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– FANN WONG, ACTOR AND ENTREPRENEUR

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HER WORD

Let your emotions go 08

Have a flaky friend who always bails on plans?
Here’s how you can address the situation

How a mentor helped me
become a better leader 10

A mentee in Her World’s 2023 mentorship
programme tells us her experience

Always game for change:
Fann Wong 12

The iconic Singapore star shares
how she doesn’t let age get in the way
of her creative ventures

Yes, I think I really can
have it all 22

Her World Tribe member Shireena Shroff
Manchharam ponders if work-life balance
can exist for mums

Would you swipe
right on feminism? 24

In this debut instalment of The Singleporean,
a single Singaporean writer declares that
there’s nothing more attractive than a man
who embraces gender equality

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Add to cart 30

A monthly edit of the most
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Drama class 32

Step into a world of statement-making
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Everyday luxury 38

New York label Attersee offers carefully
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Hit reset 40

Poised to make a renewed impact in the world
of luxury fashion, these are the fashion brands
that should be back on your radar

The polo shirt is back. How do
I make it look current? 44
Start by throwing on an oversized blazer

Precious objects 46

These modern yet classic bags are this season’s
most coveted styles

Buying an independent watch?
Here’s how to find a good one 52
Contributing features editor
Karishma Tulsidas answers

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HER CAREER

Do you feel guilty about
taking leave? 54

Part One: We ask the Her World team, as well
as readers, if they can truly unplug from work
during a vacation

You shouldn’t feel guilty about
taking a vacation 56

Part Two: Do you find yourself hesitant to take
time off? Here are ways to unplug from work,
and actually enjoy your holiday

In the thick of action 60

Meet Dr June Goh-Rin, a medical doctor who’s
also an advocate for women’s issues, and the
former president of the Singapore Council for
Women’s Organisation

How much is family planning
actually costing you? 66

We do the math by consulting experts, as well
as parents in Singapore

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The rise of tradwives 72

And why we should all care when women
are making the choice to stay at home

The orange peel theory 74

Tiktok’s viral trend tests your partner’s
commitment to your relationship

Behind closed doors 78

Swing by these intimate,
hidden bars featuring unique concepts
and inventive cocktails

How can I use Artificial
Intelligence (AI) more
effectively at work? 90

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Nicole Lim answers

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Book club 92

Prescription glasses are shaping up to be quite
the fashion (and beauty) statement

Editor’s picks 98

Must-haves you will not regret
adding to your beauty shelf

Air-dry or blow-dry – which is
worse for your mane? 100
Haircare experts share their advice

Timeless beauty 102

Tools, materials and ingredients that draw on
ancient beauty wisdom will alway have a spot
in our routines

The cortisol connection 106

We dive into how our levels of cortisol – our
body’s primary stress hormone – can be
regulated, and ways to manage its effects

Back to bold 110

Say goodbye to low-key and hello to
decadence with over-the-top makeup trends
– maximalist beauty is taking over

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Let Your Emotions Go

Have a flaky friend who always
bails on plans? Here’s how
you can share how you feel
while addressing the situation
effectively.

Sarah Ng, a 42-year-old occupational therapist, has a flaky friend:
“She cancels plans at the very last minute, or shows up very late
for appointments – like three hours late – if she knows other
people will be around. She’s just very unreliable.”
The two have been friends since their teens and have kept
in touch, despite both moving away from Singapore at various
points. Sarah admits that she didn’t mind it as much when they
were younger, but now that she’s older, she finds it “quite trying”.
She has never spoken to her friend about it – as she thinks “it
would be weird” – but has been minimising their meet-ups lately.
Grace Loh, psychotherapist, counsellor and coach at
Counselling Perspective, notes that it’s important to approach
the situation with understanding, considering potential
underlying reasons for their behaviour, such as anxiety or
stress, while also advocating for one’s own needs in the
friendship. Here are her tips for dealing with a flaky friend:
1. Clearly communicate your expectations concerning
commitments and follow-through in the friendship, establishing
a foundation of mutual understanding.
2. Express how their flakiness impacts you emotionally and
socially, underlining the significance of reliability for maintaining
trust and closeness in the relationship.
3. Setting boundaries regarding future interactions is essential;
this could involve limiting the frequency of making plans or
reassessing the level of investment in the friendship if the
behaviour persists.
4. Prioritising self-care is equally important, as it entails engaging
in activities and relationships that promote personal fulfilment and
support, even if it means creating distance from the flaky friend.

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W H AT S H E S A I D

How a mentor helped me
become a better leader

Lum Jia Yi, assistant director at the National
Heritage Board and a mentee in Her World's
2023 Mentorship Programme, shares how
mentorship has empowered her to navigate
career challenges with confidence.

In 2022, I was asked to manage a team of five creatives
at work. Simultaneously thrilled and petrified,
I teetered between the euphoria of the added
responsibilities, and the fear of making mistakes
as I did not have any management experience.
I was also concerned about how this would affect
studying for my EMBA (Executive Master of
Business Administration).
All this were going through my head last year
when I applied for the Her World Mentorship
Programme. Upon the launch of the programme,
I was assigned to my mentor, Bipasha Minocha, group
chief marketing officer of Etonhouse International
Education Group.
I was hoping for a lifeline – a cure-all, if you will –
but what I experienced was entirely different.

OVERCOMING OBSTACLES

Bipasha wasn’t what I expected. She was kind, sincere,
and honest – happy to share her vulnerabilities,
but not someone who would hold your hand and
spoon-feed you information. She gave us books and
podcasts to discuss, and encouraged us to set action
plans and goals that were driven by our “why” in life.
When I said I felt like an imposter at work, she
looked me in the eye and asked, “What’s the worst
that could happen?” She spoke to me about her fear
of public speaking, how she stepped into it, and grew
into the confident public speaker she is now.
Her insights gave me an entirely distinct
perspective on how to handle difficult situations
within my team. When there were personality
clashes, she steered me away from the reflexive
response of extinguishing the fire immediately.

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Instead, she suggested that I find out what led to these
conflicts, and try to understand the perspectives of
everyone involved.
When my portfolio expanded to include digital,
marketing, and communications a few months
into my promotion, I once again felt like a fish out
of water.
With her wealth of experience, Bipasha
encouraged me to tune into my team’s dynamics to
uncover their individual strengths and aspirations,
and their collective potential. She also told me that
numbers never lie, which led to me rely more on
data to guide my work processes.
I learnt to view every challenge through the
lens of opportunity, rather than as an obstacle to
overcome. This change in perspective helped me to
adapt and grow within my role, and to embrace every
aspect of it – from implementing new processes
and fostering inter-departmental relationships to
accepting my first public speaking opportunity at the
Asian Civilisations Museum and writing gig (thanks
for this opportunity, Her World!).

THE MENTORSHIP EFFECT

For anyone embarking on a similar journey in any
industry, I strongly recommend looking for a mentor.
This mentor does not have to be an industry veteran
or leader – unexpected mentors are often the ones
that make the biggest difference, whether they’re
colleagues, supervisors, or even former teachers.
Is mentorship a cure-all for your career? Probably
not, but what you will get is more than that – your
very own cheerleader and adviser, and, who knows,
mentorship could even set you on the right path to
achieving your career goals.

Her World’s Mentorship Programme will be
launching its second edition in July 2024. For more
details, visit Herworld.com.

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GAME FOR

CHANGE

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One

of

Singapore’s

most

iconic

TV

stars,

Fann Wong has been experiencing a renaissance
since stepping back from her acting career.

From running a baking business, to illustrating

children’s books and fronting shopping live-

streams, Fann tells Her World how she doesn’t

let age get in the way of her creative ventures.

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Fann Wong, an “idiot” at life? Not quite how one would
describe the actor with a glamorous career as one of
Singapore’s screen queens, best known for roles like
Xiaolongnu (“Little Dragon Girl”) in The Return of the
Condor Heroes (1998), and Chon Lin in the Hollywood
action comedy Shanghai Knights (2003), where she
co-starred with Jackie Chan and Owen Wilson,
becoming the first Singapore actor to play a major role
in a Hollywood production.
Currently, Fann is featured in an Artscience
Museum exhibition, Goddess: Brave. Bold. Beautiful,
together with international actors including Michelle
Yeoh, Zhang Ziyi and Marilyn Monroe. Curated
by ACMI, Australia’s national museum of screen
culture, the exhibition (which runs until August 2024)
celebrates iconic women stars spanning over 120 years
of cinematic history.
Despite the accolades, “sheng huo bai chi” (“life
idiot” in Mandarin) is what the self-effacing 53-yearold calls herself, when asked to describe what it was
like when she took time off from acting to focus on
motherhood after her son Zed was born in 2014.
“In the past, my whole life was me and my career,
going from one set to the next, and work, work, work,”
she says. “I didn’t have to do anything else; I didn’t
have to learn how to do anything. But after I had my
son, I had to start from scratch. I learnt to be a mother;
I learnt to be the chef, the baker, and the ‘secretary’ of
my home. I became the tutor and coach of whatever
sport my son was interested in.”

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Having a child helped her realise: “I’m not the most
important person in my life.”
“Family became more important, and I learnt to
take care of them,” says Fann, who is married to actor
Christopher Lee. The couple have one child, Zed, who
turns 10 in August.
For the record, Fann has not retired from acting – she
recently wrapped filming on an upcoming Taiwanese
series Breeze by the Sea, directed by American-HongKong-Taiwanese director and entertainer, Peter Ho,
who co-starred with Fann in the film The Truth about
Jane and Sam (1999).
But given her various creative ventures in recent
years, you might be forgiven for thinking that she has
moved on from her days in front of the camera. There’s
her online baking business Fanntasy, started in 2021
after she rediscovered her love for baking during the
Covid-19 circuit breaker. And in 2022, she launched two
children’s books, Awesome, the Loud Little Boy, and
Planet Virus, which she illustrated, the first launch of
a four-book deal with a Taiwanese publisher.
More recently, Chinese fans might have spotted
her hosting live-streamed shopping events on
Xiaohongshu (China’s version of Instagram) where she
has over 220,000 followers, and can be seen modelling
outfits, and talking about her favourite fashion pieces
and beauty products.
Being a multi-hyphenate is not new to Fann. Her
career has spanned modelling, acting in TV dramas
and films, recording hit albums as a Mandopop star,
and even writing. Her debut as an author-illustrator
dates back to 2004, when she published the semiautobiographical comic Girl, Illustrated.

Draped silk
chiffon shirt,
multi-layered
silk chiffon
skirt, and
leather pumps,
Louis Vuitton

“I wanted to do different things.
Yes, the opportunities will
not be the same, but you will
not be craving for the same
opportunities any more.”

“As you age and experience life, you will get to
know yourself more, and understand what you
need, and gradually, the self-doubt you used to
feel will go away.”

But her latest ventures have the breezy, unscripted
confidence of a woman who’s comfortably pursuing
personal passions that were set aside for a meticulously
managed and choreographed career in the limelight.
“I wouldn’t say baking or illustrating are new things
for me,” says Fann. “I have always loved drawing, but I
stopped, because I wasn’t a professional, and I didn’t
pursue my dreams because it didn’t seem like a very
realistic dream at the time, but the universe has a way
of bringing things to you.
“And now, it really feels like I am going back and
reflecting on what my passions and interests were, and
finding that creativity again.”

GROWING WITH AGE

For many, pivoting into new career paths in their 50s
would be intimidating, but Fann finds that age has given
her the confidence to banish self-doubt and criticism
as she challenges herself.
Asked if she is worried about how her illustrator
and baker ambitions would be perceived, Fann
says: “Of course, there was self-doubt. When
I was approached (by the publisher), I was the first to
ask myself, ‘Can I do this?’”
As her own “biggest critic”, she subjects every
opportunity that comes her way to “many, many rounds
of questioning in my own head”.
“By the time I agree to something, it doesn’t matter
what anyone else thinks anymore,” she says candidly.
“I’ve already persuaded myself and, everything else,
the voices in the background, they’re not important
any more.”
It took years to develop the “self-love” needed to
silence her inner critic. “As you age and experience life,
you will get to know yourself more, and understand
what you need, and gradually, the self-doubt you used
to feel will go away,” says Fann. “At some point, you learn
what matters to you and what doesn’t… and when the
opportunity arises to do something, you trust yourself.”
One might assume that it must have been difficult
ageing in the public eye and seeing roles that used to
be offered to her go to younger stars, but Fann recalls
how, in her 30s, she was “always playing the same kinds
of roles”.
“Honestly, I was getting tired of it. I wanted to do
different things,” she says. “Yes, the opportunities will
not be the same, but you will not be craving for the
same opportunities any more.”
After all, the best thing about acting for Fann is the
opportunity to try new things. “Because you are growing
as a person, your thinking and your way of life changes,
and this influences you as an actor,” she says. “I think
that’s a beautiful thing.”

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cotton dress
with faux pearl
straps, Bottega
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“I married late, and had my child late. Taking time off
to focus on them felt like a true luxury.”
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“You cannot let yourself be affected, after
all, people don’t understand what is really
going on in your life. You cannot control
what others say or think, and I don’t want
to spend my energy on that.”

Motherhood meant that acting had to take a
back seat, and Fann felt a pang of regret over the
opportunities she’s had to pass up. However, after
decades of “thinking about nothing but work”,
getting married and having a child felt like a muchneeded change.
“I married late [at 38], and had my child late [at 43].
Taking time off to focus on them felt like a true luxury,”
reflects Fann.
Now that Zed is older, she is excited to once again
explore the roles being offered to her. “I think with
age, and life experience, we [as older actors] can bring
a different style of storytelling to audiences, and
that’s something that I want to embrace,” she says.
Fann shares that while she’s read some scripts that
have piqued her interest, taking up a role “depends
on Zed’s needs”.

UNBOTHERED AND UNINHIBITED

With live-stream shopping taking off in the region
(Singapore director Jack Neo recently got in on the
action, starting an e-commerce live-stream platform
with actor Terence Cao), Fann has also dipped her toes
into the arena with Xiaohongshu in China, where livestream shopping is extremely popular.
These live-streams typically feature an influencer
or media personality, who interact with audiences in
real time while modelling a product. Audiences can ask
questions, and giveaways and one-off special deals are
part of the experience.
Although Fann was initially nervous when
approached to do a live-stream, she felt it was
important to try something new. “As an actor, I always
had a script to follow, but I’m not very experienced at
hosting, so it was new for me,” she said. “But I always
believe that you have to stay curious no matter your age,
and I felt that by doing it ‘live’, I could learn something
and also have a connection with my audience.”
She was also assured by the professionalism of the
set-up, and the fact that there would be rehearsals and
a loose script for her to follow. But even with her years
in the public eye, there was much for Fann to learn.
“The first time, I didn’t know what to do, so I
just went on and on about the product because as a
consumer, I love knowing about the product and all
its specifications,” recalls Fann with a laugh.

