neck, but neglected to mention that he had only one arm. When our pastor was in graduate school, the dorm cafeteria was not known for its culinary excellence. One evening, as he finished saying grace, his friend pointed to his dish and said, “Sorry, Steve, it didn’t work; it’s still there.” —Gordon Houston Three of us peppered the job candidate with questions regarding an opening in our department. We were pleased with his answers until we got to the end of the interview. When we asked the candidate whether he had any questions for us, he replied, “Yes, I have. What job am I interviewing for?” —Karin Green Reader’s Digest will pay for your funny anecdote or photo in any of our humour sections. Post it to the editorial address, or email: editor.india@rd.com FLY THE CHATTY SKIES Flight crews offer up safe travels and ad-libs: Ê “Hi, I’m Captain Amanda Smith. Yes, I’m a female pilot and, as a benefit, if we get lost on the way I won’t be afraid to stop and ask for directions.” Ê “Please refrain from smoking until you reach a designated smoking area, which, for California, is Las Vegas.” Ê “I’ve just been informed that my motherin-law has passed through security and will be boarding this flight shortly. If you all sit down fast, we should be able to get out of here before she arrives.” Ê “Most of you already have your seat belts fastened. Now we will demonstrate how you did that.” Ê “Ladies and gentlemen, I’d like to share some words with you that my father shared with me when I turned 18:: Pack your bags and d get out.” Ê “Please return you ur seats to theeir upright and d most uncom mfortable possition.” — bo o redpanda .com readersdigest.in 99
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COVER STORY Cover Story Reunited How DNA testing is bringing families together By Sarah Treleaven illustration by Nikki Ernst in 2018, jeff highsmith of texas started a Facebook page on behalf of his family. The page had one objective: to find Melissa Suzanne Highsmith, Jeff’s sister. At just 21 months, she had been abducted from Fort Worth by her babysitter 51 years earlier and the family was desperate for answers. In addition to the Facebook page, they made flyers with baby Melissa’s face and age-progression photos that indicated what she might look like now, in her 50s. Remarkably, they were convinced she was still alive all these years later and determined to be reunited with her. They knew that more tools were now available to help locate missing persons—such as genealogy kits with DNA tests. And so, the family bought kits from 23andMe, and then uploaded the results to a public database called GEDmatch. readersdigest.in 101
Reader ’s Digest sisters—one in the United Kingdom, the other in the Netherlands—met for the first time in 75 years after learning that they have the same father. There are countless stories. In Spain, a DNA database has been set up to identify the ‘stolen babies’ of the Franco dictatorship. Black Americans are using DNA tests to learn about family lineages disrupted by slavery. And stories about recent tragedies—including the devastating February earthquake in Syria and Turkey—have included details about how DNA was being used to reunite children with their parents. Much of the news coverage of DNA technology advances has focused on capturing a killer or identifying a longdead victim. But there’s another, equally compelling possibility: solving cold cases involving a living victim or missing person. In other words, someone Melissa Highsmith as a baby; and today, after being reunited with her mother and father. 102 september 2023 courtesy of jeff highsmith It seemed like a shot in the dark, but it worked. In November 2022, the Highsmith family found Melissa through a key DNA match: Melissa’s daughter. By pulling the threads of DNA matches, triangulating connections on a much bigger family tree, they zeroed in on the baby snatched so long ago. The family reunion was a joyful one. Melissa described being found as “the most wonderful feeling in the world.” The story of Melissa Highsmith and her family got global news coverage. But it’s only one of many cases of people being connected by DNA analysis. In Canada, siblings separately adopted from Romania when they were babies were reunited in their 50s when both took a DNA test to learn more about their biological health; turns out they had spent much of their lives within a 30-minute drive of each other. And two
Cover Story out in the world, location and identity unknown, who can be made aware of who they really are only through DNA. Law enforcement agencies have stepped up efforts to utilize it, and private businesses have also hopped on board, creating databases and putting the tools for DNA collection into the hands of consumers. Crucially, there’s also been a rise in citizen sleuths and investigative genetic genealogists, perhaps bolstered by our insatiable love for true crime, who are helping to bring ordinary families together again. According to Michael Marciano, director of research for the Forensic and National Security Sciences Institute (FNSSI) at Syracuse University’s College of Arts and Sciences in New York, there have been major advances in recent decades in how forensic DNA analysis is done. One has to do with sensitivity: our ability to detect lower amounts of DNA than ever before. That means researchers can now identify the DNA that’s deposited from someone touching an object or a person. It also means that mixed DNA samples (samples that include more than one person’s DNA) can be disentangled. “For example, a perpetrator enters a bank, picks up the pen where you fill out your deposit slips, writes a note and gives it to the teller,” says Marciano. “We know the perpetrator picked up the pen, but how many other people did? Their DNA might be on it too.” Now, it’s much easier to isolate the perpetrator’s genetic material. The second major development has to do with how results are analyzed. Software and computing power have improved sufficiently that we can create better models and more accurate statistics that help analysts interpret the samples they’ve collected. But still, to get a match, researchers must be able to link a sample to a DNA profile. “Forensics is about comparisons,” says Marciano. “If I have a fingerprint or DNA profile but nothing to compare it to, I can’t determine whose it is.” CONSUMERS ARE BUYING THE PROMISE TO UNCOVER THEIR HERITAGE AND MAKE CONNECTIONS. This is where databases of DNA profiles come in. Sometimes, those profiles are derived from court-mandated samples or samples collected from crime scenes or missing persons cases. Dean Hildebrand runs a forensics lab at B.C. Institute of Technology in Canada, and for decades he has done work for the government coroner service, running DNA samples that primarily come from missing persons or their families. Some are from remains found at scenes. Other times, he runs samples from the belongings of a missing person—a blanket the person couldn’t sleep without, or a pair of broken glasses left behind. readersdigest.in 103
Reader ’s Digest “We have an avalanche of those samples coming through all the time,” says Hildebrand. Many are attached to longcold cases. More than a decade ago, Hildebrand helped develop a missing persons database so law enforcement officials can log unidentified remains and the samples from missing persons. But lately, DNA searching has had little to do with foul play. Companies such as Ancestry.com, 23andMe, FamilyTreeDNA and MyHeritage have sold consumers on the idea of uncovering their heritage and making connections. It’s DNA analysis as a party game for the whole family. TWENTY YEARS AGO, WE COULDN’T SIMPLY SPIT IN A TUBE AND GET A REPORT ON OUR LINEAGE. And it’s very popular. By the start of 2019, according to MIT Technology Review, more than 26 million people had sent their DNA to one of four commercial ancestry and health databases. These products and their analysis are the result of technological advancement; 20 years ago, it wouldn’t have been possible for you and your family to spit in tubes, put them in the mail, then receive a report on your lineage. But they also reflect a growing social phenomenon: a fascination with draw- 104 september 2023 ing connections and insights into the self through the use of genetic material. “When you have a lot of good quality DNA, you can capture a lot of information about an individual,” says Nicole Novroski, assistant professor in the department of anthropology at the University of Toronto. She says that the databases of private ancestry or genealogy kit companies really grew, and then came the option to put your DNA sample on public databases allowing people to make additional connections. GEDmatch is one such public database. It allows users to compare samples across a broader spectrum than a single site, looking for matches with overlapping genetic material. The bigger the overlap, the more likely the match is a close relative such as a parent, child, grandparent or first cousin. “Sometimes, it’s a dead end,” says Novroski. “But the more people in the database, the more potential there is to make a connection, even if it’s a far-out one. Then it’s the genealogists’ and the investigators’ job to kind of rebuild all that missing information for these big family trees or kinship determinations.” Novroski says that the work of armchair detectives, uploading samples and combing through DNA matches, can yield a mixed bag of implications. “It’s doing a lot of good by solving cold cases,” she says. “But some people don’t like the information they find, especially when there’s been infidelity and things of that nature that were previously not known or discussed.”
china daily via reuters Cover Story The number of public and private databases for genetic identification is growing. In China, authorities keep a database that includes the DNA of parents of missing children, and of any children found by police. The system was thrust into the spotlight in 2021 when a family was reunited with their kidnapped son after 24 years—a case that also drew attention to the devastation of living with the uncertainty of a loved one’s disappearance. Before the family was reunited, the son’s father, Guo Gangtang, Guo Xinzhen was reunited with his family spent years criss-crossing the mas- 24 years after he was abducted at age 2. sive country in his determination to find his son, Guo Xinzhen, often sleep- investigators are now working in tandem ing outdoors and travelling by motor- with families and law enforcement to bike with flyers and a flag displaying his find missing persons and solve longson’s image. Without the help of DNA, standing mysteries. One famous recent he likely would never have found his example is when an IGG investigator, a son. According to Chinese media, thou- retired attorney with a PhD in biology sands of missing children have been named Barbara Rae-Venter, helped found thanks to the database. police track down California’s ‘Golden The desire to connect with family State Killer’, who had eluded authorimembers, missing or not yet discovered, ties for decades, by combing through has given rise to another phenomenon: DNA of the killer’s distant relatives. Investigative Genetic Genealogy (IGG). But IGGs are also being consulted to IGG takes all the newly public DNA infor- help families find long-lost relatives. In mation being uploaded to genealogy March 2022, Christa Hastie of Califorwebsites and combines it with other nia decided to help her mother, Vera, sources of public and private data— age 80, solve a family mystery: What such as Facebook profiles, marriage had happened to Vera’s sister, Rosemarecords and even worn paper copies of rie, when she vanished from the streets family trees—to infer relationships and of Montreal one winter day in 1954 at build out networks of people. the age of 14? Over six months, Vera It’s as much a social phenomenon as and Christa dedicated themselves to a technological one, and a wave of IGG searching for any and all information readersdigest.in 105
Reader ’s Digest related to Rosemarie’s disappearance. Christa already had a DNA profile on Ancestry, and now she added profiles to other major sites. She also got an investigative genealogist to help her zero in on the maternal matches. They found a DNA match close enough to be Rosemarie’s grandchild, but when Christa reached out to the person, they claimed not to know Rosemarie. Since Vera had been born in Germany, she and Christa enlisted the help of a genealogist with experience in DNA testing in that country. Carolin Becker put Vera’s grandmother’s surname into a database she had constructed, and her software found nine generations of 106 september 2023 ancestors. “A whopping 34 pages of tiny text,” says Christa. Becker cross-referenced the data with matches from DNA sites, ruling out anyone who wasn’t both a maternal and paternal match to Vera. And she helped Christa and Vera reach out to long-lost relatives, adding their DNA to the family tree and bolstering the search. Ultimately, more than 900 people fleshed out that family tree, dating to the 17th century. Using DNA Painter, a website with geneology research tools, Christa was able to re-confirm the specific match: Rosemarie’s granddaughter, who had been identified before. Christa reached out again, this time courtesy of christa hastie Vera (left, at age 11) with her sister, Rosemarie (at 13).
Cover Story with proof, and Christa and Vera connected with Rosemarie’s whole family. The truth was astonishing: Rosemarie had died years earlier, but her life hadn’t ended when she disappeared all those decades ago; she went on to have children and grandchildren. So while there would be no reunion, no explanation for Rosemarie’s disappearance, knowing she had not been murdered was a huge comfort to Vera. There was another upside to their search: Because the IGG helped them map out a comprehensive family tree, they were united with or introduced to relatives they now keep in touch with. Christa and Vera emerged from this exercise with an expanded sense of family. That’s exactly the promise of commercial DNA sites. And it’s easy to imagine any number of positive outcomes. We now have the capability to reunite lost family members separated by war or other circumstances. We can pinpoint the ancestral homes of adoptees or others whose biological connections have been severed. But now imagine a less rosy scenario: A family tries DNA kits as a fun activity, swabbing the inside of their cheeks while standing around the dinner table, and then eagerly awaits the results—only to have those kits show, unexpectedly, that one of the kids is not a biological match. “The more information we’re collecting from our DNA, the more we open this Pandora’s box of ethical considerations,” says Hildeb- rand. “Because there can be big surprises awaiting—some of them really great, and some shocking.” The privacy implications can also be astounding. At least one consumer site (GEDmatch) now has an opt-in clause allowing what you upload to be searched by law enforcement and the public. Since DNA is shared between biological family members, if a relative uploads theirs to one of these sites, they are potentially implicating you, because their DNA is linked to yours. So anyone who wants to, say, anonymously donate sperm or give up a baby for adoption could one day be identified—even if they never provide their own DNA sample. “I think it’s a very powerful thing,” says Hildebrand, adding that if only around 10 per cent of people add their DNA samples into one of these public or private databases, we would be able to identify every human on earth. And that comes with benefits and drawbacks. “As people get more into this, we’ll be closer to the point where you pretty much can’t hide,” he says. “It’ll be possible to link every family in the world.” For the Highsmith family, who were happily reunited in Texas after decades apart, DNA was the link. “Our finding Melissa was purely because of DNA, not because of any police/FBI involvement, podcast involvement, or even our family’s own private investigations or speculations,” notes one Facebook update. “DNA WINS THIS SEARCH!” readersdigest.in 107
HEALTH The Upsideof Anxiety How to worry well By Patricia Pearson i am an anxious traveller. I arrive at airports and train stations extra early. I triple-check all of my documents, feel a tightness in my jaw and a slight clench in my stomach until I’ve arrived where I’m going. Non-anxious people 108 september 2023 tease me for being a ‘nervous nelly’. I used to feel bad about it, seeing it as irrational, weak. Not anymore. I could write a book on this subject— actually, I did: A Brief History of Anxiety (Yours and Mine). I’ve learnt to respect my tendency to be hypervigilant. Recently, I was driving along a rural road at the start of a long trip that would mainly be on a large highway. I began feeling that something could go illustrations by Taryn Gee
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Reader ’s Digest wrong. What if I run out of gas? I worried, even though I still had plenty. So when I spied a gas station just before the on-ramp I was going to take onto the highway, I gave in to my angst and decided to fill up. Just in case. And that’s when I discovered that one of my front tires was badly deflated. If I’d overpowered my unease, talked down my anxiety, the tire would have blown at speed on the highway. My urge to plan ahead even though it wasn’t strictly necessary saved me from a potentially catastrophic scenario. a growing number of psychologists and neuroscientists are getting the message out that anxiety and other negative feelings have a role to play in our lives. Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, who recently published Future Tense: Why Anxiety Is Good for You (Even Though It Feels Bad), thinks our culture goes overboard in demonizing difficult emotions. She knows what it’s like to get swamped by anxiety. “I remember a period at work when there was a lot going on,” says the professor of psychology and neuroscience at the City University of New York’s Hunter College. Worries kept waking her up at 4 a.m. “It was like a yucky cloud of free-floating anxiety,” she says, and it kept her from falling back to much-needed sleep. Instead of trying to suppress this disconcerting feeling, however, DennisTiwary leaned into it. “If you sit with the anxiety, you have an opportunity 110 september 2023 to glean information,” she says. “For me, this one important ball I’d dropped at work finally rose to the surface of my mind. When I recognized this niggling thing, and gave it space, I learnt from it. I wrote down two or three things I could do to address it.” The next morning, she felt calmer. Psychologist Todd Kashdan, director of the Well-Being Lab at George Mason University in Virginia and co-author of The Upside of Your Dark Side, is a critic of what he calls “gung-ho happy-ology.” We don’t always have to be smiley and serene, or worry that there’s something wrong with us. Sometimes, he says, it’s right to worry. Fear heights? Good, WE CAN EXPERIENCE PERIODS OF DISTRESS WITHOUT BEING CATEGORIZED AS MENTALLY ILL. because you won’t be the person who falls off a cliff while taking a selfie. These experts wonder if the natural role that anxiety plays in our lives is being forgotten. For example, the World Health Organization ( WHO) announced in March 2022 that the prevalence of anxiety and depression had increased globally by 25 per cent over the year before (which was the earlier part of the pandemic). It called the finding “a wake-up call to all
Health countries to step up mental health services and support.” Do we know for certain this data represents a publichealth crisis? Or could it mean that millions of folks are quite rightly feeling uncertain, stressed out and afraid? The difference is important. For example, the US Department of Health and Human Services now recommends that family doctors do routine screenings for anxiety. It’s a positive development in that it recognizes the impact that anxiety disorders can have on those at risk. But what if initiatives like this funnel some of us into unnecessary treatments and medications? Could it make us lose sight of the benefits of our doubts and ‘what ifs’? We can experience healthy, often completely valid, periods of distress without being categorized as mentally ill, according to behavioural psychologists. Anxiety is an adaptive strategy in human evolution. It helps us to prepare for the uncertain future, “to remain vigilant,” DennisTiwary says. Anxiety prompts us to resolve projected unknowns by planning and imagining, by plotting out possible scenarios. “From an evolutionary point of view, anxiety is the best emotion to help us manage uncertainty because it forces us to run those ‘what-if’ simulations,” she says. “That’s what it’s good for.” Likewise, neuroscientist Wendy Suzuki of New York University (NYU) points out in her book Good Anxiety: Harnessing the Power of the Most Misunderstood Emotion that “if we simply approach anxiety as something to avoid, get rid of or dampen, we not only don’t solve the problem it’s alerting us to, but actually miss an opportunity to leverage the generative power of anxiety.” By generative, she means that it can prompt us to move out of a situation that’s no longer working, to find the energy we need to get unstuck. When we’re in an anxious state, the amount of dopamine in our brains increases, which prompts us to take action. In evolutionary terms, millions of years ago that might have meant looking for shelter to evade predatory animals. Today, it might mean leaving readersdigest.in 111
Reader ’s Digest a job because of a predatory boss. By not facing our anxiety, we lose its benefits and can make things worse. Case in point for me: hiding unopened envelopes from the tax department in a drawer—even if they could be just the routine updates that self-employed people like me receive—until I’ve turned it into a full-blown phobia. Says Alice Boyes, who has a PhD in clinical psychology and wrote The Anxiety Toolkit, t coping with unpleasant feelings by avoiding them just reinforces your insecurity, because you’re not getting better at solving the problem: “Over time, you will feel less and less competent.” the key is to manage unease before it overtakes us, like tending a garden so the 112 2 september 2023 weeds don’t spread. But how? According to NYU’s Suzuki, solutions include meditation, exercise, compassionate connection such as volunteering, access to nature and mentally reframing what we’re experiencing. For example, in her book Suzuki writes about a start-up entrepreneur who was beginning to feel daunted by everything that could go wrong in his high-stakes venture. This generated all kinds of “what if?” anxiety that kept him sleepless. He was, in psychological parlance, catastrophizing. After talking to a mentor, he found a new tool: a ‘reframe’. He turned ‘what ifs?’ into a goaldirected to-do list: “If this were to happen, then what could I do? Well, I could do X.” Dennis-Tiwary agrees that reframing is crucial. She points to a 2013 Harvard study in which socially anxious people were asked to speak in public. The researchers told some of them that having sweaty palms and a dry mouth or shaky knees was a good sign, a “positive coping tool” that optimizes the body for performance. The nervous speakers who heard this message had lower blood pressure and a slower heart rate. In other words, they shifted to that sweet spot where
Health they were ready for the challenge, but not distracted and alarmed by their own nervousness. That’s a pretty remarkable discovery. What it says is that we can reframe our fears so that they help us. Several years ago, I was the last in a long queue of speakers at a TEDx event. The theatre was over-airconditioned. I sat there shivering and growing tense, worrying that I would forget my speech about a book I’d recently written about death and dying. The longer this mind-body feedback loop of physical tension and mental anxiety went on, the worse it got, until SPENDING TIME IN GREEN SPACES CAN HELP RESTORE PSYCHOLOGICAL BALANCE. my legs felt so rubbery that I feared I would fall off the stage. It’s a miracle I made it through my talk. Knowing what I do now, I would have paced and stretched in the hallway to keep my body warmed up and my breathing calm while I waited, not unlike an athlete before an event. I still would have been nervous, but I would have been taking steps to manage it. “One of the key problems is that our perceptions about anxiety stop us from believing we can manage it,” says Dennis-Tiwary. She argues that anxiety isn’t the problem. “It is the messenger that tells us we’re facing uncertainty and need to rise to the challenge. Or it’s pointing us to ways that our life needs to change, or that we need support.” We can manage anxiety by “worrying well,” in Suzuki’s words. This includes meditation. It has been shown to calm the amygdala, the gland in our brain responsible for sending out alarm signals related to fear and anxiety. Exercise helps, too. Suzuki experimented with some of her students and found that even just a 10-minute workk out helped them feel less anxious before an exam. So, hit the gym, enjoy the dance floor or go for a hike. Just spending time in natural light and in green spaces, what the Japanese call ‘forest bathing’, can restore our sense of psychological balance. After all, we evolved in companionship with nature. Because humour increases oxytocin, a hormone that enhances social bonding and relatedness, I sometimes listen to stand-up comedy to calm down. Social connection, touch and a grounding perspective on others’ suffering can also soothe us, which is why volunteer and community involvement helps. These are all well-founded techniques that can keep us from spiralling. The trick, as Dennis-Tiwary says, is to listen to anxiety, then leverage it to make changes—just like I did that day I set off on my road trip. “Then,” she advises, “let it go. It’s a wave that you need to learn to ride.” readersdigest.in 113
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MY STORY Around the World in 1,000 Mammals Having met nearly one-fifth of all the warmblooded species on earth, a wildlife conservationist looks back on six of his most memorable encounters By Vivek Menon A sea otter swims belly-up while eating a mollusc in California, USA. readersdigest.in 115
Reader ’s Digest U nlike birdwatching, which has become fashionable and almost ubiquitous, mammal-watching is yet to achieve large-scale popularity. Most countries have their twitchers, tickers, photographers and voyeurs of the avian world. Mammalwatching, on the other hand, usually means going on safari and there are not too many people who travel with the intention of seeing all the world’s mammals. I am one of the lucky few to have met some of the most fascinating fauna inhabiting our planet, on and off, for over 35 years. Not that I was trying to hit a particular tally, but looking back, I’ve been fortunate enough to have encountered 1,000 mammal species and 3,500 species of birds. That’s nearly a fifth of all the mammals and almost a third of all the birds that exist! Given those numbers, and the fact that I am the author of Indian Mammals—the field guide first published nearly a decade ago, which is now out in a brand-new edition—I’ve often been asked what my favourite mammal is. But that’s like asking a parent to name their favourite child. Instead, for you, my reader, I’ll pick six experiences I’ve had on six different continents of our amazing planet. In my homeland of Asia nothing can compete with the Asian elephant, that gentle behemoth that I have worked to conserve for so many years. 116 september 2023 Watching a herd of elephants shredding a bamboo grove with great relish on the shores of the Kabini reservoir in Nagerhole, Karnataka can be a lifealtering experience. And the calves are delightful on quite another level. I remember a youngster who was rescued from a tea garden through which his family was traversing to reach the hills of Karbi Anglong. The little fellow had fallen into a ditch that had been dug to irrigate the shrubs. The herd must have tried rescuing him for several hours before moving on; its mother and relatives must have undergone terrible trauma. We brought the ‘orphan’ in, treated it for external wounds, de-stressed it with a sedative and then took him back in our ambulance to where our trackers had found the wild herd. Whether the infant, after being handled by humans, would be taken back into the fold was the big question. To boost his chances, the team attempted a never-tried-before tactic. They smeared elephant dung from the same family on the youngster, so that our human smells would not scare them off, before letting him down onto the forest floor. His frantic screams found an instant response: mighty rumbles could be heard from the matriarch and excited elephantine cheers from the rest of the family. Within moments the herd had encircled the vehicle, welcoming the lost calf back with reassuring trunk taps and strokes all over its body. One
PHOTO: (THIS AND PREVIOUS SPREAD) VIVEK MENON An adolescent mountain gorilla takes a moment off its life to contemplate the author in Volcanoes National Park, Rwanda. wonders if any other experience can rival the joy and relief of an elephant family reunited. In Africa, I would choose the mountain gorilla in Rwanda and Uganda. In 2008, I spent an hour with a group of these majestic apes and although we were told never to touch one, there was no stopping the gorillas. A young adolescent bounded up to me, pawed me lightly on the chest and then sunk to the ground, chin upon hand, contemplating this mysterious taxon he had just seen. I took a few quick photos, placed my camera on the ground and sank to a mimic pose. We sat there under the whirling mists of the Virunga, gazing at each other—close relatives of another kind, ruminating together. I thought of evolution, human progress and the inordinately gargantuan impact that the human footprint had on all life on earth, including this thoughtful mountain gorilla. In Europe, I would vote for the vast migrating herds of caribou that plough through the snow across the northern tundra with bands of nomadic Inuits in their wake. In Svalbard, the northern Arctic island off Norway that has been kept aside for research and conservation by the world community, I watched wild caribou grazing on the dwarf arctic flora proliferating along its slopes, which would all but disappear with the advent of fall. The massive ungulates were bent on their bellies, some readersdigest.in 117
down on their knees, blissfully gorging on the momentary manna. Their domesticated cousins, the reindeer, are probably the most familiar cervid among children, thanks to Santa Claus. I wondered how many youngsters even knew of the sparse and ice-laden northern climes that the caribou wandered. Down Under, I have seen a platypus, that conundrum of a creature, swimming happily in a waterbody. Neither mammal nor bird, it lays eggs but also suckles its young; it has a bill but fur instead of feathers—what a curiosity! I have also seen kangaroos of several species, as well as the rat-like quokka. However, nothing beats the time my wife and I encountered koalas in Kangaroo Island. What an enigmatic 118 september 2023 teddy-bear lookalike is this amazing marsupial. One of them slowly, in an almost comical, wobbly, clockwork fashion, wound its way down a eucalyptus tree, on which they spend much of their lives asleep, as we watched in astonishment. It came rather close to our heads, posed for a few photographs and then stuffed one large eucalyptus leaf slowly into its mouth and began to chew. When forest fires ravaged Kangaroo Island and its koala population plunged to critical levels, we prayed that our friendly individual had survived the flames and that its serene habitat would soon be restored to support its kith and kin. Sea otters would be my pick for the North American continent. I have seen bison and moose, a puma PHOTO: VIVEK MENON Caribou are large temperate zone deer that migrate long distances in the tundra to keep pace with changing climate and food sources. These deer were foraging in Svaalbad near the Arctic circle in Norway.
PHOTO: ASTER ZHANG LI My Story wandering just outside a large city in California, and wolves roaming in Yellowstone. However, watching a pod of otters swimming around clutching at crayfish, as we would a T-bone steak, and chewing meditatively as they lolled in the ocean was almost a spiritual experience. Otters are friendly and inquisitive and come up to the boat if you are in their vicinity, watching you with their large liquid eyes while going about their lives. I have seen them in Alaska and I have seen them in California. I have seen them play with molluscs before eating them and just as often with human debris that we scatter so carelessly in the sea—once, it was a scuba diver’s mask that the otter seemed to be contemplating putting on! In Latin America, my most memorable encounter was with a lowland tapir, a rhino-sized beast with a wiggly nose that I helped radio collar in the Pantanal. I was the photographer nominated to capture it waking up from the sedative we had administered. And wake up it did, rather suddenly and anxiously, as it tested what we had put on its neck by shaking itself a few times and stamping its foot in anger, sending a cloud of dust into my face. The next thing I knew, he was charging towards me. The author at Xishuangbanna Reserve in Yunnan, China I cowered behind a small excuse of a tree as it bore down, slapped me heavily on my left shoulder and ran into the overgrowth. For my excruciating bravery or silliness, the team named the animal after me, creating a terribly confused Brazilian tapir with an Indian name. That rounds up the six continents that I have been to and the amazing mammals that I have had the privilege of seeing up close. I have not been to Antarctica yet, so the seals will just have to wait for now! vivek menon is an award-winning wildlife conservationist and the founder of five environmental and nature conservation organizations. he spearheads the wildlife trust of india as its founder and executive director since 1998 and is the author of 10 wildlife books including the bestselling indian mammals: a field guide. readersdigest.in 119
DRAMA IN REAL LIFE The Deadly Swamp Losing his arm to an alligator was just the start of a hiker’s three-day ordeal By Derek Burnett illustrations by Mark Smith 120 september 2023
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Reader ’s Digest T he stars burn brilliant over Lake Manatee as the man backstrokes through the dark water. He’s exhausted and frustrated by his lack of progress, but he believes he can swim all night if he must. Then a bristling intuition creeps upon him and he sits up in the water and peers to his left. Just two feet away lurks the unmistakable shape of an alligator’s snout, the slitted eye yellowy in the starlight. The man whirls onto his stomach and flings out his hands to swim, but the gator strikes, seizing his right forearm in its teeth. The predator twists its powerful body, snapping the man’s arm back at the elbow. For a moment the man’s world goes black, as if lightning has struck inside his head. Then, still firmly holding its prey, the reptile dives, looking to drown its victim in the silent midnight depths of the lake. the way eric merda saw it, the past two weeks had been one long, crazy battle with God. The 43-year-old father of seven had always had his struggles—addiction, street fights, run-ins with the law—but things had recently become clear. For one thing, he’d come to accept that his relationship with the mother of five of his children was over. For another, he’d begun to realize he was running with a dangerous crowd. Intelligent, creative and spiritual, a self-described weirdo, Merda knew he’d been on the wrong track. God was telling him to clean up his act and live up to his gifts. So he’d been on a sort of ascetic quest. By day, he’d toil beneath the Florida sun in and around his home base of Bradenton, installing and repairing sprinkler systems as he’d done for 25 years. By evening, he’d wander and explore. For the first time, he had no woman or children to come home to. He spent much of his surplus time 122 september 2023 on Siesta Key Beach, where he gave himself daring challenges: How far out into the ocean can I go at night? How long can I float face-up with my head tipped back so far that my eyes stay in the saltwater? For a while now, there had been a thin line between embracing life and courting death. Which was it going to be? Sometimes he slept unsheltered on the sand of Siesta Key. One morning he awoke to see litter scattered along the beach, and felt God telling him that he ought to clean it up. He began collecting trash. It felt good, so he made a habit of picking up litter wherever he saw it, not just on the beach. It became a kind of compulsion. On Monday, 18 July 2022, he had a job up in the rural portions of Manatee County. He was finished by late afternoon. Time to explore. Near an intersection of two country byways, he spotted a dirt road with a sign that read Lake Manatee Fish Camp. He
Drama in Real Life nosed his old white work van down into the area, past a little country store and some folks pitching horseshoes, and followed the road. It ended at a boat ramp onto Lake Manatee, a man-made reservoir covering about 10 square kilometers, ringed by wild swampland. Trash lay strewn along the roadside. Merda jumped out of his van, leaving his phone and keys inside, and started collecting the garbage into piles. After a while, a thought occurred to him—I’ve been working all day. Nobody’s forcing me to pick up trash. I’m going to see what’s in these woods. With the abandon of a schoolboy, he ran off into the trees. Before long, he encountered a seemingly impenetrable thicket of brush, thorns and vines. Seemingly impenetrable: a nice challenge. He charged into it and did battle for many long minutes. It was exhausting, but he pushed on. When at last he emerged into a grove of scrawny orange trees, he was sweaty, cut up, and tired. He had no idea where he was in relation to the lake. He’d been pushing through the thicket for hours, and now all he wanted was to get back to his van and go home. He spent another couple of hours wandering among the orange trees, which were laid out in an endless grid. No sign of civilization. The lake and readersdigest.in 123
Reader ’s Digest his van certainly weren’t out here in an orange grove, so he reentered the woods and soon found himself mucking around in swamp water. There seemed no way out of this bog. He laboured for hours as the sun sank. Tall, thick grasses and thorns clogged his way; mud and water filled his boots. His feet hurt so badly that he took his boots off and carried them— but the twigs and brambles lacerated THE ALLIGATOR SANK ITS TEETH INTO HIS ARM AND DRAGGED HIM UNDERWATER. his soles, so he stopped and pulled the boots back on. He tried to navigate by the sun but kept losing it. Each time he picked out a landmark or chose a beeline course, he became hopelessly lost again after just a few minutes. Darkness was falling when at last he reemerged onto the shore of the lake. There across the water stood the boat launch, now empty, and a little highway bridge, just about 400 metres away as the crow flies—or as the duck swims. He was beaten, sore and thirsty. Reenter the swamp? Out of the question. Who knew where he’d end up? He’d have to swim for it across the lake. The water was surprisingly cold, especially as it deepened. He started out paddling strongly for the opposite 124 september 2023 bank, drinking lake water to quench his awful thirst. After a few minutes he realized he’d never make it with his clothes on. He shed every stitch, letting his work duds sink to the bottom of the dark lake. He swam on, but some strange current prevented his progress. He was a good swimmer, yet he somehow kept diverging from his goal. He’d point himself at the boat launch, swim a few strokes, lift his head and find that he was way off course. It was maddening, but he refused to surrender to emotion. In a fistfight, the guy who comes into it panicking, with no self-control, he’s the one who gets whooped. The sun disappeared and the stars came out, and still he struggled, alternating between a backstroke and a crawl. And that’s when he saw the alligator. Before he could swim a stroke, before he could save himself, before he could let out a scream, the creature struck like a snake. It sank its teeth into Merda’s forearm, breaking it at the elbow and dragged him underwater. Merda went into fight mode. He flung his other arm around the gator’s middle, clutching at its heaving belly as he kicked his feet to keep from going to the bottom. Man and beast resurfaced and Merda gulped air—but just as quickly the gator yanked him under again. The third time, the alligator did what alligators do: It barrelrolled its entire body in a vicious coup de grâce, and Merda felt the flesh of his arm tearing away as the limb was
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Reader ’s Digest severed. The creature disappeared into the darkness, carrying Merda’s forearm with it. No pain yet, only terror. His one thought was to get out of the water. He swam furiously, paddling with the stump, and came to rest at the lake’s edge not far from where he had entered. He paused for a time, heaving, in the partially submerged grasses. Nearby stood an enormous tree on drier ground. He dragged himself over to it and stood screaming for help across the desolate lake. Then he realized, I’m the only one who can get myself out of this. Just like I’m the only one who can fix every other part of my life. He posted up next to the trunk of the tree and waited for dawn. When the pain arrived, it was exquisite. sudden drop-offs stymied his progress. He howled in pain when he blundered into a stick that poked into the exposed muscle of his right arm. Chest-deep in the murky water, he looked behind him, and there, 100 feet away, stared the bumpy eyes of the alligator—or anyway an alligator—silently following him. He moved to shallower water and the gator eyes sank beneath the surface. All through the long day, as he struggled along, the creature dogged him. Maddeningly, thanks to the meandering in the morning, he spotted two airplanes. Each time, he climbed up the tree and waved and hollered, which did him no good. He was stark naked in the wilderness, bereft of his right forearm and with nothing to use for a signal. Again, he started pushing through the tall grasses and immediately became lost anew, wandering in circles. He decided the best course was to reenter the water and wade the lake’s edge, following its 400 metre curve until it reached the boat launch. But that proved nearly impossible too. Submerged logs, tallgrasses, saw grasses, overhanging brush and shoreline, the boat launch appeared farther away than ever. As night fell, he happened upon a concrete structure at the lake’s edge, no doubt part of the reservoir system. Hungry, thirsty and in agony, he haltingly climbed onto it, stretched out and slept. He awoke in darkness with the horrifying awareness that he was only a couple of feet above the swamp water with his left arm dangling off the structure like a second proffered morsel. That was enough. He wanted out of the swamp. He wanted dry land. Up till then, Merda had been ambivalent about life and death. Now he 126 september 2023 HUNGRY, THIRSTY AND IN AGONY, HE STRETCHED OUT AND SLEPT.