“I remember people were asking me, ‘Why are you
just talking about the product instead of interacting
with your fans? And why are you taking so long to change
outfits?’ For me, I was slow because as a perfectionist,
I wanted to make sure every outfit matched my hair.
And they were like, ‘No, people just want to see your
face.’ So it was a really different experience for me.”
Beyond live-streaming, social media has also given
her the platform to pursue her interests. “It’s better
now, because you can have a say on your own platform.
You have a choice, and you have the freedom over what
you want to present to your audience,” says Fann, who
shares a mix of candid snaps from her holidays, updates
about her bakery business, as well as polished editorials
and photographs from the events she attends on her
Instagram account, which has 458,000 followers.
“And you have the power to use your voice, so the
media can no longer say something that’s twisted
or inaccurate.”
Fann has seen her fair share of controversy in her
day, including a firestorm of criticism from the public
who thought she was getting too big for her boots when
she accepted her Best Actress trophy at the 1995 Star
Awards by saying, “What else can I win next year?”
Back then, the uproar left her in tears in the ensuing
days, but today, an older and wiser Fann has learnt not
to let public commentary get to her.
“You cannot let yourself be affected, after all, people
don’t understand what is really going on in your life,”
she says. “You cannot control what others say or think,
and I don’t want to spend my energy on that. Our focus
should be on ourselves, our family, and our happiness.”

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W H AT S H E S A I D

Yes, I think I really can have it all

Her World Tribe member Shireena
Shroff Manchharam ponders if work-life
balance can exist for mums.

DON’T BE AFRAID TO EMBRACE
IMPERFECTION

“I want it all.” “I feel guilty.” “I have it all.” “I can’t
do it all.” Can working mothers effortlessly balance
the motherhood see-saw while fulfilling career
aspirations? Is “having it all” a mindset, and do we
lie to ourselves thinking we have everything under
control, while ignoring the ever-present guilt and
anxiety? Do some mothers have it easier, sacrificing
one side of the see-saw for the other?

CAN WOMEN HAVE IT ALL?

As a maternity coach who supports mothers making
the transition back to work, one of the most common
aspirations I hear from working mothers is the
desire to balance motherhood, and finding joy and
eradicating guilt while progressing in their careers.
Women feel so pressured by the notion that
they must do it all, and consequently get asked if
they indeed have it all. Spouses, friends, colleagues,
and family all look towards mothers as not only the
guiding light for their children’s upbringing, but
also as employees and breadwinners who commit
to work and financially help support the home.
As mothers, our role in our children’s lives doesn’t
have an expiry date – we are mothers for the entirety
of our lives, but our careers do have a shelf life. We
want to maximise the years where we can dedicate
ourselves to our roles, which gives us a sense of
satisfaction and purpose, and ultimately increases
confidence and well-being.
But the line gets blurry when we feel the constant
need to excel in the dual roles of working woman and
mother. Our societal definition of having it all means
shining and excelling relentlessly in both areas, but
truthfully, that’s hard to do.
Where does this pressure come from, and how
can we define “having it all” for ourselves in a way
that removes the unrealistic perfection, to create a
more holistic and peaceful definition?

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If someone were to ask me if I had it all, I would
agree wholeheartedly. That’s because I am a proud
“imperfectionist”. I know I make mistakes in both
areas of working and motherhood.
The reality is that these mistakes can be learning
opportunities. No one is perfect all the time, and
it’s normal to slip into stress and worry sometimes.
I would rather maintain a healthy mental outlook
and embrace the teetering see-saw. If we strive
for a perfect equilibrium all the time, chances are,
something has to be sacrificed.
I see many burnt-out working mothers who
perhaps need to shift their mindset into embracing
a little imperfection. Maybe you didn’t know your
child’s homework assignment, or you didn’t organise
that play date last week, but it’s not the end of the
world. Children are resilient, and explaining the
reality of your role as a mother and working woman
is honest and genuine.
I encourage mothers to explain to their children
that working makes us feel good, and even though
they are the centre of our universe, we also have
our own purpose, which impacts how we choose
to spend our days. It’s important to change the
narrative to explain that working not only provides
a financial benefit to their lives, but also benefits
you as a woman.
When we drop the ball and negatively label
ourselves as failures, we run the risk of constantly
feeling like we aren’t good enough. If we teach our
children that we must get everything right, we
create a dangerous narrative for the rest of their
lives. Life isn’t perfect, and we don’t always get it
right, but we are constantly trying to do our best.

MOVE WITH THE SEE-SAW

There are precious moments in life that may require
you to be a dedicated loving mother. You may also
have days where you are a stellar working woman.
Let the see-saw move, and start making your own
clear definition of what it truly means to have it all.
To me, having it all is health, happiness, and
knowing that I’m trying my best. And if things fall out
of place, I dust myself off, try again, and keep going.
The motherhood see-saw is powered by resilience
and flexibility, so embrace your reality, share it with
your family, and know that you certainly have it all.

Shireena Shroff Manchharam is the founder and
principal consultant of Sheens Image Consulting, as
well as the founder and creator of Getting to Happy,
a mental health movement to inspire our community
and society to live happier, more mindful lives.

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THE SINGLEPOREAN

Would you swipe right on feminism?
In the debut instalment of this new opinion
column, a single Singaporean declares that
in her search for a long-term partner, there’s
nothing more attractive than a man who
embraces gender equality.

has been debated about how we can improve
women’s equality from an institutional level.
However, have we missed an important aspect
of the conversation? For feminism to succeed, we
need the support of men – not just in policy-making
roles, but also with men at home. And this entails
forging mutual respect, support and constructive
communication with our partners.
It’s not every day that findings from a survey make
you wonder if you’d rather be alone than consider
the possibility of marriage or starting a family.
By the time I’m writing this, the infamous Ipsos
survey would have made its rounds online. The
results, released in March this year, stated that
62 per cent of Singaporeans (68 per cent of men
and 55 per cent of women) feel that “things have
gone far enough” when it comes to “giving women
equal rights with men in Singapore”. Furthermore,
58 per cent of Singaporeans agree that men are
being expected to do too much to support equality.
This is not the first controversial poll that Ipsos
has released. Last International Women’s Day, the
international market research firm revealed that
one in three men think feminism does more harm
than good in a global survey spanning 30 nations,
including Singapore, Australia, UK, and the US.
These figures reveal what we have already known
for decades: Patriarchy is still deeply rooted in many
cultures and countries, and it’s a system that’s held
by both men and women. Just take the outrage that
the Barbie movie is continuing to stir among both
genders for its unapologetic feminist messaging
(Shakira, we’re looking at you).
Returning to why I might be better off without
a plus one: As a feminist myself, I can’t fathom
being in a partnership where feminism becomes
the proverbial elephant in the room. I want to be
able to discuss values that I hold dear in a safe space,
with a partner I love and trust. And if a whopping 68
per cent of Singapore men think of feminism as a
“dirty” word, then what are the chances of meeting
another single who doesn’t?
Aside from the dearth of Singapore men who
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REDEFINING ONE’S VALUE,
REGARDLESS OF GENDER
An equal partnership starts with addressing
fundamental biases, with the most common being
income disparity. It doesn’t matter if my paycheck,
as a woman, might be heftier; we both bring home
the bacon.
Don’t get me wrong – equal contribution is
important in any relationship, but it’d be unwise
to place emphasis on monetary value above all else.
Your partner might be flush with the five Cs (cash,
credit card, car, condominium and country club),
but then again, he might also be a Cad.
One of the many contentious and familiar issues
in the feminist discourse is the topic of gender
norms. In most parts of the world, the idea that
men should always be the main breadwinner is
a standard that is hard to shake, even in more
egalitarian countries like Finland.
A peer-reviewed academic journal by the
European Sociological Review recently indicated
that in heterosexual relationships, men’s wellbeing across Europe is significantly lower when
their partners out-earn them, while findings were
inconclusive for women.
In Singapore, a 2023 Her World article that
touched on whether women would date men who
earned less than them garnered mixed responses.
While money didn’t present an issue for some
couples in a fiscal sense, the income disparity
became a problem when one partner, male or
female, feels the pressure to conform to traditional
gender norms. This creates a mental and emotional
rift when one questions their place (and worth) in
the relationship.

Then, there is the unpaid labour that women are
expected to shoulder.
We are supposedly more nurturing, are better
listeners, and are more in tune with our emotions
than men – as such, societal constructs portray
women as the likely caregiver in a relationship.
That’s not to say that women do not embody these
traits, but I believe with self-awareness, every
individual is equally capable in this aspect.
Take married couple Cliff Tam and Dr Tam Wai
Jia, for example. They have faced their fair share
of judgment over their flipped roles at home.
A former pastor, Cliff is a full-time caregiver to
their two young daughters while Dr Tam, a medical
doctor, is the breadwinner of the household. In an
interview for Her World’s video series, How to Build
a Singaporean Woman, the couple discussed their
unconventional arrangement.
When Cliff became a stay-at-home dad (SAHD)
to support Dr Tam’s return to full-time work in
Singapore, he struggled to find meaning in his life,
because he was doing the same things with his kids
every day. “I also felt very lonely, because when
I worked [as a pastor previously], I had friends
and colleagues.”
He adds: “One struggle I encounter is when I
meet new people and tell them I’m a SAHD. There’s
usually a long pause, followed by the question that
irritates me the most: ‘What else do you do?’”
It was a situation that was all too familiar for Dr
Tam, who was a stay-home mum while Cliff served
as an assistant pastor in Canada in 2018, prior to
their move here. She had just graduated from John
Hopkins University with awards and honours then.
“When Cliff transitioned into that role, and I saw
my [experience] playing out in his life, I think that
became a point of connection. It was helpful in
terms of us giving each other space and grace, just
to work things out,” she says.
You might be thinking, “Sure, their story is
a textbook example of how a supportive and
healthy relationship should look like.” However,
their experiences emphasise the importance of
empathy and compassion, communicating personal
challenges, the willingness to take risks as a team,
and sharing the weight of those decisions. These
are hard-won values that require an immeasurable
amount of work from both parties.
More than that, the Tams have shown that an
equal partnership isn’t always equal all the time.
Sometimes, it could be a case of one partner lifting
the other so they can be closer to their goals and

ambitions – the equilibrium is always shifting. And
that’s OK, because each person is progressing at
their own pace, but they’re doing it together.
And doesn’t that embody some of the basic
tenets of feminism, which include working to
increase equality, expanding human choice, and
eliminating gender stratification?
CHANGING THE FEMINIST NARRATIVE
Perhaps this is what the Ipsos survey, and 62 per
cent of its Singaporean participants, got wrong.
Women’s equality often gets misunderstood as an
uncompromising call to action or a zero-sum game.
Feminism isn’t about pointing responsibility
at one party in the movement against female
subjugation, or about subjugating men and
reversing the equation. Feminism can mean that
while we lobby against the scourge of misogyny
and patriarchy, we can do so with strength derived
from embracing our vulnerabilities as a couple –
by tackling tough conversations with empathy,
listening with intention, and showing appreciation
for each other.
In fact, feminism underscores the most
important “C” of all: collaboration.
Underneath the veil of cynicism, I remain
hopeful in my search for a partner who is an ally
– with whom I can offer my irrevocable support
and love, and who will reciprocate in kind. After all,
there’s still the 32 per cent who remain receptive
to feminist principles. If not, I’m open to casting
my net elsewhere.
And perhaps – with the right person – this
Singleporean’s stance on marriage and kids might
even shift from a “hell, no” to a “well, maybe”.

The Singleporean is an anonymous column by a
30something, female Singaporean writer who’s
obviously single (and cautiously ready to mingle).
She pens her thoughts on work, relationships, and
adulting from the lens of a millennial on the cusp
of a mid-life crisis.

“Feminism can mean that
while we lobby against
the scourge of misogyny
and patriarchy, we can do
so with strength derived
from embracing our
vulnerabilities as a couple.”
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DOES FEMINISM GET
A BAD RAP IN SINGAPORE?
Experts from local universities weigh in.

ON WHAT CONSTITUTES
GENDER EQUALITY…
Chong Sin Hui, assistant professor and expert on
Organisational Psychology, Nanyang Technological
University:
“Gender (in)equality requires equilibrium between
the two genders, thus it will be difficult to leave
men out of this. Also, gender biases can exist in
both men and women. You would be surprised at
how many women also endorse unequal gender
treatment due to extremely ingrained gender
roles and expectations.
Also, thankfully, men are not always opponents
of gender equality. I personally know many men
who have observed significant female figures in
their life (eg their mother, wife, daughter and so
on) experiencing great difficulties climbing up
the corporate or social ladder.
These men tend to be empathetic toward
women and supportive of gender equality
movements. The question is then how we can
develop such empathy in all – and not just
some – men.
Many people believe that gender equality
means that both genders should receive
completely similar treatments and outcomes in
life, but actually, gender equality comes with a
lot more nuances.
Instead of receiving the same treatments and
outcomes, a more accurate way of understanding
gender equality is that both genders are wired
differently, both physically and psychologically.”
ON WHETHER WOMEN ARE
PUTTING TOO MUCH EMPHASIS
ON MEN TO BE ALLIES…
Vivien Shan Wen, lecturer and expert on
Organisational Behaviour and Psychology,
Singapore University of Social Sciences:
“In advocating for gender equity, involving men
as allies isn’t about placing undue emphasis
on one gender’s role over the other; rather, it’s
recognising that the journey towards equality
requires a collective effort.
Gender equity isn’t a women’s issue – it’s a
societal one, where every individual, regardless of
gender, stands to gain. By engaging men in these

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conversations, we not only broaden the base of
support, but also address the systemic biases that
affect us all.
For women, it means access to equal
opportunities and the dismantling of barriers
to achievement. For men, it challenges harmful
stereotypes and opens up spaces for them
to express vulnerability, and embrace roles
traditionally seen as outside their purview.”
ON HOW WE CAN ALL BE BETTER
ADVOCATES…
Michelle Ho, assistant professor of Feminist
and Queer Cultural Studies, National University
of Singapore:
“It’s been ingrained in us that certain topics, like
gender and race, are highly controversial and
should be avoided. Culture shapes the way we
feel comfortable expressing ourselves, which is
why many people feel hesitant to broach these
topics with friends.
I often ask my students if they would discuss the
topics we cover in our gender studies course with
their friends, and most of them say no, indicating
it wouldn’t be a suitable dinner conversation. But
then, the question arises: Why not? How can we
shift these discussions into acceptable dinner
topics? There’s pervasive self-censorship, driven
by the fear of being perceived negatively or facing
backlash, such as being labelled as feminists or
being cancelled. This hesitance to engage in open
dialogue is likely rooted in cultural influences.
We’re missing the foundational knowledge
that other societies often have. There’s little to
no dialogue about gender equality within our
education system. Without these conversations
as young people are growing up, it’s difficult
for them to develop a nuanced understanding
of these issues. So naturally, there’s a scarcity of
informed awareness.
Perhaps there are gradual shifts occurring in
the education system, but based on my students’
most recent experiences, substantial changes
have yet to come about. This lack of progress
reflects the absence of gender discourse in our
educational landscape. How can we cultivate a
space for meaningful conversation and learning
when the infrastructure isn’t in place?”