Drama in Real Life could hear God telling him, “All right. After this, I don’t want to hear any more. If you choose to die, you choose to die. If you choose to live, then good luck to you, because it’s not going to be easy.” He’d always figured his concept of God would get him kicked out of most churches: By his philosophy, since we’re all made in God’s image, God is part of each of us, and each of us is part of God. Thus, to have faith in God is to have faith in oneself, and to quarrel with God is to quarrel with oneself. And he was done quarrelling with himself. In the dark, he blundered his way through an eternity of 10-foot-tall grasses whose roots lay beneath knee-deep water. Disoriented again. The sun dawned on a new day, his third out here, and before long the Florida heat set the swampland to broiling. Green horseflies swarmed his injury where the naked muscle twitched and the bare bone gleamed. The land was so soggy that even when he wasn’t standing in water, he could scoop at the earth with his good hand and a little puddle of filthy drinking water would fill the depression he’d made. He nibbled at some tiny purple flowers growing throughout the swamplands. He began to fade, utterly spent and bloodied. But he’d made his decision. He’d chosen life, even if it meant the pain and frustration of endless struggle. Whenever his fatigue overwhelmed him, he pushed over the tall grasses to make a mat on which to sleep. His quest was dry land, and at last he found it—only to discover it overwhelmingly choked with thorny readersdigest.in 127
Reader ’s Digest vines. It was either the swamp or this endless wall of thorns—no getting around it, over it or under it. He must push through. It’s just a little pain, he told himself. You aren’t even going to remember it once it’s gone. So he dragged himself into the bramble, crab-walking at times, getting sliced and punctured, pausing periodically to psych himself up for more pain. in late afternoon, he came across a brown quart beer bottle lying in the mud like a signal from civilization. He knew now that he was saved. How 128 september 2023 far can somebody throw a beer bottle—40 feet? That meant just 40 feet to the road. You can go another 40 feet. He did, and when he exited the thorns he found that he was staggering alongside the road near the turnaround spot for the boat launch. On the other side of a wire fence, a man stood beside a red car. “Hey! Hey!” Merda yelled. The man goggled at the stranger, naked save for the blood and mud that covered his body. “What are you doing back there?” he said. “A gator got me!” Merda answered,
Drama in Real Life waving his stump. “You got any water?” “Holy … ! I don’t have any water, but I’ll get you some, for sure.” The fence was the final obstacle between him and civilization. Merda had had enough. He lay down in the weeds on the swamp side of the divider and waited for the EMTs, who would cut the fence wire and carry him over to the helicopter that would whisk him away to the rest of his life. merda spent nearly three weeks in a Sarasota hospital. His wound had become infected in the swamp, so surgeons removed considerably more than the alligator had taken, leaving him with only about six inches of arm past the shoulder. It’s incredible that he didn’t bleed to death—but, by some miracle, he says, the wound barely bled. He ate like a machine in the hospital, and sent a buddy out for one entree not on the kitchen’s menu: gator bites. On his release, he tried to return to work. “I can still dig a hole,” he says. “But it’s with one hand, very slowly.” It wasn’t practical to take up his old trade. So now he’s casting about for some way to make a living while sharing the things he’s learnt. Consult? Teach? Write a children’s book? Take up public speaking? Try to become a comedian? He says he wants to inspire people to think: If a skinny little dude from Sarasota, Florida, can fight a gator and walk out of the swamp, why am I afraid to open my own business, go to college or get a contractor’s licence? The road ahead won’t be easy. But then again, that was part of the deal with God. Sometimes he feels at a loss, as if his dreams sound too ambitious, too ridiculous. But, Merda says with the wisdom of a man who has done battle with the divine, “It sounded pretty ridiculous that I was going to make it out of that swamp alive too.” A Real Head-Scratcher Scientists recently discovered the oldest written sentence in the world’s first alphabet—and it describes an issue that still plagues us today. The message, carved into a tiny ivory comb, reads, “May this tusk root out the lice of the hair and the beard.” smithsonian magazine readersdigest.in 129
DEPARTMENT OF WIT g o l a t a My C s e k o J d a D of Once your kid stops laughing at “W hy didn’t Han S olo enjoy his steak dinner? It was C he wie!” it’s time to move on By Gary Rudoren from MCSWEENEYS.NET Photographs by Dale May I still remember the first time I told my then-six-year-old son, Lev, that a clam makes calls with its ‘shell phone’. The laugh of recognition when he first got the joke was a moment I won’t ever forget. When I told it a second time in front of his friends Henry and Amir, I could see how proud he was that I had made his friends laugh. Excuse the bragging, but I was the cool dad. 130 september 2023
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reader’s digest By Lev’s ninth birthday party, things had begun to change. After the seventh or eighth time I asked him “What do you call someone with no body and no nose?” he dismissively rolled his eyes. “I get it, Dad ...” “... Nobody knows!” “Stop it, Dad!” I immediately shifted gears into food puns, reminding him and his friends that melons have weddings because they ‘cantaloupe’, but I got 132 2 september 2023 nothing except head shakes and averted eyes. I’m pretty sure I heard him say “Sorry about my dad” to his friends as they all ran off to play on their phones together. I used to be the life of every kids party. When I was only an uncle, all the toddlers loved my ‘got your nose’ bit. I was the one who always had a knockknock joke at the ready. (“‘Knock, knock.’ ‘Who’s there?’ ‘Nobel.’ ‘Nobel who?’ ‘Nobel, so I knock-knocked.’”)
robynmac/getty images (3) Department of Wit Other parents loved that I could show up at any event and distract their kids with age-appropriate, groan-worthy wordplay, such as the ever-popular “Did you hear about the guy who froze to death at the drive-in? He went to see Closed for the Winter.” Sure, there were other dads with their bits, but I felt as if no one ever stole my crown. My wife long ago tuned me out, but she knew that my never-ending quest for laughter from kids, no matter how unashamedly, was in my blood. I believe as the kids got older, they took their cues to be embarrassed by me from their mom’s head-shaking disdain. We’re working through the issue. I tell you all this because after a lot of soul-searching, I believe it’s time. My kids aren’t grown and out of the house, but I’ve come to realize that I’ll never be able to compete with my past success. I need our relationship to grow. I need to be able to talk to my children about topics other than how a witch’s car goes ‘broom, broom’. Thus, I’m offering my entire catalogue of jokes for sale on the open market. Puns, threatening tickling bits, knock-knock jokes, goofy faces, fart noises not from my butt, double takes and even borderline inappropriate spit-take lines. I’m done with them all, and it feels like the right time to sell my legacy to some deserving new dad. The catalogue g includes my most P U NS , K N O C K- K N O C K J O K E S , G O O F Y FAC E S , D O U B L E TA K E S .. . I’ M D O N E W IT H THEM ALL. famous work—including my killer aside at my days-old nephew’s bris, “After my bris, I couldn’t walk for like a year!” and my faux indignant kindergarten graduation routine, “Well, now he better get himself a job!” I could go on. As with all great works of art, my collection is priceless. But I can tell you that the first time you get your toddler to laugh at the line “I don’t trust stairs. They’re always up to something,” you’ll feel it’s worth any price tag. from MCSWEENEYS.NET. WHY I’M SELLING MY CATALOG OF DAD JOKES by gary rudoren © 2021. And for My Next Act ... Did the person who invented the phrase “one-hit wonder” invent any other popular phrases? @honeycuttart readersdigest.in 133
CULTURE Meet the music custodians working to save recordings from destruction— or oblivion E B A T E H T By Simon Button 134 september 2023
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D eep in the vaults of the British Library lies a veritable treasure trove for lovers of popular music. Housed across two sites in London and Yorkshire are more than 3,50,000 CDs and 2,50,000 vinyl LPs, around a quarter of a million 78 RPM discs, and some 2,00,000 reel-to-reel and cassette tapes. All genres and eras are covered, from jazz to heavy metal, from the 1920s to the 2020s. Throw in an array of wax cylinders— the first commercially available medium for music—along with old issues of music magazines, books, newspaper clippings, catalogues and recorded interviews, and you have a vast collection that Andy Linehan, the library’s former Curator of Popular Music Collections, is understandably proud of. The Popular Music Collections team is not only preserving music but also honouring history. “One of the British Library’s functions is to be the cultural memory of the nation,” Linehan says. “We do that with books, journals and newspapers, and it’s absolutely right that we should also do it with music.” The collection relies on donations from record labels, distributors, artists and members of the public. As Linehan notes: “If you publish a book, “ I F A N YO N E C A N 136 6 september 2023 E G S A LVA newspaper, or magazine in the UK, you’re legally obliged to send a copy to the British Library. But that law does not apply to sound recordings.” Among the treasures are an 1890 recording of a fundraising appeal by pioneering nurse Florence Nightingale and a cassette tape that was sold at gigs in the 1980s by a British high-school band called On A Friday, whose members eventually formed Radiohead. There are also old blues 78s, rare LPs from the 1950s with covers designed by a pre-fame Andy Warhol, and promotional copies of Beatles’ singles that had only a couple of hundred pressings. Music fans can listen to much of the collection at the British Library’s Reading Rooms, and some selections have been posted online (sounds.bl.uk). To preserve the collection, the team works tirelessly digitizing music. “So long as it is stored correctly, most media remains stable, but certain types of tape can deteriorate faster than others,” Linehan explains. “But if anyone can salvage anything from a battered old tape, it’s our engineers. They have the know-how as well as the equipment to play back almost everything.” Private companies and specialist record labels are also doing their part to ensure music is safe-guarded E D R E O T L D TA T A B A P E, IT ’S OUR E N G I N E E ” . RS ALL PHOTOS: @BRITISH LIBRARY BOARD Reader ’s Digest
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Reader ’s Digest for generations to come. One of them is Iron Mountain Entertainment Services (IMES), which has branches in London, Paris, Belfast and several cities in the United States. It does digital transfer and preservation of music and other media. Kelly Pribble leads the company’s Media Recovery Technology Program. Projects he has worked on include a partnership with the Bob Dylan Archive to save more than 60 of the singer’s recordings that suffered from so-called adhesion syndrome. “With this problem the tape is in a state of decay or degradation and starts binding to itself,” Pribble explains. “If you don’t know this is happening, you can permanently damage the tape the moment you try to rewind or play it.” Having already developed a way to safely unbind affected tapes, he was able to apply the process to the Dylan tapes and archive the entire collection. Pribble also helped Mariah Carey with her 2020 album The Rarities, going through countless master tapes of unreleased songs from the last three decades. And IMES partnered with Prince’s estate to preserve and digitize all the unreleased music from the prolific artist’s vault. “IT ’S ALL ABOUT G N I LO O K AND LET 138 september 2023 Over at Cherry Red Records in London, chairman Iain McNay describes the record label’s efforts to preserve and release music as “historical rescue and recovery.” “When we buy the tapes there is an initial process of discovery because we know roughly what we’re going to get, but there are all kinds of things that aren’t listed,” he says. “Then it’s about looking after all that material and letting it see the light of day. We’re music fans who are also custodians.” Musicians are often involved in the process. Mark King, of the British dance-rock group Level 42, recently helped promote a 10-CD boxset that included four of the band’s albums, singles remixes, B-sides and bonus tracks. And the sets are handled with great care. “We try and use experts in the field who are really engaged and want the releases to best reflect what a real fan would like,” McNay says. Mastering engineer Alan Wilson from British music label Western Star Records recently went through nearly 2,000 items from legendary English producer Joe Meek, which were acquired by Cherry Red. They included songs Meek worked on with Tom Jones and Ray Davies of The Kinks. E H T M A R T E E T RIA F A H T E TING IT SE L F O D T A H Y . G ” I L E
Culture The tapes, which date back more than 50 years, had been carefully stored, otherwise they might have deteriorated too much to be usable. But they were dirty and had mould on them, so they had to be painstakingly cleaned before they could be transferred from analogue tape to digital files. Selected tracks were then restored, remastered and released commercially. It was a mammoth task, but Wilson was thrilled with the assignment. “It’s a massive chunk of British rock-androll history and important in so many ways because Joe Meek was such an innovative engineer and producer. He beat the music industry at its own game on a shoestring budget in a flat above a leather-goods shop.” Another British company that curates and reissues carefully restored recordings is Demon Music Group. “I’m a big music fan and I’m disappointed when things are reissued and they don’t sound or look up to scratch,” says head of product and marketing Ben Stanley. “We’re all about creating premium, definitive versions.” Casual purchases of CDs may be on the decline, possibly because buyers have switched to streaming music services. “But then you have a person who wants to own a 33-CD Donna Summer boxset,” Stanley adds, referring to Encore, an epic collection from the ‘Queen of Disco’ that was released by the company’s Driven By The Music label and took more than three years to compile. “There are huge challenges in bringing these things to market, whether it’s dealing with estates, record companies, licensing issues, publishers, etc.,” he says. “But the heritage and history of popular music is so important. People will still be playing The Beatles’ Revolverr and David Bowie’s Station to Station in 50 or 100 years and it’s important they’re taken care of.” Pribble at IMES agrees: “We can go to a museum and see a book or painting that is 500 years old and is in amazing shape, but we have music recorded on formats 40 years ago that is rapidly degrading. It keeps me up at night pondering how I can help ensure that all of this recorded history is saved.” For the Love of a Laugh Men will confess to treason, murder, arson, false teeth, or a wig. How many of them will own up to a lack of humour? F R A N K M O O R E C O L BY, E N C YC LO PA E D I A E D I TO R A N D E S S AY I S T I remain just one thing, and one thing only, and that is a clown. It places me on a far higher plane than any politician. C H A R L I E C H A P L I N , A C TO R , F I L M M A K E R , C O M P O S E R readersdigest.in 139
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HEART Bedtime Stories at the HUNTING CAMP Even grown men in the wilderness love to be read to when the lights go out by L.W. Oakley from the globe and mail Illustration by Cristian Fowlie AT NIGHT AFTER everyone climbs into their bunks and the lights are turned off, something unusual occurs at our hunting camp—something that I believe never happens in any other hunting camp anywhere: I read a bedtime story by flashlight to grown men until everyone falls asleep. This ritual began about five years ago on a moose-hunting trip. One night while we lay on our army cots in the tent that we used back then and readersdigest.in readersdigest.in 141 141