HER
STYLE

Independent Woman

Tap on floral prints, flowy skirts,
sharp tailoring and sporty details
for a new take on power dressing.
Fashion designers are refreshing traditionally romantic
elements like floral motifs or dainty lace for Spring/Summer
2024 by incorporating these details with a bold approach. For
example, Givenchy’s Matthew Williams showcased iris prints
paired with impeccably tailored men’s coats in a muted
palette. Meanwhile, Gucci’s Sabato De Sarno made a splash
with his debut collection, juxtaposing delicate lace baby-doll
slips with oversized trench coats.
Originating in the 1780s as a literary movement rebelling
against austere Classicism, Romanticism emphasised nature
as a source of inspiration, prioritised passion over reason,
and championed individuality and freedom. Today, this ethos
is translated into romantic fashion trends through natureinspired floral prints and motifs, the luxurious use of sensual
silks and leathers, and subversive styling.
Closer in time, we inherit this style via the New Romantics
of the 1980s, a movement that dominated the pop charts
and fashion runways worldwide, giving us styles inspired
by iconic pop stars such as Boy George, Duran Duran and
Kate Bush.
This influential fashion subculture combined the sartorial
sense of George Bryan “Beau” Brummell – a famous British
Regency-era figure associated with the concept of Dandyism
– with Pirates of the Caribbean elements, androgyny, kabuki
blusher, pirate boots, and bows and ruffles of poets’ blouses.
This is seen in Louis Vuitton’s Spring/Summer 2024
collection, most noticeably with a billowy pirate’s
blouse in pinstriped peach silk, paired with matching
high-waisted pants. Layers of chiffon skirts styled with
athletic windbreakers offer a contemporary twist on the
aesthetic, which arguably embodies the pinnacle of modern
romantic fashion.

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1 & Other Stories x
Susan Fang
2 Hermes Home
Collections
3 Louis Vuitton
Flight Mode
Collection
4 Loewe Salone
Del Mobile 2024:
Lamps
5 Tod’s Summer
2024

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EDITOR'S PICKS

Add to cart

A monthly edit of the most stylish
buys to add to your wish list.
By Lena Kamarudin

1. Scalloped off-shoulder blouse,
$199, and matching miniskirt, $159,
Susan Fang x & Other Stories

Fans of Blackpink’s Jisoo will be pleased to know that
they can cop the Susan Fang floral dress she wore in
the music video for her debut solo single Flower. For
her collaboration with & Other Stories, the Londonbased Chinese designer wanted to include the dress,
but made with a lighter fabrication for increased
wearability and in a different colour – blue – for the
exclusive collection.
Another standout piece is the oversized floral
choker worn by Danielle from New Jeans on the cover
of V magazine last year – the exact same choker is
available in the collection. While these two looks
take centre stage, my personal favourite – the white
cotton scalloped top and bottom – is something
simpler yet equally elegant. I’d wear it as a matching
set, but these scalloped separates also shine on their
own when paired with your everyday basics.

2. Diapason d’Hermes hammered
aluminium and unlined bridle
leather lounge chair, Hermes

If dreams become a reality some day, I would love to
own this sleek yet elegant Diapason d’Hermes lounge
chair. The design made its debut during Milan Design
Week 2024 as Hermes presented new collections
alongside pieces from its heritage. Created in the
modernist tradition by Studio Hermes, this lounge
chair features a structured look with two pieces of
leather forming the seat and back, mounted on a
hammered aluminium frame.

3. Low Key MM supple grained calfskin
hobo bag, $5,650, Louis Vuitton

Ever since the hype surrounding the super-chic and
understated design of The Row’s Margaux bag, many
luxury fashion houses have taken note and jumped
on the bandwagon to create bags with timeless
appeal. Some frontrunners include Balenciaga’s

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Rodeo handbag and Bottega Veneta’s Andiamo
tote. Personally, I’m particularly drawn to Louis
Vuitton’s new Low Key hobo bag from the Flight
Mode collection for Summer 2024. From its discreet
(yet still iconic) logo and padlock to its clean and
unfussy silhouette and spacious interior, it not only
excels in practical design, but also in its price point.

4. Wood/paper hanging lamp,
Ernst Gamperl

I’m a long-time fan of artist and master craftsman
Ernst Gamperl’s wooden sculptures and vessels.
His expertise is working with wood, primarily the
European oak tree, and he selects his logs from
sustainable sources – either from trees that could
not stand their ground against the wind or were
felled due to decay. His ingenuity and extraordinary
craftsmanship demonstrate the infinite possibilities
of woodworking. Together with 24 other artists,
Gamperl (who won the first Loewe Craft Prize in
2017) was invited for Salone del Mobile 2024 to create
the Spanish brand’s collection of new lamps. This
is the first time Gamperl and many of the featured
artists have created lamps. The project has enabled
them to utilise a wide range of mediums, pushing
the properties of each material to create unexpected
interactions with light.

5 Kate Gommino Bubble leather
loafers, $1,000, Tod’s

First introduced in 1979, it is one of the most iconic
pairs of loafers and well-loved by many including
royalty, from the late Princess Diana to Queen
Rania of Jordan, supermodel Elsa Hosk, as well as
Hollywood A-listers Anne Hathaway and Selena
Gomez. Each individual shoe can take up to 35 pieces
of leather to make. The new Kate Gommino Bubble
version is a contemporary take on the classic style as
the gommini on the sole and heel are larger (hence
the name “bubble”), and is designed with vibrant
colours that are either contrasting or tone-on-tone.

JW ANDERSON SPRING/SUMMER 2024

D R A M A

C L A S S

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embellishments, embroidery and cut-out details,
all designed to spark joy and shake up your
Spring/Summer 2024 wardrobe.
Text Lena Kamarudin
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SHE’S SO FLY
Move over fringe, there’s a new decorative detail making its rounds on the
runway. Feathers appeared in many forms – as wings on an Undercover trench
coat, and on gloves at Sportmax. The most unconventional take, however, was
on an oversized sports jacket at JW Anderson.

1 Small Shield
earrings, $1,450
Burberry

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2 Oversized glasses,
$370, Loewe at
Net-a-porter.com
3 Dior Oblique
jacquard backpack,
Dior
4 Metal buckle belt,
Burberry
5 Denim jacket
with feather detail,
$757, Simonetta
Ravizza at
Farfetch.com
6 Suede vest with
feather detail,
Longchamp

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7 Feather-trimmed
cotton-blend
top, $425,
Veronica Beard at
Mytheresa.com
8 Leather two-tone
loafers, Tory Burch
9 Feather-detail
miniskirt, $279,
Munthe at
Farfetch.com

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SNEAK PEEK
These are not the sexy ’90s cut-outs that
Gen-Zers are wearing today. Think of it as
a more sophisticated rendering of a floral
pattern or an animal motif crafted onto a shirt
or a dress – as Valentino’s Pierpaolo Piccioli has
beautifully demonstrated.

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1 Vegan leather
bucket hat, $166.49,
Nanushka at
Cettire.com
2 Le City Eiffel
charm, $525,
Balenciaga
3 Cut-out cropped
cotton shirt,
Longchamp
4 Louise goldplated earrings,
$415, Lie Studio at
Net-a-porter.com
5 Lee Radziwill
Small Double bag,
Tory Burch
6 Leather cutout floral vest,
Longchamp
7 Cut-out trousers,
$1,153.75, Dion Lee
at Cettire.com
8 Small Andiamo
canvas and leather
bag, $5,300,
Bottega Veneta
9 Cut-out maxi
dress, $748,
Christopher Esber
at Mytheresa.com
10 Multi-strap
leather sandals,
Tory Burch

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VALENTINO SPRING/SUMMER 2024

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LOEWE SPRING/SUMMER 2024

POWER UP
WITH PETALS

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The bigger the blooms, the better. Designers are piling on the drama
when it comes to flowers. Case in point: the floral “armour” at Loewe,
knitted rosettes at Alexander McQueen, and actual pink roses stuffed
inside sheer garments at Simone Rocha.

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1 Cat eye sunglasses
S187, $690, Celine
2 Floral disc top,
$517.28, Paco
Rabanne at Cettire.
com
3 Floral beaded
recycled-tulle skirt,
$332, Rotate Birger
Christensen at
Net-a-porter.com
4 Embellished
leather strapless
top, $814, Area at
Mytheresa.com
5 Embroideredflower sleeveless
mini dress, $1,149,
David Koma at
Farfetch.com
6 Completed Works +
Net Sustain recycled
silver ring, $455,
Completed Works at
Net-a-porter.com
7 Brass floral brooch,
$520, Acne Studios
at Mytheresa.com
8 Knee-high leather
boots, $299, Zara
9 Classic Pannier
raffia and calfskin
hobo bag, $2,750,
Celine

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LITTLE BLACK BOOK

Everyday Luxury

New York label Attersee, which offers carefully curated
wardrobe staples that blur the line between corporate
and casual wear, triumphs with its superior fabrics.

By Lena Kamarudin

PHOTOS ATTERSEE

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THE LOW-DOWN
Former fashion journalist Isabel Wilkinson Schor
pivoted from writing about garments to actually
designing them. The founder and creative director
of Attersee started out with the desire to design five
perfect shirts to gift her friends.
She was daydreaming about an island vacation and
compiled a wish list of what she would pack for the
trip – including caftans, effortless shirts with matching
shorts, and linen fringed dresses. These pieces were
eventually added to her first collection, which launched
in 2021.
The New-York based womenswear brand prides
itself on offering everyday essentials designed with
discerning details, such as a structured vest with a
cinched waist to give you that hourglass figure, or a
silk-lined wool blend jacket with interior boning for
a structured silhouette that sits off the shoulder and
accentuates the natural waist.
WORK IT
Attersee’s design focus is simple: a timeless silhouette
with a comfortable fit, rendered in the most luxurious
fabrics. Highlights include a pair of silk-lined satin
trousers, and a cashmere cardigan with velvet-covered
buttons designed with a cutaway shape at the waist for
a fitted and slightly sculptural silhouette.
In her second collection, Schor introduced new
styles like a luscious velvet-lined cashmere robe coat
to much success.
Some of the brand’s bestsellers include its signature
caftan dress, the Everyday Shirt, and (my personal
favourite) the soft, lightweight cashmere silk T-shirt.
It’s a great layering piece for work or play, and is priced
at $782. In comparison, The Row’s cashmere T-shirts
start from $1,200.
KEEP THE BRAND ON YOUR RADAR
Attersee is a great alternative to the much pricer
The Row if you’re leaning towards a timeless and quietly
luxurious aesthetic. Besides the silk cashmere T-shirts,
cashmere wool turtlenecks and silk cashmere shirts, the
large cashmere wrap scarf, made of super-soft alpaca
wool and trimmed with nappa leather, is the perfect
flight and cold weather companion, doubling as a cosy
shawl or blanket.
shopattersee.com

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Poised to make a renewed impact in the world
of luxury fashion, these brands are the names
that should be back on your radar.
Text Daniel Goh
her world

Change is a constant in the ever-evolving world of
fashion. It does not exist in a vacuum, and creators
and customers alike are influenced by cultural,
social and economic factors, as well as advances in
technology and materials.
Fashion houses are always seeking to differentiate
themselves by undertaking a rebranding exercise
every few years to attract a new generation of
consumers, and stay relevant in an oversaturated
market. With every creative director appointed to
helm that change comes an exciting transformation
in look and attitude.
Here are four major labels that have made
significant waves in the fashion stratosphere.

NEW YORK: TORY BURCH

The American fashion brand was founded in 2004
with the goal of empowering women through
timeless and ladylike clothes and bags that always
looked wholesome and pretty. Deviations from
this uptown aesthetic were few and far between –
until now. There was a marked transformation at
its Spring 2024 collection, a big departure in
direction for a brand that epitomised classic
American womenswear.
Designer Tory Burch explored pieces that had
more technical complexity, without veering into
gimmicky or challenging territory. The new designs
elevated the brand to a cooler, more modern level,
while retaining Burch’s clean and classic ethos. With
athletic influences and deconstructed tailoring, each
look was made to move with a short hemline and
lightness of fabric. There were even pleated Grecian
viscose jersey shifts in candy colours, with hoops
on hems that bounced and circled, as well as tunics
covered in tiny bells, and mesh tops that looked like
a net of studs.
The brave new Tory Burch has given the label a
slight subversive edge, bringing it back to the fashion
crowd’s attention.

LONDON: BURBERRY

Chief creative officer Daniel Lee has signalled a
major change in the Burberry aesthetic with his
second collection at the brand. Born in Bradford, UK,
Lee succeeded French designer Riccardo Tisci, who
had shaped the Burberry look from 2018 to 2021. Lee’s
version of the English label dials down the glamour
and polish that had come to define the “Tisci look”,
by showing fewer curvy lace and sheer pieces, as well
as fewer made-for-cocktail lingerie dresses.
Instead, he presented modern streetwear pieces
with an easy fit, tea party flounces in equestrian scarf
prints, and bold floral patterns that would spark joy
in the stuffiest of dowagers. Lee utilised a softer
approach – even with the use of Burberry tartan,
which he enlarged to look almost minimal, while
boasting a new “Prorsum Knight” logo.
The new Burberry embraces dusty earth tones
in practical basics, a concept conceived with the
intention of building a versatile wardrobe. The
iconic Burberry trench coat, a signature piece, has
undergone a significant revitalisation, with numerous
drop-waisted iterations reminiscent of styles
predating Tisci’s tenure. Perhaps the most notable
change lies in the resurgence of English identity
and character, rejuvenating this quintessentially
British label.

1 Backstage at the
Tory Burch Spring/
Summer 2024
show
2 Burberry Spring/
Summer 2024

Lee’s version of the English label
dials down the glamour and
polish that had come to define
the “Tisci look”, by showing fewer
curvy lace and sheer pieces,
as well as fewer made-forcocktail lingerie dresses.
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What sets him apart is how he has injected a sensual lightness
to knitwear in the form of clinging, sinuous dresses, as well as
roomy trousers in powder pinks, melon, white and a rainbow of
pastels, all crafted in gossamer knitting.

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MILAN: MISSONI

The appointment of Filippo Grazioli as Missoni’s new
creative director in 2022 marked the start of a radical
transformation for this iconic Italian brand, founded
by Ottavio and Rosita Missoni in 1953. Still very much
family-owned, and led by their daughter Angela
Missoni for over 20 years, this heritage knitwear
line is beloved for its signature zigzag patterns and
energetic use of colour.
Grazioli honed his career in Paris, and designed
for Martin Margiela, Hermes and Givenchy. After a
few tentative runway outings, this was the season
that the 40-year-old showed how the Missoni brand
is still able to make a statement in modern times.
What sets him apart is how he has injected a
sensual lightness to knitwear in the form of clinging,
sinuous dresses, as well as roomy trousers in powder
pinks, melon, white and a rainbow of pastels, all
crafted in gossamer knitting. This stands in stark
contrast to the “more-is-better” sweaters and zany
chunky knitwear suits that had become the signature
looks of the Missoni brand.

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3 Finale at the
Missoni Spring/
Summer 2024
show

PARIS: MIU MIU

Miu Miu was founded by Miuccia Prada in 1992 to
complement Prada as its “little sister” label, and has
since been known for its rebellious girlish designs
that feature a subversive and punky attitude. Since
the pandemic, however, Miu Miu’s famous “naif”
style has evolved to define a more contemporary take
on femininity through an androgynous and genderfluid aesthetic. Its latest season even features the
revival of the Miu Miu Men’s collection, which had
been defunct since 2008.
Gone are the brand’s playful and whimsical
accents, such as Lolita-style minis, or broderie
anglaise ruffles. Instead, Mrs Prada sent out a
collection that was all about the surprising charm
of clashing unlikely genres. The spotlight is on the
sports jock aesthetic, featuring primary-coloured
polo shirts, bold waist-banded looks, and a nod to
Tommy Girl with low-rise board shorts.
These gym bunny clothes were paired with shirts
and suitings inspired by the wardrobe of a retired
academic, followed by V-neck sweaters, and librarian
cardigans. To top it off, gold brocade dresses, glitter
and gold floral embroidery came together in a
dazzling combination that only a designer of her
calibre could carry off with such grace and aplomb.

4 Finale at the
Miu Miu Spring/
Summer 2024
show

Miu Miu’s famous “naif” style
has evolved to define a more
contemporary take on femininity
through an androgynous and
gender-fluid aesthetic.

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ASK THE EXPERT

The polo shirt is back.
How do I make it look current?
Lena Kamarudin answers.

Wear grunge like a grown-up

Update this preppy classic with a leather biker jacket and
distressed jeans. Tousled hair is optional.

Add a posh spin

Despite the collegiate association, you can work a mature look
with the polo shirt. Choose a solid coloured version instead of
stripes, and pair it with a sleek long skirt.

Channel a girl-gone-glam vibe

The 2024 version of the preppy look is more feminine and
sophisticated – think ladylike separates like a sequinned skirt
and pointed heels (look to Dries van Noten and Miu Miu for
styling inspo).

Be bold yet classy

If you’re ready to try something out-of-the-box, take a leaf from
American model Paloma Elsesser’s book and pair your polo shirt
with a peek of coloured underpants.

1 Dries van Noten
Spring/Summer 2024
2 Veronika
Heilbrunner
@veronikaheilbrunner

Do you have a fashion dilemma? Send your questions to
fashion editor Lena Kamarudin (lenak@sph.com.sg)
who will solve your style conundrums with practical tips
and advice.

3 Pernille Teisbaek
@pernilleteisbaek
4 Paloma Elsesser
@palomija

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P R E C I O U S
O B J E C T S

These modern classics are the Spring
season’s most coveted bags.
Photography Shawn Paul Tan
Creative Direction & Styling Lena Kamarudin

Peekaboo ISeeU
leather and raffia
small handbag,
Fendi
OPPOSITE
GO-14 MM
lambskin handbag,
Louis Vuitton

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ASSISTANTS
XIE FENG MAO &
CHAY WEI KANG
STYLING ASSISTANT
VIDISHA JAIN

Chanel 11.12 Classic
leather handbag,
Chanel
OPPOSITE
Gucci Jackie
leather small
shoulder bag, Gucci

Jamie 4.3
lambskin
handbag,
Saint Laurent
OPPOSITE
Kelly Multi-Pocket
To-Go leather
pouch, Hermes

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1 Hermetique
stainless steel
watch on
vulcanised rubber
strap, 550 euros
($800), Baltic
2 Spaceone
stainless steel
watch, 3,000 euros
($4,400), Argon
3 Maestro 8.0
in stainless steel
watch with violet
sapphires on
vulcanised
rubber strap,
price unavailable,
Gerald Charles

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4 Lili Bouton
gold watch
with diamonds
and Australian
chrysoprase
on satin strap,
CHF230,000
($342,000) for a
set of six watches,
Beauregard

ASK THE EXPERT

Buying an independent watch?
Here’s how to find a good one.
Karishma Tulsidas answers.

FOR THE WATCH CONNOISSEUR

FOR THE PRACTICAL ONE

For a long time, the watch industry was
dominated by large conglomerates, leaving
space for independent watchmakers to only
create timepieces that were exclusive and super
expensive. Things have changed in the past few
years, thanks to an influx of intrepid watch lovers
who are on a mission to democratise mechanical
watches and make them more accessible, without
sacrificing quality. Baltic is one such brand.
Founded by Frenchman Etienne Malec, who
inherited his love for watches from his father,
Baltic is known for its three-pronged approach:
quality mechanics, a neo-vintage design aesthetic,
and affordability. The Hermetique, featured here,
is a 37mm timepiece built to endure our daily
vagaries with its 150m water resistance, double
domed sapphire glass, Super-Luminova hands and
numerals, and vulcanised rubber straps.

FOR THE DREAMER

A decade ago, financing a watch brand on
Kickstarter would have been laughable in the
industry. However, brands like Argon are changing
that narrative, as it hit its funding goals in less
than a minute on the fund-raising platform. It’s
no surprise, given the uniqueness of the brand’s
first watch, the Argon Spaceone. Shaped like a
spaceship, it features a jumping hour indication.
This is not the first space-inspired timepiece (look
at De Bethune and MB&F), but it’s certainly the
only one that’s priced attractively at less than 5,000
euros ($7,000).

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Any watch connoisseur worth their salt will
recognise the name Gerald Genta, the man
behind such iconic timepieces as the Audemars
Piguet Royal Oak and Patek Philippe Calatrava.
His eponymous brand was sold in 1999, and a
year later, he set up Gerald Charles, which he
would subsequently sell in 2003 to the Ziviani
family. Helmed by an Audemars Piguet veteran,
Octavio Garcia, Gerald Charles is undergoing a
renaissance of sorts, grabbing eyeballs for its
Maestro collection.
The unusually shaped watch is the brainchild
of Genta himself, and is imbued with the iconic
designer’s spirit. It comes in different avatars,
including this playful, gem-set Maestro 8.0
Squelette, which is available in a limited edition of
10. What’s truly exceptional is that all the gem-set
stones on the Maestro 8.0 Squelette are baguettecut, which is already a significant challenge when
the case is round, and even more so for the
Maestro’s unusual shape.

FOR THE JEWELLERY LOVER

Rarely has a watch brand been conceived with
women in mind. Beauregard is the exception, as
it melds watchmaking and jewellery-making to
stunning effect. It has proven its mettle by being
shortlisted twice for the Oscars of the watchmaking
industry, the Grand Prix d’Horlogerie de Geneve.
Fun fact: Beauregard is the first Canadian
watchmaking brand to be nominated.
Demonstrating its savoir-faire is the limited
edition Jardin D’Hiver boxed set, each with a dial
crafted from precious materials and adorned
with diamonds, showcasing the brand’s ode to
femininity and beauty.

Do you have a question about watches? Send it
to contributing features editor Karishma Tulsidas
(karishma@sph.com.sg), who will solve your
conundrums with practical tips and advice.

HER
CAREER
Do you feel guilty
about taking leave?

We ask the Her World team, as well
as readers, if they can truly unplug
from work during a vacation.
YES

“There’s this underlying fear of being perceived as lazy or lacking
dedication to my career if I completely disconnect from work
during vacation. So, I often find myself checking in on workrelated matters, even when I should be unwinding, just to avoid
any negative perceptions.” – Samantha Chua, marketing manager
at an e-commerce start-up
“I often feel like I’m letting my team or co-workers down if I’m
not available to assist them, even during my time off. This could
be due to the nature of my job in the events industry, but there’s
this sense of responsibility to always be there for my colleagues.
Taking time off feels like I’m abandoning them, and that thought
weighs heavily on my conscience.” – Lyla Tan, events coordinator

NO

“No, I don’t have vacation guilt. When I was still in my 20s, I went
on a family holiday with my parents, and was often on my phone
or computer, citing urgent e-mails and meetings. My dad, who’s a
doctor, asked me one day: ‘You’re not saving lives, what could be so
urgent?’ That was the perspective I needed – it reminded me that
life is not work. I am lucky enough to love what I do, but I also love
the joy of exploring a new culture, of swimming in the middle of the
sea – these experiences make life more rich and multi-faceted, and
in turn, make us more interesting and interested human beings.”
– Karishma Tulsidas, contributing features editor at Her World
“For me, going on vacation is a sacred time to unwind and recharge,
and I’m determined to make the most of it. I actively set boundaries
to prevent work from encroaching on my personal time, whether
that means turning off e-mail notifications, or simply refusing to
check in on work-related matters.” – Hannah Ng, business analyst
“I might feel a little guilty while I’m away, but it’s also important to
prioritise my mental health. Besides, I’ll only be away for those few
days. I’ll be around for the rest of the year, and I’ll be contactable
then.” – Shazrina Shamsudin, senior digital writer at Her World

Flip over to the next page to find out more about vacation guilt.

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VA C AT I O N

Even though you’ve booked that much-needed vacation,
you might find yourself hesitant to take the time off. How do
you address the guilt that may be weighing you down, and
actually enjoy your holiday?
Text Cheryl Lai-Lim

UNDERSTANDING VACATION GUILT

When was the last time you took a genuine break
from work? A true escape from the demands of your
job, and not just a half-hearted attempt to disconnect
while still tethered to your inbox when you’re in line
at Disneyland. The struggle with vacation guilt – a
nagging feeling that pulls you back to work even
when you’re supposed to be unwinding – is all too
common in today’s fast-paced world.
Research shows that vacations are essential for
our mental and physical well-being, offering a muchneeded respite from the daily grind. Of course, one
of the most obvious benefits of turning on your OOO
e-mails and putting your feet up is a reduction in
your stress levels.
“Vacations provide a crucial opportunity for
personal growth, rejuvenation, and self-discovery,”
says Aki Tsukui, a therapist at Counselling
Perspective. “They offer a deliberate break from the
constant pursuit of career objectives, allowing for
reflection and alignment with long-term fulfilment.”
But here’s the catch: Despite knowing the benefits
of time off, many of us struggle to unplug.

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Vacation guilt stems from various psychological
factors deeply ingrained in our work-centric culture.
The word guilt already suggests that something is
wrong, notes Sharmini Winslow, a therapist and
director of Psychodrama Singapore, a therapy clinic
under Promises Healthcare. She says: “It’s more than
just guilt – it’s rooted in fear and anxiety. When we
examine the foundation of this fear, we find that it
stems from a primal response to threat. People who
have been taught or criticised by various sources
may internalise the belief that self-care is selfish or
even harmful.”
In today’s society, there’s an unspoken expectation
that productivity should always come first. “The
fear of being perceived as lazy or replaceable lurks
in the minds of many employees, driving them to
prioritise work over their own well-being. This fear is
exacerbated by the constant connectivity enabled by
technology, blurring the boundaries between work
and leisure,” says career and life coach Kelly Chan.
Moreover, societal norms and workplace
expectations play a significant role in perpetuating
vacation guilt. With subtle cues in office culture and
outright disapprovals from managers, individuals
might be made to feel guilty for attempting to take
time off.
When 26-year-old marketing manager Jane*
decided to go for a two-week vacation in Europe with
her family, she was excited at the rare opportunity
to travel with her loved ones across the globe.
She carefully planned to take time off during the
company’s lull period. However, after informing
her manager Simon* about her intention to go on
a break, she was met with disapproval.
“He questioned why I needed to go on such a
long break, and asked me who was going to pick up
the slack while I was away,” Jane recounts. “Despite
assuring him that I would complete my tasks before
leaving and catch up upon my return, he made snide
comments and remarks, such as asking whether I
thought I was superwoman.”

In the days leading up to her vacation, Jane found
herself inundated with additional work assigned by
her manager, leaving her feeling overwhelmed and
anxious about leaving unfinished projects behind.
Thoughts of unfinished work and the potential
burden on her team clouded her excitement for
the trip.
Despite desperately needing a break, Jane
struggled to shake off the guilt, ultimately
compromising her mental health and overall wellbeing. This compromise manifested in increased
stress, anxiety, and exhaustion. Her inability to
disconnect and relax during her vacation exacerbated
these negative emotions as well.
Jane isn’t alone. Data published by the Pew
Research Center in May 2023 found that nearly half
(46 per cent) of the 5,188 US workers surveyed said
they don’t take their paid time off because they are
worried they’ll fall behind at work. This creates a
vicious cycle where employees hesitate to take
vacations, fearing judgement or repercussions from
their employers and peers.
In South-east Asia, 71 per cent of employees
surveyed by Milieu Insight last year also admitted
that they chose not to take sick leave despite feeling
physically unwell. In Singapore, 67 per cent would
not take time off despite not feeling good mentally.
Interestingly, there is a gender disparity when it
comes to the reasons for taking less time off than
offered, with women more likely than men to cite
feeling guilty about burdening co-workers with
additional work. According to the same study by
Pew Research Center, 48 per cent of women versus
39 per cent of men express this sentiment. This
divide is particularly pronounced among women
aged 18 to 49, with 53 per cent reporting feeling this
way compared to 43 per cent of men in the same
age group.
This gender discrepancy is rooted in systemic
fears and societal expectations, explains Sharmini.
Individuals who have experienced trauma or have
grown up with people-pleasing tendencies are also
more prone to experiencing vacation guilt. She
elaborates: “People who have been continuously
criticised by sources such as ex-bosses or parental
figures tend to internalise beliefs that emphasise selfsacrifice and discourage self-care. These tendencies
are particularly prevalent in Asian cultures. Women,
in particular, have often been conditioned to
prioritise the needs of others over their own.”
For Jane, the trauma from her previous workplace
has cast a shadow over her current role at her new
company. Despite being entitled to take time
off, she finds herself hesitating due to lingering
apprehension. “This job is different, and I’ve
observed my co-workers taking their leave without
any repercussions,” she explains. “Yet, I can’t shake
the feeling that taking time off is somehow wrong.”
Despite witnessing her colleagues prioritise their
well-being, she still struggles with the internalised
belief that self-care is selfish or irresponsible, a
mindset influenced by her past experiences.

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU DON’T
TAKE A BREAK

Failing to prioritise time off can have serious
consequences for our health, well-being, and
overall productivity.
One of the most immediate and pervasive
effects of not taking time off is burnout. When we
constantly push ourselves to work without breaks,
we risk depleting our mental and emotional reserves.
Burnout manifests as exhaustion, cynicism, and
decreased job satisfaction, ultimately leading to a
decline in overall performance and morale.
From a physical health perspective, chronic stress
is linked to various health issues such as high blood
pressure, weakened immune system, insomnia,
increased risk of heart disease, and so on.
Mentally, without opportunities for rest
and relaxation provided by vacation time, one
might struggle to manage their stress levels
effectively, increasing their vulnerability to anxiety
and depression.
“Continuous exposure to stress without adequate
breaks can disrupt the body’s natural stress response
system, leading to dysregulation of hormones like
cortisol and adrenaline. In other words, when you
perceive a situation as being stressful, the brain
creates catabolic hormones like adrenaline and
cortisol,” explains Counselling Perspective’s Aki.
“The purpose of these hormones is to break down
the body’s cells and tissues, and provide energy to
push through the stress. While you can work well
under stress and experience short-term success,
the long-term impact can be draining, and impact
levels of fulfilment and satisfaction. Over time, this
dysregulation can contribute to the development of
anxiety disorders characterised by persistent worry,
fear, and apprehension.”
Prolonged stress also affects serotonin and
dopamine levels, leading to depression marked by
enduring sadness and disinterest. Burnout from
lack of vacation impacts self-esteem, causing
individuals to doubt their abilities and value. This
cycle reinforces low self-esteem and diminishes the
ability to set boundaries or advocate for their needs.