Reader ’s Digest talked quietly in the dark, I raised my voice slightly and asked, “Does anyone want to hear a bedtime story?” To this day, whether we’re there to hunt, fish, work or just relax, I tell a story every night we’re at our camp at Mitten Lake, about 60 kilometers northwest of Kingston, Ontario. The ritual is always the same: everyone must be in bed and all lights must be off except my flashlight. MY FIRST BEDTIME STORY WAS ONE OF THE GREATEST SURVIVAL TALES OF ALL TIME: ERNEST SHACKLETON’S EXPEDITION TO ANTARCTICA. I tell one story per night in a small room with three sets of double bunks. I read from one of the top bunks in the corner while resting my back on a pillow propped up against the wall. These days, I use a headlamp, which I put on before I climb up my ladder in the dark. The light allows me to hold my book with both hands while reading. But when I started out, there was no book. My first bedtime story was one of the greatest survival tales of all time: Ernest Shackleton’s 1914–16 expedition 142 september 2023 to Antarctica. When his ship, Endurance, was destroyed after becoming trapped in the ice, the British explorer led his crew of 27 men to Elephant Island. Facing imminent starvation, Shackleton and a smaller group sailed a tiny whaling boat across the open ocean in search of help. Eventually, everyone was rescued. Another night I asked everyone if they wanted to hear the story of how Satan ended up in Hell. Then I told the tale of Paradise Lost, the epic poem written by the English poet John Milton. It’s the story of man’s first disobedience, the battle for Heaven, the creation of Hell, the temptation of Adam and Eve, the eating of the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge and, of course, the loss of paradise. Sometimes while telling a story like Paradise Lost I can’t remember exactly what happened, what was said or who said it. So like any good storyteller, I make it up as I go along. On yet another night I started by saying, “I’m going to tell what may be the greatest story ever told, because storytellers have been sharing this one for more than 3,000 years.” Then I recounted the ancient Greek myth of Helen of Troy, the woman with a face that launched a thousand ships. It begins with a golden apple and ends with a wooden horse, and includes great warriors like Ajax, Achilles and Hector, who join the fight after Helen is carried away by a Trojan prince. Eventually, I ran out of stories. So one
Heart night I asked if I could read the next bedtime story from a book. I asked because you don’t just bring a book to a hunting camp and start reading it out loud. I knew the first story from a book had to be a good one, so I chose the short story To Build a Fire by Jack London, an adventure that pits a man against the wilderness. They liked it so much that I later read from two of London’s novels, The Call of the Wild and White Fang. Each night, I read for five-minute intervals. Then I stop and ask the same question every time: “Is anyone still awake?” By then some people are snoring, but usually at least one person answers: “I’m still listening.” ALL GOOD STORIES LIVE ON FOREVER. THEY BECOME A PART OF THE PEOPLE WHO HEAR THEM. I’ve read stories like The Short Happy Life of Francis Macomber by Ernest Hemingway and The Bear by William Faulkner. Not because both men won the Nobel Prize in literature, but because they wrote about hunting and wild animals. We usually discuss the story the next morning while preparing and eating breakfast. People recount what they remember and what they liked. Someone usually recalls at what part of the story he fell asleep. A person who stayed awake longer may say something like, “You missed the good part about how he panicked and froze to death after he couldn’t start the fire.” Today, storytelling for adults is gradually disappearing, like the wild animals that inspired early hunters to tell stories around the warmth of open fires. Sadly, screens have replaced the storyteller. I shouldn’t have been surprised the bedtime stories were so well-liked by my hunting friends, now all in their 60s. Maybe the tales reminded them of the stories their mothers and fathers read to them when they were children. All good stories, like the ones I read at our hunting camp, will live on forever because they become a part of the people who hear them. They remain in your memory because as you listen you use your imagination to bring the tales to life. You feel the emotions and experience the adventures like the characters in the stories. From time to time, you retell them to others and even to yourself. They become real to you; it’s as if you were in the stories too. On those storytelling nights, sitting upright in the dark in my bunk, I keep reading until no one answers when I ask if anyone is still awake. Then I mark the page, put away my book, turn off my headlamp and go to sleep. © 2022, LARRY OAKLEY. FROM EVEN GROWN MEN ON A HUNTING TRIP LOVE A BEDTIME STORY WHEN THE LIGHTS GO OUT, THE GLOBE AND MAIL (3 NOVEMBER 2022), THEGLOBEANDMAIL.COM readersdigest.in 143
ENVIRONMENT For the residents of Schoonschip, the chance to go swimming is just a few steps from home. 144 september 2023
Reader ’s Digest FLOATING LIFE A unique Dutch neighbourhood is showing how cities can prepare for rising sea levels By Shira Rubin from the washington post Photos by Ilvy Njiokiktjien readersdigest.in 145
Reader ’s Digest M their steel foundational poles with the movement of the water below. “It feels like living at the beach, with the water, the saltiness of the air and the seagulls,” she says. “But it also feels special because, initially, we were told that building your own neighbourhood, it’s just impossible.” A long list of European lawmakers, urban planners, entrepreneurs and citizens have visited Schoonschip to see the real-life manifestation of a once science-fiction idea. De Blok, a Dutch reality-TV director, has shown them Schoonschip’s patchwork of environmentally focused social projects: lush floating gardens beloved by the water birds; a community Marjan de Blok with centre featuring floating archiher family in her tecture diagrams; and a nearby floating home. on-land vegetable patch. But the homes’ industrial-chic design and their immediate proximity to the city, she says, are what surprise visitors most. Schoonschip can serve as a prototype for the more than 600 million people—close to 10 per cent of the world’s population—who live near the coast and less than 10 metres above sea level. As the effects of climate change intensify, sea levels are forecast to rise somewhere between 30 and 240 centimetres this century, and storms are expected to increase in frequency and intensity. In the summer of 2021, at least 220 people died in arjan de Blok readjusts her body weight as she treads along the jetty linking a floating community on a canal off the River IJ. Through the whipping winds, she shouts greetings to many of her neighbours. On the day I visited in autumn 2021, heavy rains and 80 kilometeran-hour winds put Amsterdam, just a short ferry ride away, on alert. But in the northern neighborhood of Schoonschip, life carried on mostly as usual. De Blok visited with neighbours while the homes glided up and down 146 september 2023
Schoonschip is setting an example for communities coming to grips with rising sea levels around the world. Germany and Belgium from a oncein-400-year rain event. In Zhengzhou, China, 630 millimetres of rain fell in one day, killing nearly 300 people. By the end of this century, the kind of intense precipitation events that would typically occur two times per century will happen twice as often, and more extreme events that would occur once every 200 years would become up to four times as frequent, according to a study published last year by a team at the University of Freiburg. T he Netherl ands has long contended with water—nearly a third of the country is below sea level and close to two-thirds is flood-prone. Since the Middle Ages, Dutch farmer collectives have drained water to make room for agricultural Dummy Dummy land. The groups evolved into regional water boards that keep the land dry using canals, dikes, dams and sea gates. Water management is such a normal part of Dutch discourse that many citizens are surprised to be asked about it, assuming it is common in every country. The Dutch have historically lived on water. As international commerce flourished in the 17th century, foreign tradespeople moored their boats to the land to sell their goods. In the 1970s, people started converting boats into homes. And over the past decade, Dutch water management strategists have sought to embrace, rather than resist, the rising sea levels brought on by climate change, with floating communities emerging in Amsterdam, Rotterdam and Utrecht. readersdigest.in 147
Reader ’s Digest These homes are relatively low-tech, constructed off-site and weighted by basins filled with recycled, waterresistant concrete, then pulled across the water by tugboats and moored in place. Heavy pieces such as pianos are counterweighed with bricks on the opposite side of the house, and interior design is carried out in line with the Dutch principle of gezelligheid, or ‘coziness’. Many rooms are outfitted with modular furniture that can be easily disassembled or reassembled to accommodate life changes such as the birth of children. “It ’s evident that sea waters will rise, and that many big cities are really close to that water,” says Schoonschip resident Sascha Glasl, Eelke Kingma helped design Schoonschip’s renewable-energy grid. 148 september 2023 whose architectural firm, Space & Matter, designed several of the community’s homes. “It’s amazing that not more of this innovation and building on water is being executed.” De Blok, who has no engineering, architecture, or hydrological training, says that she never intended to spearhead a movement in floating urban development. In 2009, she had become disenchanted with her life in Amsterdam. She worked all the time, bought things she rarely used and had little time to see friends. On a cold winter day, she visited a solar-paneled floating event venue called GeWoonboot as part of a series of short documentaries she was shooting on sustainable living. She was stunned by its contemporary feel, its immediacy to the water and the city, and its use of experimental sustainability practices. “Before I visited that boat, I wasn’t really conscious that I didn’t like the way I was living,” she says. When she asked friends if they had interest in building a floating community, she was unprepared for the deluge of responses. She cut off the list at 120 people. She scouted waters around Buiksloterham, a 100-hectare, postindustrial area that had been largely abandoned after manufacturers—including Shell and the Fokker airplane factory—left the city for lower-wage countries in the second part of the 20 th century. When she learnt that
Schoonschip has created Dummy Dummya strong sense of community. Here, residents hang decorative lights among the houses. the city was planning to develop tens of thousands of housing units in the area, she realized, We could be pioneers here. In Buiksloterham, the 22-storey Shell tower has been rebranded as the Amsterdam Dance and Music Tower, with dance clubs, a revolving restaurant and an observation deck. The grassy Overhoeks Promenade, which served as a gallows from the 15th to 18th century, hosts the hulking, modernistic Eye Film Museum. The NDSM wharf is peppered with artist collectives, vintage shops and a luxury hotel. When ‘Schoonschip’ is made into a verb, ‘to do schoonschip’, it means ‘to cleanse’. Looking to make a different kind of community, De Blok had all residents sign a manifesto committing them to constructing, insulating and finishing their homes with eco-friendly materials such as straw, burlap and bamboo. They also informally signed up for eating together, swimming together and conducting their lives largely in common view of one another, with curtains only rarely drawn. They use a vibrant WhatsApp group to request almost any service or borrow virtually any item from neighbours, including bikes and cars. The neighbourhood feels like an extended block party mostly because many of the residents are actually De Blok’s friends, or friends of friends, including colleagues from the TV and entertainment industry. Most of them joined the project in their 20s and 30s, readersdigest.in 149
Reader ’s Digest when they had no kids and ample time to invest in building a community. Twelve years later, those young couples have young families. During the summer months, their children jump out of their bedroom windows directly into the water below. On clear winter nights, the neighborhood gleams with soft lighting and buzzes with the hum of chattering residents on their top-floor porches. “When it’s dark and all the lights in the houses are on, it feels like a set from a film,” De Blok says. sell any surplus to each other, as well as to the national grid. An AI-automated program under development will use the homes’ smart meters to inform residents when they can earn the most from selling their electricity, based on the fluctuations in energy market prices. This would make Schoonschip the first residential neighborhood in the country to turn a profit from generating energy, Kingma says. The program is being monitored in collaboration with 15 European com- “LIVING ON WATER DOES SOMETHING TO YOU,” SAYS DE BLOK. “THERE’S SOME MAGIC TO IT.” To realize Schoonschip’s sustainability goals, De Blok drew on the residents themselves. Siti Boelen, a Dutch television producer, mediated between the Schoonschip representative committee and the local municipality. Glasl, the architect, helped design the jetty that connects the houses to each other and to the land. Eelke Kingma, a resident and renewable tech expert, joined a community task force that co-designed the neighborhood’s smart grid system. Residents collect energy from more than 500 solar panels—placed on roughly a third of the community’s roofs—and from 30 efficient heat pumps that draw from the water below. They then store it in enormous batteries below the homes and 150 september 2023 panies, universities and institutions, organized by the European Commission, which supports renewable energy experiments in the hopes of scaling them up across the continent. Over the past decade, the floatinghouse movement has been gaining momentum in the Netherlands. The Dutch government is amending legislation to redefine floating homes as “immovable homes” rather than “boats,” to simplify the process of obtaining permits. Amsterdam and Rotterdam are reporting a sharp uptick in requests for permits to build on the water. The trend is coinciding with a national water awareness campaign for an era in which climate change is already a
Environment fact of life. The government launched an app called Overstroom Ik?, or Will I Flood?, that allows residents to check if their area is at risk of flooding. And the Room for the River program has run more than 30 projects to manage high water levels in flood-prone districts over the past 15 years. The people behind Schoonschip and other floating neighborhoods, off fice buildings and event spaces across the Netherlands are increasingly being consulted for projects across the world. In 2013, the architectural firm Waterstudio, which designed several of the houses in Schoonschip, sent a floating, internet-connected converted cargo container, called City App, to the Korail Bosti slum of Dhaka, Bangladesh. Children attended remote classes in it during the day, and adults used it to develop business projects at night. In 2019, the vessel was relocated to a slum near Alexandria, Egypt, where it remains stationed. “We want to upgrade cities near the water,” says Koen Olthuis, a Waterstudio architect. “Now we’re at a tipping point where it’s actually happening. We’re getting requests from all over the world.” After two decades of planning, his firm along with Dutch Docklands, which specializes in floating developments, will oversee construction on a 200-hectare lagoon off Malé, the capital of the Maldives. The city sits less than three feet above sea level, making it vulnerable to even the slightest rise. The small, simply designed complex will house 20,000 people. Pumps will draw energy from deep-sea water and the homes’ artificial coral-clad hulls will encourage marine life. Dutch and international projects are showing that “we can cope with the challenges of sea-level rises,” Olthuis says. In Schoonschip, De Blok hopes that one day everyone will be able to live in communities built in harmony with the natural environment. “Living on water does something to you, being aware that under your house everything is moving,” she says. “There’s some magic to it.” the washington postt (17 december 2021), copyright © 2021 by the washington post Say Again? Words that mean the same thing usually sound completely different across languages. A possible exception is the word ‘Huh?’ This word is used to express confusion in 31 languages from 16 language families, pointing to the likelihood that the word is universal. In fact, the particular vowels that ‘Huh?’ is restricted to in all languages happen to be the vowels that are most easily pronounced when a person’s tongue is in a relaxed position. S O U R C E: A M E R I C A N S C I E N T I S T.O R G readersdigest.in 151
LIFE’S Like That As we boarded an airplane some years back, the two women behind me were voicing their anxiety about flying. That is, until they peeked into the cockpit and got a glimpse of our pilots. “Whoa,” one said. “They’re both good-looking.” Her friend sounded relieved. “Good,” she said. “They have more to live for.” —Paula Davis to get high” — outsideonline.com Ê “Why You Should Think Twice Before Getting Your Nose Hair Waxed” — healthdigest.com During a bus tour in Canada, our guide pointed out all the points of interest. “And over there,” he said, indicating the golden arches of the local McDonald’s, “is the American Embassy.” —Patricia Wood Headlines we thought we’d never have to see: Ê “Stop licking toads 152 2 september 2023 Following the funeral service for my grandmother, my family drove to the cemetery. When we arrived, my 3-year-old asked where we were. “This is where we’re going to bury Oma,” I said gently. He let out a deep sigh. “It’s sad, isn’t it?” I asked. “Yes,” he said. “I didn’t bring my shovel.” —Traci Paglio A greeter welcomed my friend and me when we walked into a Bass Pro Shops store. Pointing to the canes my friend and I use, I joked, “We really don’t need the canes. We just use them to beat off the women.” She shot back, “And you’ll need the other end of the cane to hook them.” —George Berrien The moment I realized I wasn’t as smart as I thought: Ê When someone cartoon by Jim Benton