“Continuous exposure to
stress without adequate
breaks can disrupt the
body’s natural stress
response system.”
– AKI TSUKUI, THERAPIST AT COUNSELLING PERSPECTIVE

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“The fear of being perceived
as lazy or replaceable lurks in
the minds of many employees,
driving them to prioritise work
over their own well-being.”
– KELLY CHAN, CAREER AND LIFE COACH

Ignoring vacation time can also take a toll on our
relationships, both personal and professional. Aki
explains: “Constant work without breaks can lead to
a lack of quality time spent with loved ones, resulting
in feelings of neglect, resentment, and frustration.
Additionally, individuals who are chronically stressed
and burnt out may struggle to engage fully in social
interactions, as they may be preoccupied with workrelated concerns, or emotionally depleted.”
Over time, strained relationships can contribute
to feelings of loneliness, isolation, and dissatisfaction
in both personal and professional spheres. Moreover,
if you don’t have support from loved ones, it can
further exacerbate stress and emotional distress,
creating a cycle of strain and dissatisfaction
in relationships.

RECLAIMING OUR RIGHT TO REST

The myth of productivity through overwork is just
that – a myth. Employees who take regular vacations
are likely to be more productive, creative, and
engaged at work, says career coach Kelly.
An Ernst & Young study showed that for every
additional 10 hours of vacation time that employees
took, their year-end performance improved by 8 per
cent. Another study showed that using all of your
vacation time increases your chances of getting a
promotion or a raise.
“Vacations – especially if you’re going abroad –
offer a chance to explore unfamiliar environments
and cultures, fostering creativity and innovation,”
Kelly explains. “Experiencing new perspectives
can spark fresh ideas, and immersing yourself in
diverse experiences helps to rejuvenate creativity
and inspiration.”

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To alleviate vacation guilt, setting clear boundaries
with colleagues and managers before heading out on
vacation is crucial. By communicating openly about
your time off, and establishing realistic expectations
about your availability, you can then fully disconnect
from work during your break.
Delegation also plays a vital role in helping to ease
vacation guilt. Trusting your team to handle tasks in
your absence not only ensures that work continues
smoothly, but also empowers your colleagues to take
ownership of projects.
“If you encounter resistance from your manager or
the company regarding your time off, I recommend
initiating transparent discussions with your manager.
I’d suggest presenting your request for vacation time
in a positive light, framing the conversation as a
necessary step for maintaining work-life balance,
recharging your batteries, and returning to work with
renewed energy and focus,” Aki shares.
“By articulating the benefits of rest and
rejuvenation, you can demonstrate your
commitment to both your well-being and the
success of the company. If applicable, propose
solutions for emergencies and managing workload
or covering responsibilities while you are away.
This demonstrates your commitment to ensuring
a smooth transition, and alleviates concerns
about leaving tasks unfinished. It is important to
communicate your request for vacation time with
confidence and assertiveness. Avoid apologising
excessively or expressing unnecessary guilt.”
For those who struggle with deep-rooted trauma,
Sharmini recommends psychodrama, a form of
interactive therapy in which patients act out past
events to deepen self-awareness and explore
new perspectives.
“We re-enact past scenes involving yourself,
exploring the messages received. Then, we may
visualise or document these messages. As adults,
we address childhood wounds, creating new
experiences to heal. It’s a process of undoing past
hurts before learning anew. Like school corrections,
we correct mistakes through action, as psychodrama
is action-based therapy. Past wounds often reside in
the body, where emotions manifest. Healing occurs
through bodily experiences.”
Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish –
it’s essential for maintaining peak performance and
overall happiness. As Aki puts it: “It is important to
take time to reflect on your personal and professional
values, and consider how prioritising work-life
balance aligns with these values, as well as how it
contributes to your overall happiness and fulfilment.
Taking a break is not a luxury – it is a necessity.”

*Names have been changed

WOMAN NOW

IN THE
THICK OF
ACTION
Doctor by day, champion for change by night: Dr June Goh-Rin is
a whirlwind of energy. This multi-hyphenate doctor, advocate and
former president of the Singapore Council of Women’s Organisations
(SCWO) tackles every challenge – whether at work or advocating
for women’s issues – head-on.
Text Karishma Tulsidas Photography Clement Goh & Athirah Annissa
Art Direction Adeline Eng Hair & Makeup Madiha Shaikh

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Dr June Goh-Rin is gracious to a fault. When the
team had to postpone this shoot, she was happy to
open up her house to us three days later, despite
the fact that she would be flying out to India in six
hours for an extended family holiday.
I thank her when we meet, adding that few
people would be this accommodating. She looks
embarrassed and says that she’s just chinchai,
using the colloquial slang meaning “anything goes”
to explain her “just-soldier-on” attitude in life.
It’s a trait that has held her in good stead,
especially as she juggles numerous roles as an
anaesthesiologist, mother, wife, philanthropist,
advocate, and patron of the arts, all while being
a fixture on Singapore’s social scene, a mainstay
on many of the city’s best dressed lists, and an
avid traveller.
“Sleep deprivation,” she answers with a big
guffaw, when asked how she juggles all these
responsibilities. As a senior consultant at
the Singapore General Hospital and adjunct
assistant professor at the Duke-NUS Graduate
Medical school, Dr Goh-Rin’s days can be
slightly unpredictable. The former director of
Neuroanaesthesia and Neurocritical Care starts
her day at 8am, and it can end as early as 3pm, or
as late as 6am the next day if she’s called into a
complicated surgery.
However, the unpredictable hours are
something that Dr Goh-Rin, who is in her 50s,
takes in her stride, especially as becoming a doctor
was a calling. She made the decision at the age of
five, when she had to go to the hospital after being
stung by a scorpion hiding in a towel.
“My parents actually discouraged me from doing
medicine, because this was in the late 1980s when
HIV was emerging [and not much was known
about it],” she says. “They kept asking me, ‘Can’t
you choose something safer? This is an incurable
disease.’ I was not discouraged, however. I just
went ahead. I think that when you choose a career,
you must have an affinity, passion and comfort
level, and for some reason, I am very comfortable
in the medical and hospital environment.”
Dr Goh-Rin didn’t just have to contend with
her parents’ discontent: At that time, the National
University of Singapore had a 30 per cent quota
for female students, citing that it was not worth
the investment given that many women would quit
when they get married and have children.
Thankfully, this law was revoked in 2003, thanks
to the tireless efforts of women’s groups such as
the 185-member-strong Association of Women
Doctors Singapore (AWDS), of which Dr Goh-Rin
has been a member for almost 20 years. In 2021,
there were 201 men and 196 women opting for a
first degree in medicine.
“I was told that at the interview, I had to say
things like, ‘I am going to pursue this profession
wholeheartedly. Marriage and kids will not be in
the way’,” she says with a shrug.
Was this the reason she decided to join AWDS?
She mulls over the question, but refuses to say
yes, arguably the easier, more PR-friendly answer.
Instead, she attributes her participation to the
more practical reason that she had more time on

“I think that when you choose a
career, you must have an affinity,
passion and comfort level,
and for some reason, I am very
comfortable in the medical and
hospital environment.”

her hands. She had graduated, no longer had to
juggle studies and work, her two kids were slightly
older, and she had a fantastic support system in
the form of family members, friends and helpers.
Despite the fact that she married 30 years
ago into a household where none of the women
worked, Dr Goh-Rin says that her in-laws were very
supportive of her career.
“My in-laws are extremely enlightened, and
they’ve always been very encouraging. In fact, two
weeks before our registry, my mother-in-law spoke
to me and said, ‘We won’t pressure you in any way,
or get in the way of your career’,” she shares.
EMPOWERING WOMEN
Set up in 1998 by Dr Kanwaljit Soin, an orthopaedic
surgeon and tireless champion for women’s rights,
AWDS was established to support the growing
network of female doctors, and shine a spotlight
on female medical issues.
Dr Goh-Rin sits on the board of AWDS, and
wholeheartedly supports its three-pronged
mission, which is: “To allow us [female doctors]
to network and support one another; to mentor
younger women doctors through challenges, such
as choosing a subspeciality, raising a family or
simply through the rigours of the profession; and
public education.”
The last part is something that she is especially
passionate about. During her tenure as president
from 2010 to 2012, she regularly organised
dialogues for the public, in order to bring to light
issues that women faced. One notable dialogue

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was “I Wish We Could Talk About This”, a series
of discussions for mothers and daughters about
oft-taboo topics such as eating disorders, financial
independence, as well as sex and sexual diseases.
There was also one five years ago about
Angelina Jolie’s decision to have a prophylactic
double mastectomy, and lessons to be learnt for
women in a similar situation.
“We decided to organise a public forum
featuring a panel of experts, including a breast
surgeon, a breast cancer survivor, a geneticist, and
a gynaecologist. This multidisciplinary team would
provide comprehensive information on screening,
risk factors, and the potential benefits of genetic
testing. Our goal was to address potential questions
and concerns women might have after reading
about Angelina Jolie’s experience, especially those
with a family history of breast or ovarian cancer.”
Somehow, working with and helping women
has been a recurring theme in Dr Goh-Rin’s
journey: She has been on the board of SCWO
since 2012, and was its president from 2016 to 2020.
During that time, she also took on the mantle of
president of the Asean Confederation of Women’s
Organisations (ACWO).
Dr Goh-Rin’s initial reaction was to say no
when Laura Hwang, veteran lawyer and former
SCWO president, approached her about joining
the board 12 years ago. “I could see such a huge
time commitment there; it was not like AWDS,
which was small, friendly, and did not run services,
but instead did ad hoc projects.
“Laura was so reassuring. She talked about how
wonderful it is to be there, meet other women,
and have the opportunity to give back. Plus, it’s a
chance to voice our opinions on women’s issues
at a national level. The organisation works with
different ministries, so we take an interest in and
provide input, even on the national budget.”
SCWO is the umbrella council for all the
women’s organisations in Singapore, with more

“It’s good to see Singapore
making strides to address
these inequalities. The Council
for Board Diversity, which
former President Halimah
Yacob supported, was a
positive step forward.”

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than 60 member organisations, representing
600,000 women in Singapore. To achieve its
mission of “Equal Space, Equal Voice and Equal
Worth” for women, SCWO embarks on research
and advocacy programmes to close the gender
data gap, and also provides services such as the
Star Shelter for victims of abuse.
During her tenure as president, Dr Goh-Rin was
also co-chair of Star Shelter; the role required her
to understand the widespread effects of domestic
violence in Singapore.
“You see how it affects the whole family – some
[women] have babies, toddlers. It’s more than just
the woman being impacted, it’s the children, the
whole family life, and they all go through so much
trauma and grief,” she says.
Her understanding of the issue’s complexity
shaped her decisions to organise conferences and
symposiums to raise awareness for the cause. She
shares: “We worked with the Ministry of Social
and Family Development, and other government
organisations to give them feedback, and highlight
the issues these women were facing. It was quite
powerful to actually do something for these
women.”
During that period, she was also asked to chair
the Asean arm of the organisation, thus giving
her the opportunity to learn about the issues that
women from other Asian countries faced, and
inculcate best practices in Singapore.
When asked about milestone achievements
during her tenure, she pauses slightly. The two that
stand out involve tackling the issues of women and
ageing, as well as better representation of women
on boards. In fact, she is currently the chair of the
task force on ageing in women for the SCWO, and
was previously on the Council for Board Diversity.
When she first joined the organisation, only
10 per cent of listed boards featured female
members. “Can you believe it?” she asks with
incredulity. “We have some of the most highly
trained, highly educated women, and yet when it
comes to SGX-listed boards, we have 10 per cent
female representation or less. Some cities are
better than us.
“When you look at the statistics, being on
this committee gives you a broader view – not
just Singapore, but worldwide. It’s good to see
Singapore making strides to address these
inequalities. The Council for Board Diversity,
which former President Halimah Yacob supported,
was a positive step forward. They were asking for
20 per cent by 2020.”
It’s a testament to SCWO’s hard work that today,
women hold about 22.7 per cent of board seats in
the top 100 listed companies on the Singapore
Exchange (SGX) as of June 2023, according to the
Council for Board Diversity. This is up from around
15 per cent in 2018. Women’s representation is
highest on statutory boards, making up over 32
per cent of board seats.
“It’s still a work in progress, but to truly advocate
for change, you need the numbers to back it up,
to show the government and the public,” she says.
Today, Dr Goh-Rin also sits on the board of
SG Her Empowerment (SHE). Asked by founder

and lawyer Stefanie Yuen-Thio to join the board,
she explains: “There are a few key areas we focus
on. One issue that always bothered me – it really
needed to be addressed – is how our younger
generation is constantly exposed online.”
Part of its work in fighting for gender equality
includes a centre called Shecares@SCWO, which
helps women tackle online abuse. A hotline and
text-line connects victims to specialists who can
guide them on their next steps; they also have
access to trauma-informed counselling and pro
bono legal advice.
“There’s no single agency focused on handling
cyberbullying. Have you heard similar stories?
Friends with teenage daughters being bullied
online, and they don’t know what to do? Well, now
we have a one-stop solution for that.”
She adds: “That’s why having collaboration
between different groups is so important. That,
I think, is the strength of SCWO as an umbrella
organisation – it can bring together the diverse talents,
interests, and strengths of other organisations, and
empower them to make a difference.”
STANDING ON THE SHOULDERS OF GIANTS
Dr Goh-Rin’s participation in these programmes
is also marked by a desire to learn from incredible
women.
“It’s amazing working with so many passionate
women in these different associations. With the
AWDS, I collaborated with fellow doctors. Then, on
the SCWO board, I was surrounded by incredible
women – presidents of organisations like PPIS (the
Singapore Muslim Women’s Association), NTUC,
PA Win, Aware... It was a bit intimidating at first,
being from such a specialised medical background,
but also incredibly exciting to interact with all
these inspiring leaders.”
When asked if she ever feels imposter syndrome,
her answer is demonstrative of her “chinchai-ness”.
“Definitely. Even with the amazing women at SCWO,
I sometimes wonder if I have their same strength
or leadership skills. But maybe that comes from
my medical background, so I just focus on getting
the job done. And I try not to let those thoughts
get to me.
“I tend to see things in a positive light, focusing
on what I can learn from others. Instead of
comparing myself and feeling inadequate, I
appreciate their strengths and think, ‘Wow, she's
amazing at this! How can I develop that skill too?’”
She adds: “Ultimately, these experiences with
strong women leaders inspired me to join these
organisations. We need people who will take action
on these issues, not just quietly accept them.”

Yong Siew Toh Music Conservatory Board, and was
formerly on the fundraising board of the National
Gallery of Singapore. Both of her children also
share her artistic interests.
Her 20-year-old son is studying architecture,
and her 26-year-old daughter, who also paints
miniature ceramics, is going to pursue a masters
degree in South-east Asian art and ceramics.
She says: “I support Asian artists because art
played an important role in our lives when the
kids were young. I’d often take them to the Asian
Civilisations Museum – the interactive displays
really captured their imaginations.”
Known for her impeccable style, Dr GohRin has an eye for fashion. For this shoot, she
brought out a timeless 25-year-old Jil Sander suit,
modernised with Bottega Veneta drop earrings.
Another passion is her vintage jewellery collection,
started 20 years ago before prices skyrocketed due
to online bidding and the rise of the Chinese buyer.
“My jewellery collection began during our time
in the UK [where she used to work]. Weekends
were for farmers’ markets and flea markets. That
habit of exploring markets continued when we
travelled to Europe, where I hunted for vintage
jewellery at flea markets and auction houses –
back when things weren’t all online,” she says.
Whether in medicine, advocacy, art, or in
life, Dr Goh-Rin does not hesitate in pursuing
her passions wholeheartedly. Her resilience and
positivity are embodied in her life’s philosophy:
“I tend to go with the path of least resistance.
I never bang my head against the wall – if one door
opens, I just go through it.”

Dr Goh-Rin will be discussing women’s health
issues for the upcoming Her World original
docuseries “How To Build A Singaporean Woman”,
which highlights the social, systemic and cultural
issues that women in Singapore face.

“Ultimately, these experiences
with strong women leaders
inspired me to join these
organisations. We need
people who will take action
on these issues, not just
quietly accept them.”

A LOVER OF THE ARTS
Apart from her work as a doctor, an advocate, and
her involvement with charitable organisations like
Dover Park Hospital, Dr Goh-Rin is an art lover
and collector.
She began her collection 30 years ago when
decorating her home, drawn to South-east Asian
and Chinese artworks, along with vintage Chinese
furniture. Her passion is evident – she serves as
the chair of the fundraising committee for the

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HOW MUCH IS

FA M I L Y P L A N N I N G

ACTUALLY

COSTING YOU?
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It’s always prudent to be financially sound and savvy –
especially if you’re planning to start a family. Find out how you
and your partner can map out a financial plan that is realistic,
based on advice from parents and experts.
Text Mary Wu

Growing your family with a bouncing bundle of
joy is great news, and to properly provide for your
new addition it’s important to consider the various
aspects of family planning. Beyond the usual hospital
visits, scans, childbirth, cribs and pumps, there might
be additional factors such as fertility, unforeseen
complications and, of course, the marathon of seeing
your newborn through to adulthood.

WHAT THEY DIDN’T TELL YOU
ABOUT… HAVING A BABY

You’re raring to settle down and start a family,
but have you considered how much you’ll need
financially? Let’s be realistic: Having children costs
money. The key is to plan early to ensure that you’re
well-prepared for the road ahead.
“Starting small is better than not starting at all.”
– this is something that financial service manager
Samuel Goh often tells his clients who are starting
their family planning. The father of three estimates
child-rearing expenses to comprise 20 to 30 per cent
of one’s income as a general guide.
“Costs involved before a baby is even born include
prenatal vitamins, fertility treatments if needed, and
baby essentials. This can cost $5,000 and upwards.
Next are the gynaecological consultations, which
cost about $100 to $300 per session. Hospital fees
aside, birth plans include doula services, birthing

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classes, and even birth photography – this can cost
upwards of $3,000,” he says.
To support Singaporeans with the costs of
conception support, and maternity and newborn
care, the Government offers a number of financing
schemes covered by Medisave or Medishield plans
(with the exception of the Assisted Reproduction
Technology Scheme, which is a Government
co-funded scheme).
The Medisave Maternity Package covers up to
$900 for pre-delivery medical expenses, an additional
surgical withdrawal limit up to $2,600, and up to
$550 per day of hospital stay. To defray the costs
of a child’s healthcare expenses, the Government
automatically creates a Medisave account with a
grant of $4,000. There is also Medishield Life, a
mandatory basic health insurance that covers all
babies from birth. Other Government support, such
as the Medisave Maternity Package and the Baby
Bonus Cash Gift, is available too.
Sow Wei Ting, a financial consultant and soonto-be mother-of-two, reveals that additional costs
can vary widely. These range from engaging a
confinement nanny, which has set her back about
$4,000 a month, to ongoing expenses such as infant
care or childcare, which can range from $300 to
$2,000 a month.
Additionally, she hires a helper (approximately
$700 a month, excluding upfront agency fees),
purchases formula milk if needed, and spends
around $300 a month on diapers. Visits to the
paediatrician can also add up, costing up to $100
per month, she says.
She adds: “In the event of delivery complications,
if the mother has a hospitalisation plan, this might be
covered. Otherwise, my advice would be to consider
a subsidised ward in a public hospital – that will
help to manage costs. The same applies for extended
hospital stay for the newborn.

“Do also budget for an emergency C-section in
your delivery costs because, if required, this can add
a lot. It is also prudent to have at least six months of
emergency savings for unforeseen circumstances,
and look into maternity plans that allow for a baby to
be insured with hospitalisation and critical illnesses
coverage from birth, without a need for medical
underwriting (or declaration of health conditions)
– one of the most overlooked aspects of financially
prudent family planning.”
Preparing for unforeseen circumstances is also
key, learnt Tjie Siew, a director of student affairs.
She says it was only natural for her to discuss her
family plans with her financial consultant ahead of
time, given her organised and well-prepared nature.
She recalls: “I did not foresee myself being
diagnosed with pre-eclampsia. I was hospitalised
for two weeks before I gave birth prematurely to a
healthy baby girl at 35 weeks and four days. My baby
also had serious jaundice, so she needed intensive
phototherapy. These are things you can’t really
plan for.”
Jessie Tan, a 39-year-old real estate consultant,
also experienced pregnancy complications with
her second child, conceived via a frozen embryo.
“I have a low placenta, hence in my third trimester,
I kept bleeding and the doctor admitted me twice
in December 2023 for observation, which resulted
in a $6,000 bill (in a private hospital). Luckily, the
hospitalisation plan I bought covered 100 per cent
of the fees,” she says.

platform, shares that the platform advises clients on
which clinics and countries are suitable, as well as
the differences in IVF regulations for each country.
In fact, encountering infertility in the course
of your family plans might be more common than
you think. It affects one in six couples in Singapore,
no matter their gender, race, or ethnicity, notes
Tim Kwan, managing director, Asia, Virtus Health, a
global Assisted Reproductive Service provider that
runs a fertility centre in Singapore.
He references data from the World Health
Organization that was extrapolated to reference
Singaporeans by the National University Health
System (NUHS).
He adds: “About 15 to 20 per cent of couples
in Singapore are unable to conceive within 12
months of trying for a baby… they spend thrice as
long, an average of 3.4 years to conceive naturally,”
citing a recent white paper on fertility in Asia by
Ferring Pharmaceuticals.
According to Singhealth, IVF in a Singapore
public hospital costs between $10,000 and $12,000
depending on the selected treatment. To help
defray costs, those undergoing assisted conception
procedures in public assisted reproduction centres
may be eligible for up to 75 per cent in co-funding
from the Government.
Couples can also utilise Medisave to further help
with the costs, up to a lifetime Medisave withdrawal
limit of $15,000 per patient.

WHAT THEY DIDN’T TELL YOU
ABOUT… IVF TREATMENTS AND
EGG FREEZING

For some couples, getting pregnant may not come
easy, and they may need professional intervention
– as well as additional funds.
Jessie shares: “I started my in-vitro fertilisation
(IVF) journey almost seven years ago.” It was a journey
of ups and downs. After failing treatments thrice in
Singapore, which included a private cycle that cost
$15,000 at that time, she looked overseas for options.
She recalls: “I decided to head to a well-reviewed
clinic in Malaysia that I heard has a high IVF success
rate. It was also cheaper due to the currency exchange
rate – about $5,000 per cycle.”
Finally, in early 2021, after a total of seven tries,
she eventually conceived her son naturally.
Like Jessie, a lot of Zora Health’s clients go
overseas for treatments as it can be 20 to 60 per cent
cheaper. Anna Haotanto, CEO and founder of the
one-stop reproductive health and family planning

Encountering infertility in the
course of your family plans
might be more common than
you think. It affects one in six
couples in Singapore.

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“About 15 to 20 per cent of couples in Singapore
are unable to conceive within 12 months of trying
for a baby… they spend thrice as long, an average
of 3.4 years to conceive naturally."
- TIM KWAN, MANAGING DIRECTOR, ASIA, VIRTUS HEALTH

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A typical ballpark figure
to raise a family is around
$300,000 or more per child.
This includes giving birth in
a few thousand to $30,000.

For women who plan to have children later in life,
elective egg freezing (EEF) might be an option. This
is a fertility option for women who wish to preserve
their reproductive options while focusing on their
careers or other life goals. Other reasons women
freeze their eggs include preserving their eggs before
a procedure such as the removal of ovarian cysts or
undergoing cancer treatment.
According to the Ministry of Health, the age limit
for EEF is set at 37 years. No subsidies are available
for EEF. Only legally married couples can use their
frozen eggs for procreation, it said.
However, freezing your eggs is not a guarantee
and shouldn’t be seen as such, cautions Zora Health’s
Anna. She notes that the cost of egg freezing in
Singapore ranges from $12,000 to $25,000 before
GST, depending on clinics, specialists, and factors
such as age, ovarian reserve, and treatment protocols.
Egg quality decreases with age, adds Tim.
He says: “At Virtus Fertility Centre Singapore, due to
our investment in people, processes, and equipment,
in 2023, the ongoing pregnancy per Frozen Embryo
Transfer (FET) is 53.3 per cent for our patients 30 years
old and below; for patients above 45 years old, it’s
40 per cent.”
In addition to the full suite of fertility services
that Virtus Fertility Centre offers, the centre has
also launched IVF(SG), the first private IVF services
provider to offer fertility services at public hospital
prices. This ensures patients get quick access to
fertility treatment, while keeping treatment fees
fixed at $12,888. While Government subsidies aren’t
available, patients are able to utilise their Medisave
for IVF treatments.
Meanwhile, Zora Health makes financial
consulting an integral part of its comprehensive
approach to fertility care. This includes assessing
corporate coverage, exploring payment options,
and connecting clients with resources for financial
assistance if needed.
“Our goal is to ensure that cost is not a barrier to
accessing quality reproductive health care, and we
are committed to empowering our clients with the
information and support they need to achieve their
family planning goals,” says Anna.

WHAT THEY DIDN’T TELL YOU
ABOUT... RAISING A CHILD

It’s more than just getting past those “terrible
twos”, feeding and clothing your child, or providing
an education and pocket money. Parents also have
to consider the “what ifs” and, if they can afford it,
giving their little one a better head start in life.
By assessing her financial situation, a woman can
make informed decisions to determine how many
children she and her spouse can afford to support
without jeopardising their overall financial stability,
says Michelle Ngiam, an executive senior financial
consultant. The mother-of-two is a firm believer of
making financial plans before starting a family.
A typical ballpark figure to raise a family is around
$300,000 or more per child (zero to 18 years), she
estimates. This includes giving birth in Singapore,
which ranges from a few thousand to $30,000,
depending on whether there are any complications.
As for education, studying in a Ministry of
Education kindergarten costs $163.50 a month, while
going to a private preschool can cost up to $2,200.
There may be working mother subsidies available.
Primary, secondary and junior college education is
heavily subsidised, starting from $13 to $43 a month.

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For higher education, it can be about $10,000 a year
for a local degree; while studying overseas could
chalk up $50,000 to $100,000 a year, including living
expenses.
Other educational expenses such as childcare
fees, tuition and other enrichment vary, with the
latter ranging from $20 to $50 per class on average,
shares Michelle.
For her own children, Michelle has in place
hospitalisation and accident plans to cover medical
bills, life insurance with all-stage critical illness
coverage, as well as an endowment savings plan and
investment plan – “not to spoil them, but to have
it ready just in case” – that can also be used as an
education or family fund if needed.
For both children, she spends about $8,000 a
year on insurance, and $18,000 annually on their
two endowments and one investment plan.

HERE’S HOW
MUCH YOU’LL
NEED PER CHILD
BEFORE:
IVF treatments (if needed)
– from $10,000 per session
Prenatal vitamins,
baby essentials
– $5,000 or more
DURING:
Gynaecological
consultations
– $1,000 to $3,000 (based on
10 sessions)
(Optional) Doula services,
birthing classes, birth
photography
– $3,000 or more
Delivery
– from $0 (fully subsidised) to
over $10,000
(Optional) Confinement
nanny
– $4,000

WHAT THEY DIDN’T TELL YOU
ABOUT… MAKING A LIFESTYLE
CHANGE

No one said motherhood would be easy, and
that includes making adjustments to your life to
accommodate the needs of your newborns. Your
new shopping splurges might instead include the
newest baby stroller; you may even need to pare
down your yearly trip to Europe.
Michelle helps her clients reach their goals
despite limitations such as money, energy and time.
In this case, it is important to prioritise what is most
important to them at that juncture, she says.
To bring expenses down, she suggests taking
advantage of promotions at baby fairs, utilising credit
cards for cash back or miles, splitting high upfront
payments into more manageable instalments, and
making necessary lifestyle changes such as going for
a lower budget holiday.
Speaking from experience, Wei Ting says: “Handme-downs from friends was something that I
appreciated when I was preparing for my own baby’s
birth. And in terms of coverage, couples can consider
term insurance (a policy that covers them for a set
period of time) for their newborn instead of wholelife insurance if affordability is a concern.
“Don’t be put off by the costs or financial stress of
having a baby; it can be managed by planning ahead.
The incredible feeling when the baby is in your arms
will make you feel it is all worth it!”