Reader ’s Digest told me they had the same name as me, I said “Really? What’s your name?” Ê I was shopping for clothes when I spotted someone I recognized. We made eye contact and smiled at each other. It was just then I realized I was walking toward a full-length mirror. Ê After this conversation with my boss: “I will be in late tomorrow. I have a doctor’s appointment.” “Is everything OK?” “Yes, why do you ask?” Ê I said, “I’m consistent, just not all the time.” And it really had to be pointed out to me. — reddit.com lumenst/getty images Instead of ‘emotional’ support, my son said “mimosational” support and I want that a lot more. — @FatherWithTwins Reader’s Digest will pay for your funny anecdote or photo in any of our humour sections. Post it to the editorial address, or email: editor.india@rd.com Marriage can be difficult but rewarding. Like this morning, I told my husband, “I love you.” And he looked deep into my eyes and said, “Do you know where my keys are?” — @traciebreaux BACK TO SCHOOL I asked my grand-daughter how her first day of first grade went. “Well,” she said, “I don’t know how to read yet.” —Susan Weston the process. “What’s wrong?” I asked. He answered, “That’s all I know.” —Judy Pugliese A freshman at a Catholic high school, I was attending our first Friday mass, so naturally I sang my heart out. Suddenly, the principal, Sister Matilda, appeared by my side. She leaned over and said, “Mr Godfrey, the Lord will not mind if you mouth the words.” —Don Godfrey In high school, a classmate responded to a teacher’s question with a ‘yo mama’ joke. Without missing a beat, the teacher said, “Leave my mother out of this. I don’t make fun of your parents and look what they produced.” — reddit.com My 10-year-old grandson Sam was so excited. He had just gotten a saxophone, which he was learning to play for the school band. I watched proudly as he took the instrument out of the case, assembled it and positioned it around his neck. He played one note, then carefully reversed readersdigest.in 153
WHO KNEW? y k c a W Birt rthday s n o i t i d a Tr Around the world, it’s not always about cakes and candles by Stéphanie Verge 154 4 september 2023 a rousing rendition of the ‘Happy Birthday’ song, the blowing out of candles on a cake and the giving of gifts are common in many places across the globe—from the United States to Spain and from France to Australia. But some countries go above and beyond to celebrate their loved ones in unique ways. Here, the editors of our international editions share some unique traditions reserved for counting yourself one year older.` Illustrations by Graham Roumieu
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Reader ’s Digest MEXICO An emblematic Mexican birthdayparty tradition—one that has spread across the globe—is the smashing of a piñata. Blindfolded, stick-wielding celebrants whack a brightly coloured container hanging from a string until it bursts open, raining down candy. Though now often made from papier mâché and in a range of forms that includes animals and celebrities, piñatas are traditionally composed of clay and spherical in shape (with protruding spikes). In lieu of ‘Happy Birthday’, Mexicans belt out ‘Las Mañanitas’ (‘Little Mornings’), a song believed to have origi- 156 september 2023 nated in Spain in the 16th or 17th century. “It is sometimes sung in the morning to wake up the person whose birthday it is,” says Carlos Díaz, who is the editor of the Mexican edition of Reader’s Digest, “but mostly we sing it around the cake before the candles are blown out.” AUSTRALIA AND NEW ZEALAND Down Under, birthdays usually involve firing up your barbecue and having family and friends over for celebratory food and drink. “A child’s first birthday is often celebrated with what we call ‘fairy
Who Knew? bread’—slices of white bread spread with butter and adorned with coloured candy sprinkles—and balloons,” says editor Diane Godley. That fairy bread is replaced with beer and bubbly on a person’s 18th birthday, when they are allowed to drink legally for the first time. Because people used to officially become adults at the age of 21, some families in New Zealand and Australia mark that birthday with a keepsake ‘key to the door’, representing the child’s privilege to come and go from the family home as they please. THE CHINESE DIASPORA Birthday traditions vary quite a bit across the regions and countries with significant Chinese populations. In China’s southern Fujian province and in parts of Taiwan, for example, a person’s 16th birthday marks their passage into adulthood. This belief harkens back to the Qing Dynasty and the age at which a labourer went from having a half-wage to a full one. In Singapore, younger people in the Chinese community celebrate their big day according to the Western calendar, and the older generation opts to mark it according to the lunar calendar. There is one thing everyone can agree on, however: a bowl of ‘longevity noodles’. Sometimes made as a single strand, this is a common birthday food in Chinese communities, says editor Simon Li. “Noodles are supposed to bring health and a long life, which is why it’s wise to keep them as intact as possible on your birthday,” Li explains. “Care should be taken not to break them while eating with chopsticks.” There are other taboos to keep in mind. For example, don’t even think about splitting the cake in half. Chinese culture values connection and harmony, says Li, so it’s best to avoid slicing all the way through to the opposite side of the cake when dividing it into pieces for guests. Instead, the dessert is cut one piece at a time. NETHERLANDS The ‘circle party’ is a typical birthday gathering in the Netherlands. The extended family gets together and sits in a circle to talk and eat cake, followed by drinks and a buffet-style dinner. It can be a lengthy process for anyone entering the room at these gatherings, says editor Paul Robert. “People congratulate not only the person whose birthday it is but also everyone else in attendance by going around the circle and shaking each person’s hand,” he says. “The fastest method is to walk in, wave at the whole circle and shout, ‘Congratulations, all!’ But that’s not considered very polite.” When someone turns 50, friends or relatives will place a large doll in the birthday person’s garden or by their front door; men have an ‘Abraham’ doll, women a ‘Sarah.’ The dolls refer to a Bible passage from the Book of John in which Jesus is asked how he could have seen Abraham when he’s not yet 50 years old; it also refers to the readersdigest.in 157
Reader ’s Digest advanced age at which Sarah, Abraham’s wife, had their child Isaac. JAPAN Celebrating a person’s birthday on the anniversary of the day they were actually born became a tradition only in the last century; in the past, everyone celebrated on the new year. In Japan, regardless of when birthdays took place, there have long been milestone celebrations, ranging from a first birthday to a 60th. When a child turns one in Japan, they take part in a ritual called erabitori, where the birthday child chooses from a selection of items spread out around them that represent their potential future. If a baby opts for a calculator, they could succeed in busi- 158 september 2023 ness; if they grab a pen, they might become a prolific writer. On November 15th of the year children turn three, five and seven, their parents dress them in traditional clothing and take them to a shrine. This celebration is shichi-go-san, which literally means 7-5-3—all lucky numbers in Japanese culture. Parents often wish for their children’s continued health and longevity by offering them a long string of soft chitose ame (‘thousand-year candy’) in a bag adorned with images of a turtle, a crane and bamboo—all harbingers of good luck. While a Japanese person officially becomes an adult when they turn 20 (with a coming-of-age celebration held on the second Monday in January), pivotal birthdays don’t end there. A 60th
Who Knew? birthday marks the completion of the zodiac cycle (which restarts every 60 years) and is a powerful symbol of rebirth. Known as the kanreki, this festive celebration is hosted by the family; a special cushion, red sleeveless vest and fan may be part of the birthday guest’s attire. BRAZIL In South America’s biggest country, after blowing out the candles and making a wish, the guest of honour slices off a piece of cake and offers it to someone who is important to them—for children, that’s often a parent. But for adults, this time-honoured tradition can rate high on the awkward scale. Says editor Raquel Zampil, “It’s often uncomfortable, since you have to choose one person and disappoint others.” If the birthday person is single, another funny—or, depending on who you’re asking, uncomfortable—tradition takes place. Before the candles are blown out, the guests will sing a song speculating on the guest of honour’s future marital status. “Who will Maria marry?” they first sing, followed by, “It will depend on whether [name of Maria’s crush] wants to.” CANADA Depending on how vindictive a Canadian’s family and friends are, the ‘birthday bumps’ can be a dreaded ritual or a gentle joke. Here’s how the tradition works: The guest of honour lays on their back, and partygoers grab them by the arms and legs. The guests lift and then lower the birthday person to the ground until their bum lightly ‘bumps’ against it. Alternatively, a guest grabs the birthday person by the shoulders and ‘bumps’ them on the backside with one knee, up to the number corresponding with the person’s age … plus an extra bump for good luck. (There is a reason this tradition is usually carried out on children—40 bumps would be exhausting for all concerned.) There are regional particularities when it comes to celebrating someone’s birthday, as well. In parts of the country’s east coast, kids get surprised by someone dabbing butter or grease on their nose, a tradition reputed to help them ‘slip away’ from bad luck. And in French-speaking Quebec, says editor Hervé Juste, guests sing the chorus from ‘Gens du Pays’ (which translates as ‘people of the country’), a song that legendary folk singer and poet Gilles Vigneault created as an alternative to ‘Happy Birthday’. It was also adopted by Quebec’s sovereignty movement and has become the province’s unofficial anthem. MALAYSIA Approximately 60 per cent of Malaysians are adherents of Islam, a religion within which birthdays aren’t generally celebrated. However, some Malaysians do mark their birthdays with a family gathering over lunch or dinner the night before the big day and wrap up the celreadersdigest.in 159
Reader ’s Digest ebration by taking stock of their blessings and thanking Allah for giving them life and good health. receive a message from the country’s president on their 100th birthday. GERMANY Birthday parties are very popular in Britain and when children are involved there is almost always a game of ‘pass the parcel’. The rules: A birthday present that has been wrapped multiple times is passed in a circle from child to child until the music stops. When that happens, whomever is holding the parcel must unwrap a layer and complete whatever ‘forfeit’, or request, has been written on a piece of paper inside the wrapping. “Forfeits can range from ‘show off your best dance move’ to ‘do your best impression of the birthday kid,’” says former editor Anna Walker. The child who reaches the final layer of the parcel, which is usually sweets or a toy, gets to keep the gift. Much older Brits receive their own special present: When they hit 100, the ruling monarch sends along a letter of congratulations. According to editor Michael Kallinger, the country’s most notable birthday tradition involves sweeping stairs. “In Bremen, when unmarried men turn 30, it is customary for them to sweep the stairs of the local church or town hall,” he says. “Women have to clean the door handle.” This public act of sanitation is meant to embarrass the person and motivate them to marry. UNITED KINGDOM LITHUANIA In other northern regions, if a man is still single on his 25th birthday, his front door gets decorated with a garland made of socks, labelling him as an ‘old sock’. An unmarried woman turning 25 gets a garland of boxes, because she is now considered an ‘old box’ (like ‘old sock’, it’s an ironic term for the elderly). Germans who actually are elderly 160 september 2023 “In my native country, it is customary for the person whose birthday it is to sit in a decorated chair that is then lifted up by the party guests,” says editor Eva Mackevic. “How many times the chair is raised will correspond with the age of the guest of honour.” Another frequently observed tradition: The person whose birthday it is will be responsible for paying for their
Who Knew? guests, whether that means footing the bill for drinks, dinner or a big party. FINLAND “When a Finn turns 18, they can get their driver’s license and go to restaurants unaccompanied,” says editor Ilkka Virtanen. It is therefore common for 18-year-olds to mark their entry into adulthood by heading to a restaurant with friends or having a big, boozy party at home. This is the one birthday where attendees are expected to pay their own way; on other birthdays, the guest of honour takes on the cost. Fifty is another big milestone in Finland, with the birthday person typically hosting a reception featuring coff fee, cake and sparkling wine, and guests offering the celebrant gift cards for a spa, a restaurant or, for the more intrepid, a parachute jump. PHILIPPINES For Filipinos, birthdays aren’t just about celebrating the big day—they’re about spending time with family. Traditionally, anyone living within a day’s travel must be invited, or involved in the planning, and each guest is assigned a dish to bring. Central to the celebration are ‘longevity noodles’ (symbolizing a long, healthy life), a cake ideally made from taro or purple yam and karaoke. Pivotal birthdays in the Philippines include ages one, seven, 18 and 21. A child’s seventh birthday marks the year the child can be held more accountable for their actions, while a person’s coming of age is celebrated on their 18th (for women) or 21stt (for men). INDIA For many Indians, the majority of whom are Hindu, birthdays involve religious rituals. The day usually starts with a visit to the temple, where prayers are offered and blessings are received. The person celebrating also seeks the blessings of their family’s elders by bowing down and touching their feet. “Some people also perform charitable acts or make donations to help those less fortunate than themselves,” says editor Ishani Nandi. A birthday is also an occasion to wear new clothes and to enjoy one’s favourite dishes, prepared by family members. In return, the guest of honour gives the first piece of their cake to the oldest person in their family. Schoolchildren, for their part, will often distribute sweets or candies to their classmates. Quick Quips Twenty years ago we had Johnny Cash, Bob Hope and Steve Jobs. Now we have no Cash, no Hope and no Jobs. Please don’t let Kevin Bacon die. bill murray, comedian readersdigest.in 161
Reader ’s Digest This page: Aristides de Sousa Mendes in 1940. Opposite: French refugees escaping the Nazi onslaught in 1941. PORTUGAL’S 162 september 2023
BONUS READ Like Oskar Schindler, Portuguese diplomat Aristides de Sousa Mendes helped save, at great personal risk, thousands from the Nazi regime By Chanan Tigay from smithsonian magazine SCHINDLER readersdigest.in 163
Reader ’s Digest An aristocrat and bon vivant, Sousa Mendes deeply loved his family. He loved wine. He loved Portugal and wrote a book extolling it as a “land of dreams and poetry.” He loved belting out popular French tunes, especially Rina Ketty’s ‘J’attendrai,’ a tender love song that in the shifting context of war was becoming an anthem for peace. And Sousa Mendes loved his mistress, who was five months pregnant with his 15th child. He usually found something to laugh about even in the worst of times. But now, faced with the most consequential decision of his life, he had shut down. He refused to leave his room even to eat. “Here the situation is horrible,” the 54-year-old diplomat wrote to his brother-inlaw, “and I am in bed with a severe nervous breakdown.” The seeds of Sousa Mendes’s collapse were planted on 10 May 1940, when Hitler launched his invasion of France and the Low Countries. Within weeks, millions of civilians were driven from their homes, desperate to outpace the advancing German army. AS GERMAN SOLDIERS RAISED THE SWASTIKA AT THE ARC DE TRIOMPHE, REFUGEES SCOURED FRANCE FOR EXIT VISAS. 164 4 september 2023 photos, previous spread: (left) courtesy of sousa mendes foundation (right) © keystone/getty images It was the second week Aristides de Sousa Me out of his room. Portu in Bordeaux, in south Mendes lived in a lar Garonne River with of their 14 children—all of whom becoming increasingly concerned.
photo: courtesy sousa mendes foundation Aristides de Sousa Mendes and his wife, Angelina, with nine of their children in 1929. A representative presentative of the th Red R d Cross in Paris called it the “greatest civilian reff ugee problem in French history.” Exhausted drivers lost control of their vehicles. Women harnessed themselves to carts built for horses, dragging children and goats. “Dog owners killed their pets so they would not have to feed them,” recalled MarieMadeleine Fourcade, a leader of the French Resistance. “Weeping women pushed old people who had been squashed into prams.” New York Times correspondent Lansing Warren, who was later arrested by the Nazis, wrote, “In a country already packed with evacuees from the war zones, half the population of the Paris region, a large part of Belgium and 10 to 12 departments of France, somewhere between six million and 10 million persons in all, are straggling along roads in private cars, in auto trucks, on bicycles and afoot.” The refugees were “plodding steadily southward day after day, going they know not where,” he reported. “How far they will get depends on circumstances, but it is safe to say that all in the end will be stranded.” As the French government fled Paris, and German soldiers raised the swastika at the Arc de Triomphe, refugees scoured the country for exit visas. Many hugged the coast in the hope they might secure passage on a ship off the continent. Others flocked to cities along the Spanish border, desperate to cross. In Bordeaux, the population more than doubled, swelling with refugees for whom only one option remained: a visa from neutral Portugal, allowing them passage through Spain to Lisbon. readersdigest.in 165
Reader ’s Digest There they might secure tickets on a ship or plane out of Europe. Thousands massed outside 14 Quai Louis XVIII—the five-storey waterfront building that housed the Portuguese consulate and, upstairs, the Sousa Mendes family. Two blocks away, in the Place des Quinconces, one of the largest city squares in Europe, refugees set up camp in automobiles and boxes and tents. Sousa Mendes later informed the Portuguese Foreign Ministry that He spent the night of 17 June in his car and was awakened when the lights in the square shut off unexpectedly. “And then we heard them—the bombs,” Bagger recalled. “We counted eight, in quick succession. … Then the sirens began to shrill, far away too, then nearer and nearer.” Sousa Mendes, a devout Catholic who suspected he descended from conversos—Jews who had been forced to convert centuries earlier during the Spanish Inquisition—was AS THE SITUATION DETERIORATED, SOUSA MENDES INVITED ELDERLY, ILL, AND PREGNANT REFUGEES TO SHELTER IN HIS FLAT. among them were “statesmen, ambassadors and ministers, generals and other high officers, professors, men of letters, academics, famous artists, journalists … university students, people from Red Cross organizations, members of ruling families … soldiers of all ranks and posts, industrialists and businessmen, priests and nuns, women and children in need of protection.” And, he added, many of them were “Jews who were already persecuted and sought to escape the horror of further persecution.” As the Nazis closed in, the vast encampment grew frantic. “The centre of the town was bedlam,” wrote American journalist Eugene Bagger, who had been stranded in France. 166 september 2023 appalled by the suffering. Some had lost their spouses, while others had no news of missing children or had seen their loved ones succumb to the daily German bombings. What many refugees did not know was that seven months earlier, Portugal’s austere dictator, President António de Oliveira Salazar, had issued a missive known as Circular 14, effectively forbidding his diplomats from offering visas to most refugees—especially Jews, ethnic Russians, and anybody else rendered a “stateless person.” Although Salazar had, technically, remained neutral, in reality Portugal’s ‘neutrality’ was fluid, depending on events. Now, with Nazi forces tearing through Europe, Salazar was reluctant
photo courtesy of sousa mendes foundation Bonus Read to provoke Hitler or Francisco Franco, Spain’s fascist leader. As the situation beneath his window deteriorated, Sousa Mendes invited elderly, ill and pregnant refugees to shelter in his flat, where they slept on chairs, blankets and the rugs covering the floors. “Even the consul’s offices were crowded with dozens of refugees who were dead tired because they had waited for days and nights on the street, on the stairways, and finally in the offices,” Sousa Mendes’s nephew, Cesar, recounted in testimony to Yad Vashem, Israel’s Holocaust memorial. “Most of them had nothing but the clothes they were wearing.” One evening, Sousa Mendes ducked into a chauffeured car to survey the scene outside, where French soldiers with steel helmets and bayonets maintained order. Approaching Bordeaux’s Great Synagogue, Sousa Mendes spotted a man in a dark, double-breasted caftan—a Polish rabbi named Chaim Kruger, who had served in a village in Belgium but fled with his wife, Cilla, and their five young children. Sousa Mendes invited him back to the consulate. He took Kruger and his family into his home, but he immediately declared that no Jews may receive a visa. Quietly, however, Sousa Mendes did request permission from Lisbon to issue the visas, and on 13 June the Foreign Ministry responded: “Recusados vistos.” Visas denied. Flouting his superior, Sousa Mendes offered Kruger the papers anyway. Kruger declined them. The building at 14 Quai Louis XVIII in Bordeaux housed the Portuguese consulate and was the Sousa Mendes family residence. “It is not just me who needs help,” he told Sousa Mendes, “but all my fellow Jews who are in danger of their lives.” Suddenly, Sousa Mendes’s selfless effort to help a new friend, to aid a single Jewish family, was revealed for what it truly was: A choice between saving himself or saving thousands; between obeying his government or obeying his conscience. The dilemma was so destabilizing that Sousa Mendes stumbled into his bedroom and stayed there for three days. When he finally emerged, he announced, “I am going to issue a readersdigest.in 167
Reader ’s Digest visa to anyone who asks for it. Even if I am discharged, I can only act as a Christian, as my conscience tells me.” Israeli historian Yehuda Bauer called what ensued “perhaps the largest rescue action by a single individual during the Holocaust.” Opening the Door Aristides de Sousa Mendes was not born to suffer. A member of the landed gentry, he owned a lavish estate in Cabanas de Viriato, the central before enlisting in the foreign service. By the early 1930s, Cesar had reached the top of the profession as Portugal’s foreign minister. Aristides, meanwhile, held a series of diplomatic posts—Brazil, Spain, British Guyana, San Francisco. In Belgium, he hosted Spanish king Alfonso XIII and Albert Einstein. In Zanzibar, the sultan himself was named godfather to Sousa Mendes’s son Geraldo. In September 1938, Angelina and Aristides and several of their 12 AS THE GERMAN ARMY RUMBLED TOWARD BORDEAUX, SOUSA MENDES SCARCELY SLEPT. HE RUSHED TO ATTEND TO EVERYONE. Portuguese village of his birth. The house featured two dining rooms, a billiards salon and a mezzanine hung with the flags of nations where Sousa Mendes had served. Each Thursday, in the shadow of a Christ the Redeemer statue he had commissioned, he and his wife, Angelina, welcomed village poor into their home for a meal prepared by their household staff. Sousa Mendes was bad with money, and often had to borrow from his twin brother, Cesar. Whereas Aristides was outgoing and spontaneous, Cesar was serious and studious. Both entered the law school at Coimbra, Portugal’s most prestigious university, graduating in 1907 and practising briefly 168 september 2023 remaining children—a son, 22, had died of a ruptured spleen and an infant daughter of meningitis—arrived in Bordeaux. Soon art and music instructors were visiting the flat on Quai Louis XVIII. Sousa Mendes struck up a relationship with a musician named Andrée Cibial, who was 23 years his junior. Known around town for her ostentatious hats, Cibial amused Sousa Mendes with her freethinking temperament, and they became lovers. By this time, the French government, anxious about an influx of Jewish refugees from Germany and anti-Fascist Republicans escaping the Spanish Civil War, had set up a
Bonus Read photos, clockwise from top left: ©gamma-keystone/getty; corbis historical/ getty; courtesy of sousa mendes foundation; moviepix/getty The thousands of people who received visas from Sousa Mendes included: (clockwise from top) artist Salvador Dalí and his wife, Gala; politician and philanthropist Maurice de Rothschild; children’s authors H. A. and Margret Rey; and actress Madeleine LeBeau. number of detention and internment camps to house them. In November 1939, 10 days after Salazar posted Circular 14, Sousa Mendes issued an unauthorized visa to one such person, the Jewish historian Arnold Wiznitzer. The following March, he signed another, this one for Spanish Republican Eduardo Neira Laporte, formerly a professor in Barcelona. Both men faced imminent imprisonment in French camps. Nevertheless, Sousa Mendes earned a strong rebuke from the Foreign Ministry. “Any new transgression or violation on this issue will be considered disobedience and will entail a disciplinary procedure where it will not be possible to overlook that you have repeatedly committed acts which have entailed warnings and reprimands,” his superior wrote. readersdigest.in 169
Recounting the censure to his brother, Cesar, then Portugal’s ambassador in Warsaw, Sousa Mendes groused that “the Portuguese Stalin decided to pounce on me like a wild beast.” With bombs in the near distance proclaiming the imminent arrival of the Germans, and with his government holding firm in its refusal to grant the unlucky refugees safe passage, Sousa Mendes must have understood the likely consequences when, in June 1940, he threw open his doors and began to sign visas en masse. And once he started he didn’t stop. He signed visas for refugees who had passports Sousa Mendes issued countless visas to fleeing and those who did not. They refugees. This one was dated June 19, 1940. lined up by the thousands at his desk, down the stairs and into Each day new people arrived, desthe street. “Add to this spectacle hundreds of children who were with their perate for documents. The banking parents and shared their suffering and magnates Edward, Eugene, Henri and anguish,” Sousa Mendes said several Maurice de Rothschild came seekmonths later. “All this could not fail to ing papers. Gala Dalí requested visas for herself and her artist husband, impress me vividly.” As the Nazis rumbled toward Bor- Salvador; he was busy building a deaux, Sousa Mendes scarcely slept. bomb shelter in the garden of their In the rush to attend to everyone, his rented house near Bordeaux. To speed up his operation, Sousa signature grew shorter: from Aristides de Sousa Mendes to Sousa Mendes to, Mendes enlisted help from his son finally, Mendes. Frightened to lose Pedro Nuno, his nephew Cesar and their places in line, refugees would José de Seabra, his consular secrenot move even to eat or drink. Fist- tary. One man would stamp the passport, Sousa Mendes would sign it, and fights erupted. 170 september 2023 photo courtesy of sousa mendes foundation Reader ’s Digest
Bonus Read Seabra would issue a visa number before everything was recorded in a ledger. Rabbi Kruger circulated among the crowd, gathering passports, taking them upstairs for Sousa Mendes’s signature, and delivering them when they were complete. Among those seeking papers were Israel and Madeleine Blauschild—better known by their screen names, Marcel Dalio and Madeleine LeBeau—who were on the run after the Nazis plastered Dalio’s image around France to help people identify the “typical Jew.” (Two years later, the couple would Cheers—and Threats On 19 June, word reached President Salazar of “irregularities” emanating from his consulate in Bordeaux. That night Germany bombed the city. With Hitler’s inexorable advance, and a collaborationist regime taking form in France, Sousa Mendes’s position was becoming untenable. At some point, Spain would cease honouring any visa bearing his signature, and Salazar would have him recalled, arrested—or worse. At this time, about nine days into his visa operation, Sousa Mendes had IN BAYONNE, SOUSA MENDES DEVISED A ROGUE ASSEMBLY LINE AND SIGNED EVERY PASSPORT HE COULD. appear in Casablanca, a film about refugees seeking letters of transit to Portugal; he played the croupier Emil and she the young Yvonne, who famously sang ‘La Marseillaise’ while tears ran down her face.) On the night of 17 June, a man in a finely cut suit and a trimmed moustache approached the consulate—the private secretary to Archduke Otto von Habsburg, pretender to the Austrian throne. The secretary handed over 19 passports. Sousa Mendes stamped and signed each one. The next day the former royals crossed into Spain, travelling in five cars trailed by two trucks stuffed with their belongings. already saved thousands of lives. But, though the Quai XVIII was now largely empty, thanks to him, the diplomat received word that desperate scenes were unfolding farther south. Sousa Mendes spoke by phone with Portugal’s vice consul in Toulouse, a city southeast of Bordeaux, and instructed him to begin issuing visas there. Then he raced more than 150 kilometers south to Bayonne, not far from the Spanish border. “On my arrival there were so many thousands of people, about 5,000 in the street, day and night, without moving, waiting their turn,” Sousa Mendes later recalled. readersdigest.in 171
Reader ’s Digest As he made his way across the city square, a group of refugees spotted him and began to cheer. Inside, he found that the consulate’s old wooden staircase was straining under the weight of visa seekers, so he set up a table outside. Then, as he had done in Bordeaux, he devised a rogue assembly line and signed every passport he could. Among those waiting were H. A. Pereira ordered him back to Bordeaux. Instead Sousa Mendes headed farther south, to Hendaye, a French seaside town along the Spanish border. As he pulled up to the crossing there, he found hundreds of refugees unable to pass into Spain. Pereira had cabled ahead to insist Spain treat visas issued by Sousa Mendes as “null and void.” The New York Times estimated that shuttering the Spanish border “ THE VOICE OF MY CONSCIENCE … NEVER FAILED TO GUIDE ME IN THE FULFILLMENT OF MY DUTIES,” SOUSA MENDES LATER WROTE. and Margret Rey, who had escaped Paris on a homemade bicycle with an illustrated manuscript of Curious George, their masterpiece of children’s literature. Sousa Mendes struck Manuel Vieira Braga, vice consul in Bayonne, “as both elated and aware of the situation.” On 22 June, Salazar cabled Sousa Mendes directly. “You are strictly forbidden to grant anyone a visa for entry to Portugal,” he wrote. Then he dispatched Pedro Teotónio Pereira, the ambassador to Spain, to investigate. He met Sousa Mendes and asked him to explain his behaviour. The reply, coupled with his dishevelled aspect, gave Pereira the impression that Sousa Mendes was “not in his right mind.” 172 september 2023 stranded 10,000 refugees in Nazioccupied France. As Sousa Mendes parked his car near the crossing, a group of refugees was trying unsuccessfully to pass. Amazingly, Sousa Mendes spotted Rabbi Kruger and his family speaking with border guards. Sousa Mendes intervened, negotiating with the guards for over an hour. At last, Sousa Mendes opened the gate himself and waved Kruger and his fellow exiles across the border and into Spain. On 24 June 1940, Salazar recalled Sousa Mendes to Portugal. On 4 July, he initiated a disciplinary proceeding, a trial conducted through written testimony submitted by many of those involved, and adjudicated by a committee.