AFTER:
(Optional) Infant care/
childcare
– $300 to $2,000 a month
(Optional) Helper
– $700 a month
Formula milk (if needed)
and diapers
– $300 a month
Visits to the paediatrician
– $100 a month
Preschool education
– from $163.50 a month
Primary, secondary and
junior college education
– from $13 to $43 a month
Higher education
– from $10,000 a year
Enrichment (if needed)
– $20 to $50 per class

No one said motherhood would be
easy, and that includes making
adjustments to your life to
accommodate the needs of your
newborns. Your new shopping
splurges might instead include the
newest baby stroller.
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OTHERS:
Child insurance
– from $100 a year to over
$4,000
(Optional) Child
endowments/investment
– $5,000 a year
TOTAL:

~$300,000
*These are all estimated costs

HER
LIFE
The rise of tradwives

Is this just another fancy name for
a stay-at-home mum?
Your kid wants a bowl of granola for breakfast so you... make
granola from scratch? If you’re scoffing at that sentence, you’d
better believe that it’s not something unheard of in 2024.
In fact, there is a new crop of women who pride themselves
on domesticity, and are portraying this lifestyle in full glory on
social media.
They call themselves “tradwives” – or traditional wives – a
movement consisting mostly of conservative millennial and Gen Z
women in the West, who are anti-workforce and pro-homemaking.
In this case, homemaking includes making a peanut butter
and jelly sandwich from real peanuts, strawberry jam from fresh
strawberries, and bread from the dough they kneaded – or even
milking cows from their farms so they can make their own butter
and cheese.
For the uninitiated, a “tradwife” champions “traditional”
values like “submitting” to her husband, but what’s ironic is that
while they’re against traditional employment, their rebellion
relies heavily on their husbands’ ability to financially support an
entire household. It stresses the privilege underlying their lifestyle
choice, highlighting the socioeconomic dynamics that shape their
perceived autonomy and independence.
Back to our earlier reference of making granola from scratch.
At the centre of this brouhaha is 22-year-old Nara Smith, the
glamorous granola-maker and mother-of-three who is married
to Mormon-born model Lucky Blue Smith. Together with other
tradwives, including Utah-based influencer Hannah Neeleman (a
former Mormon) with over 10 million followers, and San Diego
housewife Alexia Delarosa (she makes her own butter) – all of
them have faced criticism for allegedly presenting a false image
of their picture-perfect 1950s housewife lifestyle.
For the many women who are advocating the values of financial
stability and security, this tradwife phenomenon can seem like
we’re taking a few steps back to antiquated gender stereotypes.
Many, including journalist and author Jo Piazza, have posited that
it sends the wrong message to impressionable girls, who might
romanticise the idea of giving up their careers and depending
completely on their husbands, thus skewing the power dynamic
in the relationship.
Besides, if these women are consistently documenting their
lives on social media, whether it’s showcasing their latest recipes
or talking about how they are living the perfect life while ironing
their husbands’ clothes, one might question if they genuinely
embrace traditional roles, or if their portrayal is influenced by
their obsession with their social media virality.

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Would you break up with your partner over peeled fruit?
This latest social media trend might just
be the unlikely dealbreaker.
Text Cheryl Lai-Lim

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“If someone asks you to peel their orange you
might think, ‘They’re perfectly capable of doing
that themselves, that’s not a big deal,’” said Tiktoker
@neanotmia in a breakdown of the trend. “It might
not literally be about peeling the orange. They’re
asking you for a small favour to see your reaction, to
see if later they can ask you for bigger favours. How
are you going to make them feel when they ask you
for that help?”

PEELING BACK THE LAYERS

Forget MBTI tests or compatible horoscopes; there’s
a new way to test if your love is true: All you need
is an orange.
While it might sound unorthodox, the idea
behind the viral “orange peel theory” is rather
straightforward: If your partner peels an orange for
you with care, it’s a sign of genuine love.
But if they refuse, it suggests their love might
not be sincere. This informal test first started on
social media platform Tiktok, and has since become
widespread, especially among heterosexual couples.
At its core, the orange peel theory is about acts
of service. It suggests that a partner’s willingness to
perform small and seemingly insignificant acts of
service indicates a healthy relationship.

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While seemingly trivial, some believe that the act of
peeling an orange symbolises a partner’s willingness
to perform small gestures of kindness and support,
which are believed to reflect the underlying
dynamics of the relationship.
To test the “orange peel theory,” social media
users are posting videos on Tiktok where they ask
their partners to peel oranges for them to gauge
their response. The premise is simple: If your partner
agrees to peel the orange, it suggests they have a
positive outlook on the relationship. By willingly
performing this small task, they demonstrate
commitment and readiness to support you in times
of need, such as illness or tough situations.
Conversely, if your partner refuses to peel the
orange, it’s a red flag, at least according to Tiktok.
Users posit that a partner’s reluctance to help
with such a minor request may indicate a lack of
willingness to assist with other tasks, like household
chores or accompanying you to appointments.
Essentially, it suggests a reluctance to offer support
without being prompted, which can be troubling in
a relationship.

“While the orange peel
theory may have its
limitations and criticisms,
it can serve as a valuable
reminder of the importance
of showing love and acts
of compassion in our
relationships.”

DOES IT ALWAYS WORK?

This opens up many questions: Since when have we
started distilling the complexities of love into viral
content? And is it wise to use a social media trend
to test the longevity of your relationship?
Tests like the orange peel theory often reduce
human connection to scripted scenarios, overlooking
genuine emotional depth. Their subjectivity can
lead to misinterpretation and reinforce harmful
stereotypes. For instance, your partner might not
want to peel the orange for you in that moment
because they’re preoccupied with another task.
Or perhaps they’re just having an off day (we all
have those moments when we don’t want to be
bothered) – you can’t expect them to drop everything
just to peel an orange for you. It’s important to
consider context, and understand that responses
are influenced by various factors, not just feelings
towards the relationship.
Plus, while comments in reaction to these videos
often label such actions as red flags and may even
encourage immediate break-ups, it’s essential to
question whether we should let strangers on the
Internet be the judge of our relationships. Although
seeking outside perspectives can be valuable, relying
solely on the opinions of individuals who lack full
context and understanding of our dynamics can lead
to hasty decisions.
Relationships are nuanced and multifaceted, and
what may seem concerning to an outsider may not
necessarily reflect the true nature of the relationship.
Ultimately, trusting our own judgment and
understanding of our partnerships is paramount in
navigating them successfully. Rather than relying on
such tests, prioritising open communication, mutual
understanding, and emotional intimacy is key to
healthy relationships. While small gestures matter,
they alone cannot define a relationship’s strength.

APPLES VS ORANGES

While the orange peel theory may have its limitations
and criticisms, it can serve as a valuable reminder
of the importance of showing love and acts of
compassion in our relationships. In essence, the
theory encourages us to pay attention to the small
details and gestures that can make our loved ones
feel appreciated and cared for.
Even though the act of peeling an orange or
performing other small tasks may seem trivial,
it’s the intention and thoughtfulness behind these
actions that truly matter. The trend is not just limited
to oranges, technically, any fruit (if you will) or little
acts of service (opening a jar, for example) works.
As the trend has gained momentum, many users
on Tiktok have joined in to showcase the thoughtful
gestures of their partners. For instance, a baker
shared a heart-warming video of her boyfriend
surprising her with pre-separated egg whites, a task
she usually struggles with because of her long nails.

Some users have also highlighted that the theory
isn’t limited to romantic relationships. One parent
shared a touching anecdote on Tiktok, revealing
how they apply the theory in their daily interactions.
“Every day after school, my six-year-old asks me
to carry his backpack in the house for him and I
always will, enthusiastically, after learning about
the orange peel theory,” one parent shared.
The orange peel theory encourages us to be
mindful of how our actions can impact others. It
prompts us to consider the needs and preferences
of our loved ones, and to go out of our way to make
their lives a little easier or brighter. Whether it’s
helping with household chores, offering emotional
support, or simply being there for someone when
they need us, these acts of kindness can strengthen
our relationships and create lasting bonds.
While the orange peel theory may not be a
perfect measure of love or compatibility, it serves
as a valuable reminder to prioritise kindness,
empathy, and compassion in our interactions
with others.

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“Rather than relying on such tests, prioritising
open communication, mutual understanding, and
emotional intimacy is key to healthy relationships.”

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Swing by these intimate, hidden
bars featuring unique concepts and
inventive cocktails.
Text Amy Van

Dario
Knox
is the
founder
of The
Backdrop,
a hidden
bar at
Voco
Orchard

Singapore’s bar scene has evolved over the last few
years, with a growing number of smaller spaces
that are operated by independent bartenders.
In general, popular drinking venues with
bigger capacities tend to be operated by hotels,
such as Manhattan at Conrad Orchard and
Republic at The Ritz-Carlton Millenia, or are
part of larger F&B groups like Jigger & Pony
Group or Tipsy Collective.
In contrast to those big players, a smaller
space usually means lower rent and staffing
costs, which allows experienced bartenders to
strike out on their own, focus on their creativity,
and express their vision when it comes to their
concepts and menus.
The bartender-owner goes from table to
table chatting with guests. He recommends his
latest cocktails, and explains how they are made.
He may even personally concoct your drinks.
There’s plenty of interaction in the convivial
setting. At such intimate bars, customers get to
experience their niche concepts and sip high
quality, innovative cocktails.
One of these hidden spots is Cat Bite Club
by operating partners Gabriel Lowe and Jesse
Vida. They wanted to be able to offer hightouch service where they can talk and engage
with every guest. If customers are keen, they
introduce their vast collection of rice spirits and
agaves used to concoct the cocktails. The idea
is that the experience is completely immersive,

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and you can escape the outside world when you
are in the bar.
Likewise, The Backdrop’s founder Dario Knox
decided to launch a more intimate concept where
he can focus on his creativity and introduce new
cocktail-making techniques, while taking care of
all his guests personally.
One of the things he’s unveiled recently is
“Percolated Cocktails”. A new technique that he
perfected in the last few years, it’s something that
he believes will disrupt the traditional cocktail
landscape. To create these drinks, botanical
extractions are percolated into a neutral spirit to
achieve a certain level of purity and complexity.
Meanwhile, Bar Spectre wanted to be able
to engage with guests, and create a safe space
where they feel comfortable to participate in
the mental wellness exercises that are a part of
the experience.
For instance, guests can try “Questions” –
a slightly spirit-forward cocktail that comes
with a set of personality test questions. This
non-scientific test draws out personal sharings
about anything from communication styles to
relationships and libido. According to bartenderowner Andrew Pang, what he hopes is to nurture
relationships through conversation. “We want
people to laugh at themselves and each other,
with the hope of building social resilience.”
We discover more about these intimate bars
with niche concepts.

THE BACKDROP
TH E COCK TAI L L AB

The Backdrop has no prominent signage. You
wouldn’t even realise that it is on the ground floor
of Voco Orchard Singapore, a five-star hotel along
Orchard Road. Tucked away behind a wooden door
lies this plush, theatrical bar, which opened in late
2023. When you book a table, you’ll be sent a digital
key/QR code to enter through the nondescript
entrance.
This stunning 35-seat space is founded by
mixologist-owner Dario Knox, who invites guests to
immerse themselves in a blend of history, artistry,
and mixology. Dario, who previously managed
The Other Room at Marriott Tang Plaza, is well
known in the bar scene for his expertise and ultrainnovative menus. Drawing inspiration from the
ancient tradition of elixirs and percolations, Dario
is dedicated to the extraction of botanicals, as well
as showcasing the cocktail-making techniques
discovered and perfected from the 1800s till today.
Aside from unique concoctions made with
revolutionary techniques like “Percolation”, The
Backdrop offers a range of tapas including chipotle
lobster buns and the Bikini sandwich, a Spanish
dish made with iberico, mozzarella and truffle.
WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO ESTABLISH
THE BACKDROP?
DARIO KNOX (DK): It all started in 2013, when
I started getting interested in the making of alcohol
products like Campari, Aperol, and Chartreuse.
I understand the flavours, but I was trying to figure
out how they are made, and wanted to dig deeper.
This curiosity led to the intention of creating my
own product.
In 2018, I started my research on botanical
extractions, percolation, and infusion [techniques].
I also started reading and creating a collection of
manuals and manuscripts from the Italian liquoristi
(liquor producers) from the 1800s onwards. I went
back to Italy to learn about Italian liquoristica
(loosely translated to the art of making liqueurs).
By 2019, I had collected a lot of botanicals and
extractions in my lab, and was pulling together my
knowledge on how to make products and drinks.
The idea of percolating cocktails came up around
that time. So that was kind of the light bulb moment
for me, and I decide to explore it.
To create the bar’s menu, I identified various
cocktail-making techniques from the beginning of
the history of cocktail making until now. We divided
them into Acts – each section is a compilation of
three cocktails using the same techniques such as
“fat coating”, “milk punching” and “smoking”.

WHAT HAVE YOU LAUNCHED AT THE
BACKDROP RECENTLY?
DK: We introduced a cocktail-making technique
with the unveiling of the Percolated Cocktails,
which involves a process that moves away from
the conventional tools and methods that have
defined mixology for centuries. Shakers, mixing
glasses, ice, and barspoons are no longer needed. In
this approach to mixing, we extract and isolate the
essence of botanicals directly into each creation
– such as the Percolated Espresso Martini made
with a neutral overproof spirit, angelica, coffee
and vanilla.
It transcends centuries-old traditions and
redefines the art of cocktail crafting. In my
opinion, it’s going to change the way bartenders
will approach the way drinks are made.
In the making of the percolations, the spirit is
carefully brought down to the desired Alcohol by
Volume (ABV). By percolating botanical extractions
into the neutral spirit, we achieve a level of purity
and complexity that was previously unattainable.
The resulting drinks are not only spirit-driven, but
also remarkably clean, offering an experience that
is both familiar and entirely novel.
WHAT ARE SOME OF THE SIGNIFICANT
CHANGES YOU’VE SEEN IN SINGAPORE’S
BAR SCENE?
DK: Within the international drink community,
Singapore has been, over the past decade, a place
of inspiration and a place to look at for innovation.
This is due to a combination of talents helming a
creative drink scene, daring bar concepts, as well as
a clientele that is very well travelled and discerning,
and are willing to experiment and try new things.

01-15/16 Voco Orchard, hp: 9645-4780, thebackdrop.sg

“Percolated Cocktails involves a
process that moves away from the
conventional tools and methods that
have defined mixology for centuries.
Shakers, mixing glasses, ice, and
barspoons are no longer needed.”
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A love for theatrics permeates the experience at The Backdrop, as demonstrated by the Monk’s Sour (top) and the eclectic design, which was
conceptualised by Dario himself

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Cat Bite Club’s Jesse Vida was formerly from Atlas Bar, which consistently featured on the Asia's and World's 50 Best Bars list

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CAT B ITE C L U B

R ED EF I N I N G HO SPITA LITY
When you enter 75 Duxton Road, you will see
Monument Lifestyle, a cafe that closes at 4pm on
weekdays. Look beyond the coffee counter and
you will be greeted by a glowing red sign with a
mischievous Cheshire cat grin. Cat Bite Club,
which opens at 5pm, is hidden behind thick drapes.
There’s no fancy decor in this dimly lit space, just a
bar counter and a huge shelf laden with all manner
of spirits.
Operating partners Gabriel Lowe and Jesse Vida
have drawn from their solid hospitality experience
to realise their lifelong dream of opening a bar
together. They both started their careers together
in San Francisco in 2007. When they moved to Asia,
Jesse helmed Atlas Bar – which has consistently
featured on Asia’s and World’s 50 Best Bars
list – as head bartender, while Gabriel worked at
Bangkok’s trendy rooftop bar Paradise Lost and The
Standard Hotel.
For the 30-seater Cat Bite Club, the partners
decided to feature cocktails that focus on agave
and rice spirits, some of which are procured from
under-the-radar producers. To date, the collection
boasts more than 100 agave spirits, including
tequila and mezcal, as well as sotol and other
agave distillates. For rice spirits, the bar offers a
list of soju, shochu, baijiu and arrack. The team is
always building the collection, both through local
distributors, as well as during their travels.