Bonus Read photo courtesy of sousa mendes foundation After Andrée Cibial married Sousa Mendes in 1949, they lived in poverty. Sousa Mendes acknowledged that some of the 15 charges levied against him were true. “I may have erred,” he wrote, “but if so, I did it unintentionally, having followed the voice of my conscience, which—despite the nervous breakdown I am still experiencing due to the workload, during which I spent weeks with practically no sleep—never failed to guide me in the fulfillment of my duties, in full awareness of my responsibilities.” Before the verdict was handed down, Salazar was already informing his ambassadors that Sousa Mendes had been dismissed. When the decision was delivered in October, Salazar deemed the official punishment—demotion—insufficiently harsh. Instead, he forced Sousa Mendes’s retirement. Sousa Mendes responded with characteristic equanimity. “I would rather stand with God against man,” he said, “than with man against God.” He was promised a pension but never received it. Salazar did not disbar him, but he didn’t need to—who would hire the consul whom Salazar had effectively blacklisted? For good measure, Salazar took the written record of the disciplinary proceedings and sealed it shut. That same month, in Lisbon, Cibial gave birth to Sousa Mendes’s daughter, who was sent to live with relatives back in France. After Salazar’s punishment came down, some of Sousa Mendes’s other children, fearful of retribution, dispersed. His daughter Clotilde moved to Mozambique. Two sons, Carlos and Sebastiaõ, both born in California, enlisted in the US Army. (Sebastiaõ later took part in the landing at Normandy.) Two other sons eventually immigrated, Luis-Filipe to Canada and Jean-Paul to California. By 1942, Sousa Mendes was taking meals at a Jewish community soup kitchen in Lisbon. One day, Isaac ‘Ike’ Bitton, who worked in the dining room for refugees, noticed the Sousa Mendes family speaking Portuguese. “I approached the head of the family and told him in Portuguese that this dining room was only for refugees,” Bitton later recalled. “To my great surprise, this good man’s answer was, ‘We too are refugees.’” readersdigest.in 173
those saved by Sousa Mendes ultimately settled all over the globe: in the United States, Britain, Argentina, South Africa, Uruguay, Cuba, Mexico, the Dominican Republic. And many, including Rabbi Chaim Kruger, ended up in Israel. In February 2020, I visited his son, Rabbi Jacob Kruger, now 90, in an ultra- This photograph of Sousa Mendes (right) and Rabbi Chaim Kruger is thought to have been taken at the French border with Spain in 1940. 174 4 septe mber 2023 photo courtesy of sousa mendes foundation COURAGE REMEMBERED Orthodox enclave in northwest Jerusalem, about three kilometers from a public square named after Sousa Mendes. When I asked what he remembered about his father’s role in the Sousa Mendes affair, he brought out a number of keepsakes—ship tickets, letters—that told the story of the family’s ordeal. After escaping France and making their way through Spain, the Krugers spent a year in Portugal. On 3 June 1941, the family boarded the Nyassa, a ship full of refugees bound for New York. Eventually, Chaim Kruger moved to Israel, and two of his children joined him there. Two others remained in the United States. One returned to France. During my visit, Kruger called over his son-in-law, Avrohom, who, along with his wife, Feiga, publishes a comic book that tells stories from Jewish lore. Avrohom opened an issue and pointed me to a10-page section titled ‘The Courage to Refuse’. In it, Sousa Mendes tells Chaim Kruger, “I can give you and your family visas.” “Just for me?” Kruger responds. “How can I take care of just myself? How can I leave my fellow Jews behind?” “You know what, Rabbi Kruger?” says Sousa Mendes. “You win!” In this unexpected way, Chaim Kruger’s grandchildren had commemorated both their grandfather and Sousa Mendes. And so, in another way, had Jacob Kruger himself, in a Portuguese documentary from the early 1990s (which was posted to YouTube in 2019). In it, he says, “God brought these two people together.” —Chanan Tigay
Bonus Read A Profound Injustice Over the next several years, as his financial situation cratered, Sousa Mendes campaigned for reinstatement to his former position and access to his pension. He petitioned Salazar and the head of Portugal’s National Assembly. He wrote to Pope Pius XII. Cesar, too, sought his brother’s rehabilitation, writing to Salazar on his behalf. But, as his son Luis-Filipe wrote later, “the rock was unshakable, and our hope fades away.” partially paralyzed. He could no longer write letters seeking help on his own, and enlisted his son to pen them for him. Former colleagues and friends ignored Sousa Mendes in the street. Said Luis-Filipe, “Blame and sarcasm were not uncommon, sometimes from close relatives.” Angelina’s health, too, declined, and she died in August 1948. The following year Sousa Mendes married Cibial. The couple lived together in abject poverty. He rarely left home and his IN 2020, PORTUGAL GRANTED SOUSA MENDES ONE OF ITS HIGHEST HONOURS: A CENOTAPH IN THE NATIONAL PANTHEON IN LISBON. Compounding the injustice, Salazar’s regime, less concerned about a German attack as the war went on and aware that the Allies valued humanitarian action, began to take credit for what Sousa Mendes had done. Pereira, the ambassador who had chased Sousa Mendes down at the border, claimed that he had visited France to assist “in every way that I had at my disposal.” In a speech to the National Assembly, Salazar himself lamented the sad plight of the war’s dispossessed. “What a pity,” he said, “that we could not do more.” In the summer of 1945, Sousa Mendes suffered a stroke, leaving him estate fell into disrepair. Eventually it was repossessed and sold off to cover debts. In the spring of 1954, Sousa Mendes suffered another stroke, and on 3 April of that year he died at the age of 68. Confiding in his nephew from his deathbed, Sousa Mendes took solace in the knowledge that although he had nothing but his name to leave his family, the name was “clean.” He was buried in Cabanas de Viriato in the robes of the Third Order of St Francis, a religious fraternity whose adherents, Sousa Mendes among them, live by the example of its patron, who preached that God lives in every man. readersdigest.in 175
Reader ’s Digest After Sousa Mendes died, the regime ‘disappeared’ his memory. “Nobody in Portugal knew about the refugees who had come through the country—not even historians,” says Irene Pimentel, a researcher at the New University of Lisbon. “Salazar succeeded in making Aristides de Sousa Mendes forgotten.” Yet Sousa Mendes’s children urged Jewish leaders in Portugal, Israel and the United States to recognize their late father. In 1961, Israel’s prime minster, David Ben-Gurion, ordered 20 trees planted in Sousa Mendes’s name. In 1966, Yad Vashem honoured him as one of the Righteous Among the Nations. In the mid-1970s, after Salazar died and the authoritarian regime that followed him was overthrown, the new government commissioned a report about Sousa Mendes. The document was scathing, calling Portugal’s treatment of him “a new Inquisition.” But the new administration, still populated by remnants of the old regime, buried the report for a decade. “He was their skeleton in the closet, and nobody wanted his name to be known,” said Robert Jacobvitz, an American who in the 1980s advocated on the Sousa Mendes family’s behalf. In 1986, 70 members of the United States Congress signed a letter to Portugal’s president, Mário Soares, urging him to recognize Sousa Mendes. At a ceremony the following year at the Embassy of Portugal 176 6 september 2023 in Washington, D.C., Soares apologized to the Sousa Mendes family on behalf of his government. On 18 March 1988, Portugal’s Parliament voted unanimously to admit Sousa Mendes back into the consular service and promote him to the rank of ambassador. “The time has come to grant … Sousa Mendes the visa that he himself could not refuse,” one member of Parliament proclaimed to the assembly, “and in so doing to repair a profound injustice.” In 2020, Portugal bestowed on Sousa Mendes one of its highest posthumous honours: a cenotaph in the national Pantheon in Lisbon. “Aristides de Sousa Mendes put ethics above the legal dictates of a fascist state,” said Joacine Katar Moreira, the legislator who sponsored the initiative. “His active dissent saved thousands of people from the Nazi regime’s legalized murder, persecution and culture of violence.” “He Embraced Me” The actual number of people Sousa Mendes rescued isn’t known with certainty. In 1964, the magazine Jewish Life estimated it was 30,000, including 10,000 Jews. The Sousa Mendes Foundation, formed by Olivia Mattis, a New York-based musicologist whose family was saved by Sousa Mendes, and others including two of Sousa Mendes’s grandchildren, have definitively documented 3,912 visa recipients. Mattis believes the true figure is significantly higher.
Bonus Read The number is difficult to ascertain because so much time has passed, so many refugees refused to discuss the war, and only one of Sousa Mendes’s two lists of visas from the period has survived—and because Portugal’s dictatorship so successfully suppressed the facts. For decades not even S ousa Mendes’s daughter with Cibial, Marie-Rose Faure, knew what her father had done. Now 81, Faure is Sousa Mendes’s last surviving offspring. She lives in a simple two-level home in the French castle town of Pau, on the edge of the Pyrenees. Recently, Faure—diminutive, bespectacled and warm—recalled the first time she met her father. She was 11 years old, and living with a great-uncle and greataunt in France. “I had been waiting for this moment to meet him for a really, really long time,” Faure told me. The delay, she said, was Salazar’s doing: He would not let Sousa Mendes leave Portugal. When at last Sousa Mendes was allowed to visit, “he took me in his arms. He embraced me.” Afterwards, he returned for twomonth holidays and accompanied her to and from school each day. “He came regularly and my friends saw him—that was important to me,” Faure said. When she was 23, Faure learned what her father had done in Bordeaux. A colleague at Mutual Insurance, where she worked as a secretary, had spotted a short article about Sousa Mendes and said, “Hey, that’s not someone from your family, is it?” When I asked her how she felt reading that story, Faure paused. “It was a shock,” she said. “They spoke about the number of people who had been saved. They said it was 10,000, 20,000 Jews.” It’s likely that we’ll never know the precise number, but in the end that is of far less significance than what we do know. In Jewish tradition, it is said that saving a single life is akin to saving “an entire world.” Sousa Mendes saved many lives, and because of him many more lived. Smithsonian Magazine (November 2021), Copyright © 2021 by Chanan Tigay Life Lessons Do you know the difference between education and experience? Education is when you read the fine print; experience is what you get when you don’t. PETE SEEGER, SINGER Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin. M OT H E R T E R E S A , R O M A N C AT H O L I C S A I N T A N D N O B E L L A U R E AT E readersdigest.in 177
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Reader ’s Digest © BY THECOFFEEMONSTERS™ – EXPLORE THE MONSTERLICIOUS CREATIVITY AT THECOFFEEMONSTERS.COM —Sheng Wang, comedian Yiddish curses are famously detailed and nasty. Case in point: ‘May you be so rich your widow’s husband has to never work a day.’ Here are three for modern times from the book Schmegoogle, by Daniel Klein (Chronicle Books). Ê ‘After walking 12 blocks with your thighs squeezed together in a desperate search for a public restroom, may you find one at a fancy restaurant but be barred from entering because you aren’t wearing a tie!’ Ê ‘May your health insurance provider decide that constipation is a pre-existing condition!’ Ê ‘You should emerge from the desert scorched and parched to find before you a luxury hotel with 1,000 empty rooms, but they don’t accept AmEx extra points!’ A reporter, interviewing a man celebrating his 110 th birthday, asks, “What’s the secret to your longevity?” “No matter what, I never ever argue with anyone,” says the elderly man. “Surely there must be more to it than that,” insists the reporter. “What about factors like genetics, diet, exercise?” The old man shrugs. “Maybe you’re right.” —Gary Katz COFFEE DOODLES German artist Stefan Kuhnigk turns coffee spills into coffee art on his Instagram page, @thecoffeemonsters “What’s a couple?” I asked my mom. She said, “Two or three.” Which probably explains why her marriage collapsed. —Josie Long, comedian The guy y who cut me off then slammed on his brakes just got pulled over and I wasn’t expecting this level of joy today person. — @BrickMahoney Reader’s Digest will pay for your funny anecdote or photo in any of our humour sections. Post it to the editorial address, or email: editor.india@rd.com readersdigest.in 181
RD RECOMMENDS Films ENGLISH The sequel to 2018’s The Nun, THE NUN III marks the return of Taissa Farmiga, Jonas Bloquet and Bonnie Aarons. Set four years after the first part, the Michael Chaves directorial follows Sister Irene, who is tasked with bringing down the insidious demon Valak, the hellish entity spreading terror on religious figures across Europe. The film releases in theatres on 7 September. Directed byAcademy-Awardwinning director Roger Ross Williams, CASSANDRO, coming to Amazon Prime Video on 22 September, centres on the success of the iconic gay amateur wrestler, who 182 2 september 2023 Taissa Farmiga as Sister Irene in a still from The Nun II rises to international fame by creating an exotic character that flips the script on the stereotypes and over-the-top machismo in the world of Lucha Libre. HINDI After the massive success of Pathaan, Shah Rukh Shah Rukh Khan in the poster forr Jawan Khan returns to the big screen in the widely anticipated blockbuster film JAWAN N releasing in theatres on 7 September. A high-octane action thriller directed by Tamil writer-director Atlee Kumar (the creator of Bigil, l Marshal and Theri), the film takes on the burning topic of farmer suicides over non repayment of bank loans. The protagonist, driven by a personal vendetta, is bent on rectifying social ills in an attempt to get even with his past. The cast also stars Vijay Sethupathi, Sanya Malhotra and Nayanthara.
Reader ’s Digest Vicky Kaushal stars in the comedy THE GREAT INDIAN FAMILY Y helmed by Vijay Krishna Acharya. A tongue-in-cheek entertainer, this film explores the idiosyncrasies of a typical Indian family. Set in the small town of Balrampur, popular resident Bhajan Kumar’s world upends when his family receives word about the truth of his birth and identity, news that transforms his life and how others treat him forever. The film will release in theatres on 22 September. #WATCHLIST: 0N OUR RADAR In this captivating nature documentary series narrated by Academy-Award nominee Tom Hardy, five predator species around the world work to survive in their environments. Experience life through the eyes of cheetahs, polar bears, wild dogs and more of the planet’s most powerful hunters as they fight to maintain their dominance. Coming to Netflix on 6 September. BAMBAI MERI JAAN Poster for Predators Produced by Farhan Akhtar, this 10-part gangster thriller series is set in post-independence India and chronicles the birth of the underworld in Mumbai. The story follows a young man, Dara Kadri Vicky Kaushal and the cast of The Great Indian Family. Poster for Bambai Meri Jaan (Avinash Tiwary) who finds himself torn between upholding his father’s law enforcement legacy (portrayed by Kay Kay Menon) and his own inevitable descent into the criminal underworld. Releasing on Amazon Prime Video on 14 September. readersdigest.in 183
Reader ’s Digest Books Sakina’s Kiss by Vivek Shanbhag, Translated by Srinath Perur, Penguin Vivek Shanbhag returns with his new novel, Sakina’s Kiss, originally published in Kannada in 2021 as Sakinala Muttu. The story sees its protagonist, Venkat, surprised by a sudden urgent knock on the door one evening. He finds two insolent young men claiming to have business with his daughter Rekha. He deals with them shortly, only to find his quiet, middle-class life upended by a bewildering set of events over the next few days. Even as Venkat is hurled into a world of street gangs and murky journalism, we see a parallel narrative unfold, of a betrayal and disappearance from long ago. Translated by Srinath Perur, the novel is a delicate meditation on the persistence of old biases and a rattled masculinity in India’s changing social and political landscape. YOU MAY ALSO LIKE ... The Perfume Project by Divrina Dhingra, (Westland): For years, Indians have concerned themselves with making their environs, and themselves, smell good, a preoccupation that has led to a sophisticated culture of fragrance aesthetics. In this vivid narrative that blends the science of aromatics with travel writing, history and insights, journalist Divrina Dhingra investigates the idea of scent as a trigger for memories and emotions, as well as a mode of self-expression and identity. 184 september 2023 Scope Out Silk: A History in Three Metamorphoses by Aarathi Prasad (HarperCollins): An intoxicating mix of biography, history and science writing that brings to life the human obsession with a unique and coveted material. Roman Stories by Jhumpa Lahiri (Knopf): This col- lection by the Pulitzer Prize–winning author sees the city of Rome as its protagonist, not the setting, of these nine short stories. The Less You Preach, the More You Learn: Aphorisms for Our Age by Shashi Tharoor and Joseph Zacharias (Aleph): A collection of over 200 wise, witty, and memorable aphorisms intended to provoke, stimulate and entertain. —COMPILED BY ISHANI NANDI
Reader ’s Digest Humour in UNIFORM CARTOON: SHUTTERSTOCK “We’re a great source for local info info. All Harold does all day is watch the neighbours.” My unit was boarding a ship headed for post-war Germany when a sergeant holding a clipboard ordered us to sign up for kitchen duty. I’d had my share of scrubbing pots and pans in basic training, so I avoided the task by signing the name of an old friend, Alvin Harris. Three times a day for eight days, the ship’s loudspeaker blared: “Alvin Harris, report to the kitchen!” My ruse was never discovered, but life eventually got even. After my Army service, I got married and have been washing dishes every day for 70 years. —Wayne White When our son came home on leave from Keesler Air Force Base in Biloxi, Mississippi, his thrilled little sister followed him everywhere, even into the bathroom to watch him shave. That’s when she noticed a star tattoo on his shoulder. A few minutes later, she excitedly told me the news: Her brother got a star on his shoulder, “probably for making his bed every day.” —Marie Chenard Fritz Reader’s Digest will pay for your funny anecdote or photo in any of our humour sections. Post it to the editorial address, or email us at editor.india@rd.com readersdigest.in 185
Hunchback of the Fishbone Abanindranath Tagore 1930 10 ½” x 9 ½” Water colour 186 september 2023 Abanindranath Tagore (1871–1951) had a genius for appropriating stories set in foreign climes and transmogrifying them into his personal creations by immersing the narrative into the ethos of Bengal. Occasionally, he transported readers to his familiar grounds at Jorasanko in Chitpur, Calcutta, where he grew up along with his elder photo credit: courtesy of victoria memorial hall, kolkata STUDIO
’s Digest brother Gaganendranath (1867–1938), with their uncle Rabindranath (1861–1941) as their neighbour. Abanindranath accomplished this in Budo Angla, Raj Kahinii and other muchloved classics. What Abanindranath did in his stories, he did in his paintings too. His Arabian Nights series of paintings brilliantly testifies to this talent of his. Abanindranath reimagined it with great breadth of vision and wit as a melting pot of time, geography and culture. It was as if Abanindranath was adumbrating what Rabindranath wrote later in his song about the liberating power of imagination: Kothao amar hariye jawar nei mana, mane mone. (Nothing impedes my wanderlust) The Arabian Nights series and other works of the three Tagores are part of an augmented reality exhibition titled Modernity, Nationhood and the Unconscious: Abanindranath Tagore and the Garden House in Konnagar launched on 25 August. The Victoria Memorial Hall (VMH), University of Liverpool, and Konnagar Municipality collaborated to present the exhibition curated by Soumyen Bandyopadhyay, who holds the Sir James Stirling Chair in Architecture at the University of Liverpool. Konnagar in the Hooghly district is on Calcutta’s outskirts. Abanindranath spent many happy days of his childhood with his family in this single-storeyed house constructed in the 1830s in the middle of a sprawling garden overlooking the Hooghly river. Now the exhibition site, it was rescued from the developers and repaired. The virtual exhibition is also hosted on the VMH website and can be viewed at the garden house using QR codes. Speaking online, art historian Partha Mitter described it as an “innovative and completely new project” particularly in a country with small museum resources. Often accused of being a revivalist, Abanindranath was far from being so. As the artist and scholar, K. G. Subramanyan, had written: “But Abanindranath is not overawed by its [the past’s] presence; he plays around with whatever he finds without undue reverence or reserve.” Adding: “The intriguing interweave is most abundantly evident in his Arabian Nights paintings … And they are eclectic in more senses than one. He peoples the scene with the facts of the Calcutta street.” In this painting, the focus is on the Muslim seamster, his wife and the hunchback depicted inside a typical Chitpur tailoring establishment. In a smaller panel above on the right hand, the artist himself dines with sahibs. Beneath them is the signboard Kerr Tagore & Co., his grandfather Dwarkanath’s failed enterprise. Abanindranath is cocking a snook at the past. — BY SOUMITRA DAS readersdigest.in 187
REVIEW A Tale of Our Times With an unflinching eye and a nose for the truth, Anjum Hasan’s History’s Angel explores the many layers of India’s turbulent present and the shadows of its storied past A mong other things, Anjum Hasan’s elegant and thoughtful new novel is a Delhi book. Its protagonist Alif, a history teacher in his forties, lives in the city with his wife Tahi and adolescent son Salim; so do his parents and a few friends. Delhi in its many forms—from medieval Shahjahanabad to modern Vasant Kunj— informs Alif’s wanderings, his thoughts and the narrative. We follow him as he travels from old Delhi (where he 188 september 2023 Author Anjum Hasan lives) to a swanky Nehru Place mall for a meeting with an old acquaintance, and to the Humayun’s Tomb, where he takes his students on a field trip; from visiting an aunt in busy and cluttered Mehrauli to meeting a landlord in gated-community Noida. One soon realizes what an appropriate setting Delhi is for this story. As an old and multi-layered city of ruins, with the ghosts of many pasts and many kingdoms jostling to- gether, the capital is a reminder of how pluralistic this country has been. But as Hasan tells us, this is also a city made “so insistently, so noisily, of now”—full of lessons if you care to look, but ignored by people who are caught up with the chaotic present. And so it is with history in general too. Alif frets that most people have only a superficial interest in his subject, and that the modern age has created a rift from the past. He wants to photo credit: lekha naidu By Jai Arjun Singh
Reader ’s Digest make history surprising, non-linear—to show a dynamic India, not a monolith with one destiny (which, though the book only touches lightly on this, is what the Hindu Rashtra is geared towards). But Alif can’t afford to look away from his own ‘now’, for he has just got into trouble because of a student who has provoked and insulted him. If you read the jacket synopsis of History’s Angel, l you might think this is a straightforward dramatic narrative: about a Muslim teacher who twists a boy’s ear, rendering himself vulnerable since the new school principal has a barely buried prejudice against his community. And this iss the anchoring incident of a story that is also set against the background of the Citizenship Amendment Act controversy. But History’s Angel is a subtler, more searching book than can be described in such terms—less interested in being politically ‘relevant’, more inter- ested in the inner life and circumstances of a specific man. The reader may be primed for an unpleasant confrontation when Alif decides to visit the schoolboy’s (presumably bigoted) father—instead we end up in an unexpected space. There are other things happening around Alif, other vignettes that add up to reveal a good deal: a puja in school not long after the principal cautioned Alif not to bring religion into education; a passage where Alif and Tahi go flat-hunting and mildly uncomfortable banter grows into something menacing. And paralleling complicated national histories, there are complicated personal histories too—as in Alif’s friendship with a man named Ganesh, and an incident in their past involving a woman who now reappears. History’s Angel is a very interior work, since we are privy to Alif’s thoughts as well as his conflicted conversations with others (such as his one friend in school, a teacher named Miss Moloy). This means it isn’t always an easy read—it can feel weighed down in places, which is perhaps understandable since it is about someone who feels oppressed, sometimes even by his own thoughts—Alif spends much time arguing with himself. And yet, despite this, the book not only casts a quiet spell through its chronicling of his days and encounters, it also demonstrates how ‘othering’ can happen in a gradual, insidious, rather than dramatic, way. It leaves us with the question of whether any of us—including this angel—can fully understand the workings of history, and how it pertains to us and our lives. readersdigest.in 189
Brain GAMES Sharpen Your Mind Four-Part Harmony medium Can you divide this shape into four identical pieces by cutting on the dotted lines? The resulting pieces can be rotated but not flipped. medium Cami, Jai, Sonya and Tariq are walking single file through the jungle along a narrow path. Each hopes to spot a particular animal (iguana, monkey, sloth, toucan) and is carrying a specific item (binoculars, camera, compass, sketchpad). Using the following clues, what order are they walking in, what is Tariq carrying and what animal does Sonya hope to see? so she’s looking for 1. The person who is first is something else. looking for a toucan with 5. Sonya is right behind their binoculars. the leader with her sketch2. The person who wants a pad ready. picture of a monkey for Ins6. Jai thinks toucans are tagram is not in the middle. amazing but is hoping to 3. The person who wants to see a different animal. see an iguana cannot draw. 7. Tariq is using his compass 4. Cami has already seen so they don’t get lost. lots of iguanas and sloths Divide and Conquer What’s Cooking? easy Remove one of these five digits so that the sum of the remaining four can be evenly divided by the eliminated digit. medium Dolly and Ria are writing a cookbook together. Dolly provides 70 per cent of the recipes and Ria contributes the rest. If Dolly has 20 more recipes in the cookbook than Ria, how many recipes are there in total? 3 4 5 6 7 190 september 2023 FOUR-PART HARMONY BY DARREN RIGBY; JUNGLE WALK BY BETH SHILLIBEER Jungle Walk
Reader ’s Digest DIVIDE AND CONQUER BY PETER DOCKRILL; WHAT’S COOKING? BY FRASER SIMPSON; WELL CONNECTED BY DARREN RIGBY Well Connected difficult Starting on any hexagon, visit all the other hexagons and get back where you started without reusing a bridge in this diagram. You can only use three different types of bridges to complete your task. Which three types do you need? (The bridge types are colourcoded and given distinct ends to assist you.) For answers, turn to PAGE 192
Reader ’s Digest BRAIN GAMES ANSWERS SUDOKU FROM PAGES 190 & 191 Louis-Luc Beaudoin 6 Jungle Walk 6 6 4 2 3 1 6 5 3 5 9 8 8 2 1 8 7 4 1 2 6 3 9 5 9 5 3 4 7 8 2 1 6 6 2 1 3 9 5 4 8 7 september 2023 2 3 9 8 5 1 7 6 4 192 1 4 8 6 3 7 9 5 2 boxes has all nine numbers, none repeated. What’s Cooking? 50 recipes. Dolly provides 70 per cent of the recipes and Ria provides 30 per cent. The difference is 40 per cent, which is 20 recipes. If 40 per cent is 20 recipes, then 100 per cent is 50 recipes. SOLUTION 7 6 5 2 4 9 1 3 8 Ê each of the outlined 3 x 3 5. 3 8 6 7 1 4 5 2 9 vertical column contains all nine numbers (1-9) without repeating any of them; Divide and Conquer 7 To Solve This Puzzle Put a number from 1 to 9 in each empty square so that: Ê every horizontal row and Walking order, first to last: Cami, Sonya, Tariq, Jai. Tariq is carrying a compass and Sonya wants to see a sloth. 3 4 9 2 5 6 3 8 7 1 7 8 7 9 4 5 1 7 9 8 2 6 4 3 5 7 1 9 8 4 Four-Part Harmony Well Connected
Reader ’s Digest WORD POWER This fall, we’re heading back to school with words related to education. After all, learning is a lifelong pursuit! Master these terms and you’ll go to the head of the class. Ace this quiz like the star pupil you are, then continue your studies by checking the answers on the next page. By Mary-Liz Shaw 9. polytechnic adj. (pah-lee-’tek-nik) a related to chemistry b many-sided c teaching applied science 10. elucidate v. (eh-’loo-si-dayt) a lecture incessantly b grade strictly c make clear 11. philistine n. (‘fi-luh-steen) a agile debater b biblical scholar c ignorant person 1. pedagogy n. (‘ped-uh-goh-j - ee) a education principles b logical progression c controversial teaching 5. pedantic adj. (pe-’dan-tik) a suddenly realizing b concerning all students c overly formal 2. syllabus n. (‘sil-uh-buhss) a tool for counting b outline of a course c place to study 6. polymath n. (‘pah-lee-math) a wide-ranging scholar b scientific genius c enthusiastic teacher 3. didactic adj. (dy-’dak-tik) a related to Greek myth b morally instructive c imaginative 7. innumerate adj. (i-’noo-mer-uht) a ill-prepared b unskilled at numbers c infinitely wise 14. percipient adj. (per-’sip-ee-uhnt) a unsolvable b witty c discerning 4. audit v. (‘ah-dit) a serve detention b attend without credit c experiment 8. sophomore n. (‘sahf-mor) a teacher’s aide b measure of brain waves c second-year student 15. erudite adj. (‘ehr-uh-dyt) a scholarly b newly published c intuitive 12. rubric n. (‘roo-brik) a study of circles b grading guide c visual learner 13. tutelage n. (‘too-tuh-luhj) a individual instruction b musical notation c full understanding readersdigest.in 193
Reader ’s Digest The Mother of All School Mottos Graduates everywhere praise their alma mater, but the term originated with one institution of higher learning believed to be the oldest in the Western world: the University of Bologna in Italy. Established around 1088, it became known as Alma Mater Studiorum, Latin for ‘nourishing mother of studies’. Today, it has about 93,000 students. ANSWERS 1. pedagogy (a) education principles The new kindergarten teacher is an expert in elementary pedagogy. 2. syllabus (b) outline of a course As a World War I expert, Ms Sinha extended her class syllabus past 1900. 3. didactic (b) morally instructive Dr Seuss’s stories are both didactic and entertaining. 4. audit (b) attend without credit Auditing an art class let me be creative without the fear of being graded. 5. pedantic (c) overly formal Gunjan explained her theory in simple terms, avoiding pedantic detail. 194 september 2023 6. polymath (a) wide-ranging scholar Leonardo da Vinci and W.E.B. Du Bois are two of history’s most famous polymaths. 7. innumerate (b) unskilled at numbers The innumerate cashier relied on his register to give the right change. 8. sophomore (c) second-year student Sia transferred to a big state university as a sophomore. 9. polytechnic (c) teaching applied science An aspiring engineer, Anu attended the nearby polytechnic college. 10. elucidate (c) make clear In his book report, Arif tried to elucidate the novel’s complex themes. 11. philistine (c) ignorant person The politician was a philistine when it came to supporting the arts. 12. rubric (b) grading guide Ms Priya devised a different rubric for her ESL students’ essays. 13. tutelage (a) individual instruction Abhi learned about cars under the tutelage of a master mechanic. 14. percipient (c) discerning The percipient detective saw clues others missed. 15. erudite (a) scholarly Now that all her children completed post-graduate degrees, Maria has quite an erudite family. Vocabulary Ratings 9 & below: Bookish 10-12: Scholarly 13-15: Professorial MICHAEL BURRELL/GETTY IMAGES Word Power
Reader ’s Digest TRIVIA BY Beth Shillibeer 1. Flooding in Bangladesh led a non-profit to design schools in what vehicles that can reach cut off areas? 2. How many known millipede species actually live up to their name and have 1,000 feet? 3. Starting this year, anyone born after 2008 will be banned for life from buying what product in New Zealand? 4. Padparadscha sapphires, a rare gem mainly found in Sri Lanka, come in shades of what two colours? 5. What part of a dog is as unique as a human n fingerprint, according to oa 2021 study? 7. What clinging nuisance inspired the invention of Velcro in 1955 by Swiss engineer George de Mestral? 8. What mammal joined the American bald eagle to become a national animal of the United States in 2016? 0 6? 10. The world’s firstever webcam was set up at Cambridge Univerr sity in 1993 to monitor what important piece of equipment? 11. What profession did the alarm clock make redundant upon its invention in the 1930s and ’40s? 12. What trait do languages Kus‚ Dili, Silbo and Tuparí have in common? (Hint: The first is also known as ‘bird language’.) ’ 13. What species of cactus-like succulent, native to tropical Asia and also known as Euphorbia lactea, can grow to about 4.5 metres tall? Answers: 1. Boats.2. One (female Eumillipes persephone). 3. Tobacco. 4. Pinks and oranges. 5. Its nose print. 6. William Lyon Mackenzie King. 7. Burdock burrs. 8. American bison. 9. Aconcagua, Argentina. 10. A coffee pot. 11. Knocker upper. 12. They are whistled languages. 13. Candelabra cactus. PHOTO: ©GETTY IMAGES 6. What eccentric, lon ngserving Canadian prim me minister owned three Irish terriers and named them all Pat, sought the advice of fortune tellers and read tea leaves? 9. What tallest peak in South America, nearly 7,000 metres tall, did wingsuit BASE jumper Tim Howell become the first to jump off of in 2022? readersdigest.in 195
Reader ’s Digest A Trusted Friend in a Complicated World Lakeside by Jeannie Phan, exclusively for Reader’s Digest 196 september 2023