YOU HAVE WORKED IN MUCH BIGGER
ESTABLISHMENTS PRIOR TO THIS. WHY
DID YOU CHOOSE TO SET UP A MORE
INTIMATE AND DISTINCTIVE BAR CONCEPT
IN SINGAPORE?
JESSE VIDA ( JV): The decision to open an intimate
venue spurs from our main directive as operators
– providing excellent service in a space with a great
atmosphere. Our venue has a cosy feel, and all
tables are at the same height as the bar, so everyone
in the space feels connected to what is going on.
I think Singaporeans enjoy the experience and
the level of hospitality we are able to create in our
smaller space.
WHAT ARE YOUR SIGNATURE DRINKS, AND
WHAT NEW COCKTAILS HAVE YOU ROLLED
OUT RECENTLY?
JV: We have two signatures: The Cat Bite Margarita,
made of Codigo 1530 Blanco tequila, Siete Misterios
Espadin mezcal, Cointreau, fresh citrus blend,
agave nectar, and sherry; and the Soju Sprint,
comprising Tokki soju, peach, honey, mint, fresh
citrus blend, sherry, absinthe, and soda.
We have also just added three new drinks to
the menu – a classic Chrysanthemum (Avallen
calvados, absinthe, dry vermouth, and Benedictine);
an agave variation, Desert Island (Patron Blanco
tequila, sotol texano, St Germain elderflower, pine,
Peychaud’s bitters, and grapefruit bitters); and a
rice variation, Martini Peas (Hachi rice shochu,
snap pea, aquavit, and blanc vermouth). Our drinks
menu changes every four to five months.
WHAT ARE SOME OF THE PIVOTAL
CHANGES YOU’VE SEEN IN SINGAPORE’S
BARTENDING INDUSTRY?
GABRIEL LOWE: The bartending scene in
Singapore is always evolving. What I really enjoy
about the young generation of bartenders here is
that they are hungry for knowledge and experience.
The next generation of bar managers and owners
are going to be excellent leaders and educators.

75 Duxton Road, hp: 8190-6597, catbiteclub.com

“Our venue has a cosy feel, and all
tables are at the same height as the
bar, so everyone in the space feels
connected to what is going on.”
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The intimate Cat Bite Club is hidden behind Monument Lifestyle, a coffee and retail space, and each element of the menu is thoughtfully designed
to showcase the owners’ craft, such as this Tiki cocktail (opposite) that features jackfruit-infused Ceylon Arrack with coconut and coffee

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Andrew Pang is co-founder of Spectre, a bar that embraces mental wellness, offering restorative cocktails with TCM herbs and natural mood boosters

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B AR SPECT R E

A MEN TAL WELLNESS
S PACE
It may take a bit of effort to find Bar Spectre’s
entrance, but that’s part of the fun. There’s a small
sign, but you’ll have to go down an alley between the
alleyways of Duxton and Craig Roads (off Tanjong
Pagar), and then take the lift to the second floor.
Spectre, which opened in late 2023, has been
reinterpreting the definition of a classic cocktail
bar with its wellness-focused menu, and vintage
apothecary vibes (think shelves lined with jars of
herbs and spices).
This concept offers restorative cocktails
incorporated with herbs from Traditional Chinese
Medicine (TCM) and natural mood boosters. The
menu’s four categories are Herbal, Umami, Citrus
and Spices. Most of the concoctions include a
mix of traditional Chinese, Indian and Korean
ingredients such as turmeric and ginseng, along
with liqueurs and spirits.
The 40-seater bar unabashedly embraces
mental wellness and imperfection, and champions
community-building. Co-founder Andrew Pang,
who has a background in psychology, aims to make
therapy more accessible to the local hospitality
industry and less of a taboo in Singapore. He
offers free anonymous online therapy for the F&B
community through the Spectre Spirit Support
programme.
The Beam Suntory regional brand ambassador
for South-east Asia co-founded this place with Inch
Chua, musician and Masterchef Singapore finalist.
The latter is in charge of the menu of contemporary
South-east Asian-inspired bites, which changes all
the time. Inch derives her inspiration from her (and
the team’s) favourite comfort food and their love
for cooking.

“Our focus is on creating a space
where guests can learn mental
exercises, and grow their social
network through workshops and
themed dinners.”
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CAN YOU DESCRIBE BAR SPECTRE’S
UNIQUE CONCEPT?
ANDREW PANG (AP): Spectre is a mental wellness
themed bar located in the heart of Tanjong Pagar.
Every signature beverage comes with a therapy
technique, community activity and/or wellness
talking point. Our focus is on creating a space
where guests can learn mental exercises, and grow
their social network through workshops and
themed dinners.
WHAT ARE YOUR SIGNATURE DRINKS, AND
WILL YOU BE OFFERING NEW COCKTAILS IN
THE COMING MONTHS?
AP: “Tea & Sympathy” has been our top seller for the
past few months. In this low ABV beverage, there
are four distinctive ingredients: Sauvignon blanc,
honey, green tea and mint. The idea is that if you
are able to pick out the flavours, you are practising
some manner of “noticing” [which entails being
present and being in touch with one’s inner self].
Another signature drink is “Bonseki”, which
means sand tray in Japanese. We serve this nonalcoholic beverage on a bonseki. Guests are given
the tray to allow some time to do tactile therapy,
where they rack patterns in the sand. The drink
itself comes as a hot non-alcoholic snake soup – we
buy the snake meat from a TCM wholesaler, and
make a soup based on a TCM recipe. There is an
option to add mezcal, agave, or rice liqueur.
We are developing our next menu for our first
anniversary in September, and are aiming to have
a full, non-alcoholic menu with the option to make
drinks into cocktails. Staying true to our craft, we
want to do more than just “adding a shot of vodka”
to make a drink boozy. This involves creating
cocktail mixer recipes such that all drinks becoming
cocktails are still well balanced with a matching
taste profile of liquor, modifiers, and enhancers.
WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNT ABOUT THE
BARTENDING SCENE IN SINGAPORE, AND
WHAT ARE SOME OF THE SIGNIFICANT
CHANGES YOU’VE SEEN IN RECENT YEARS?
AP: We did take some time to grow our culinary
and gastronomy techniques because of the strict
regulations (as well as the lack of awareness and
education to permit certain activities), but that
has not stopped Singapore bars from excelling
in different areas like sustainability and cocktail
programmes.

02-01, 120 Tanjong Pagar Road, hp: 9673-0595,
barspectre.com

At Spectre, Andrew creates concepts like the Bonseki (below), a non-alcoholic TCM-inspired snake soup that comes with a tactile sand-and-rake
exercise, in a space that is inspired by traditional apothecaries (bottom)

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Guests are told to write what's troubling them on a piece of paper when they enter. It is then burnt, symbolically signifying their intention of
leaving their troubles at the door

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Technically
speaking, it’s
almost human!

PHOTO EVERETT COLLECTION TEXT SAW YONE YONE

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ASK THE EXPERT

How can I use Artificial Intelligence
(AI) more effectively at work?
Govtech engagement manager Nicole Lim answers.

How do I develop my familiarity with AI? It’s a
technology I’m apprehensive of, even though
everyone around me is pushing to make full
use of it.

To bridge the gap between apprehension and
acceptance of AI, you can start with user-friendly
chatbots like ChatGPT and Gemini. Consider using
these Language Learning Model (LLM)-powered
tools for straightforward tasks in your personal
life, like planning a personalised travel itinerary
with ChatGPT, or having Gemini analyse a photo
of a meal to suggest ingredients for the dish.
As you develop familiarity with prompting AI,
these skills can be applied to business applications.
For example, try using AI to find the best
deals for your online shopping. After learning
to engineer prompts asking AI to aggregate and
compare data or conduct cost-benefit analysis,
you can apply the same prompt-engineering skills
towards conducting market research to find the
best vendors for your business.

Whenever I ask AI chatbots a question, the
response is insufficient. How can I better
prompt it?

Prompt engineering revolves around skilfully
crafting prompts to elicit the most effective
responses from AI systems. One approach is
to structure your prompts via a framework like
CO-STAR, which stands for Context, Objective,
Style, Tone, Audience, and Response.
By adopting this method, you equip the AI with
a thorough understanding of the context, welldefined objectives, and insights into the desired
audience and tone – leading to more targeted and
effective responses.

What are some avenues for me to develop
my skills in AI further?

You can explore reputable online platforms
like Coursera, Udacity, or EdX, which offer
beginner-friendly courses in AI and machine
learning. Start with introductory courses such
as “AI For Everyone” by Andrew Ng on Coursera,
which teaches fundamental concepts and basic
applications of AI in daily life.
Take advantage of AI-related workshops,
seminars, and meet-ups organised by local tech
communities or institutions like Google Developers

Do you have a question about health, wellness or just life in general? Write to
maghw@sph.com.sg, and we’ll have your query answered by an expert.

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Space or Govtech Stack. These events provide
valuable opportunities to learn from industry
experts, network with fellow enthusiasts, and gain
insights into the latest trends and developments
in AI.
Dip your toes into generative AI by working
on personal projects or participating in online
challenges and competitions. Simple projects
include building your own customised chatbot
(though this requires a GPT-4 paid subscription,
at around $20 a month).
By combining online learning resources, local
community engagement, and hands-on practice,
you can embark on a rewarding journey to upskill
in AI and contribute to Singapore’s thriving tech
ecosystem.

An engagement manager at Govtech, Nicole Lee
advocates for the adoption of generative AI within
Singapore’s public sector. In 2023, she spearheaded
the organisation of Prompt Royale, Singapore’s
first GPT-4 Live Prompt Engineering Tournament.

HER WORLD RECOMMENDS:
AI TOOLS YOU CAN USE
CHATBOTS
ChatGPT-4 is the most versatile and
popular. You can also consider Gemini,
which is connected to the Internet
and integrated with Google products;
Pi by Inflection AI, which is known
for human-like empathy and realistic
conversations; or Claude by Anthropic
AI, which has a reputation for adeptness
at creative tasks like writing copy.
IMAGE GENERATION
Consider DALL•E or Midjourney.
For video generation, look at Sora AI.
SPECIALISED TASKS
Plug-ins can be downloaded on paid
versions of chatbots. For example,
the Wolfram GPT plug-in equips
ChatGPT with accurate mathematical
computation. Other tools we suggest
include Otter.ai to transcribe meetings,
Github Copilot for coding, and Adobe
Lightroom’s AI Denoise tool to improve
the quality of images.

HER
BEAUTY

Book Club

More than just a vision-enhancing
tool, prescription glasses are
shaping up to be quite the
fashion statement.
This season, the stylish set are trading in their contact lenses
for face-framing, thin-rimmed glasses, reminiscent of those
worn by supermodel Gisele Bundchen in the 2006 film The
Devil Wears Prada.
With the return of geeky or librarian-core fashion on the
runways – recall the Miu Miu Spring/Summer 2024 show,
where models were dressed in preppy, corporate chic outfits
and prescription frames – eyewear has evolved from being a
practical necessity to one of the hottest fashion trends this year.
Off the runway, Gen-Z style icons Billie Eilish and Bella
Hadid have also been spotted sporting the bookish bespectacled
look. Beyond complementing any ensemble, these glasses sit
perfectly atop your nose bridge, drawing attention to your face
(and makeup).
Makeup artist Lasalle Lee shows us four ways to make your
makeup pop behind your lenses.
MORE THAN MEETS THE EYE
For the bespectacled, Lasalle has a tip: “I would suggest applying
foam patches (they are affordable and readily available online
on marketplaces like Amazon) to the nose pads of your glasses
to prevent dents and red marks that glasses often leave behind.”
He adds: “(Since glasses can magnify your entire eye area)
You have to ensure that everything is well blended and opt for
formulas, especially powders, that are finely milled, so your base
doesn’t appear patchy.”

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CLASS IN SESSION
The eyes are the windows to the soul. Draw attention to your peepers with a pair of dark rimmed glasses and
fluffed up lashes. Keep your eyeshadow minimal, and add definition with individual falsies on both the top and
bottom lash line. Full, separated lashes help to open up the peepers for that doe-eyed, fresh-faced look. Layering lip

Glasses, jacket and top, Prada. Tiffany Hardwear Small Wrap yellow gold necklace, Tiffany & Co.

oil over your lip balm would be the cherry on top.

TEXT & COORDINATION LETTY SEAH PHOTOGRAPHY ATHIRAH ANNISSA ART DIRECTION & STYLING ADELINE ENG
HAIR AUNG APICHAI/ARTISTRY STUDIOS, USING KEVIN.MURPHY MAKEUP LASALLE LEE, USING CHARLOTTE TILBURY MODEL CHLOE/MANNEQUIN

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DARK ACADEMIA
Amp up the drama under those lenses with grungy, kohl-lined eyes. Elevate your look and brighten your peepers by
dabbing a shimmery eyeshadow on your inner corners. Finally, take things up a notch by pairing your eye makeup with a

Glasses, Gentle Monster. Top and blazer, Loewe. Trinity white gold, rose gold and yellow gold necklace and earrings, Cartier

brick red lip liner and lipstick in a darker shade.

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C O O L C AT
If you’ve chosen barely there rims, your eyebrows will become the focal point, which calls for a refined yet bold look. Take your
time to conceal any unwanted brow hairs with a concealer. Next, with a thin brow pencil, sketch out the skinny shape of your

Glasses, Gentle Monster. Top and blazer, Kenzo. Tiffany Hardwear Large Link yellow gold earrings, Tiffany & Co.

preferred look. Keep the rest of your eye makeup clean, and let your pout take centre stage with a lip liner.

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S PAC I N G O U T
Frosty, metallic shades like silver can reflect light to illuminate your visage, making your eyes appear larger and more
awake. Concentrate your icy eyeshadow on the inner corners and under-eye area, pairing the hue with inky liner and a
few coats of mascara. To enhance depth and achieve a smokier, diffused effect, add charcoal grey shadow to the outer

Glasses, Gentle Monster. Blazer, Sportmax. B.Zero1 rose gold ear cuff, B.zero1 Rock rose gold earrings with studded
spiral and black ceramic, and B.zero1 Rock pink gold chain necklace with black ceramic spiral, Bvlgari

corners of your eyes. Finish with a glossy, your-lips-but-better lipstick for a futuristic touch.

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EDITOR'S PICKS

May favourites

Here are some of our musthaves you will not regret
adding to your beauty shelf.
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By Letty Seah

1. Charlotte Tilbury Hollywood Beauty Icon
Lip Cheat Lip Liner, $40
Thanks to a smooth and buttery formula containing
jojoba seed oil and micronised powders, this lip liner
glides over your pout effortlessly. Once it sets, it stays
on for over six hours without smudging. Available
in 16 shades, from flattering neutrals to fiery reds.

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2. Guerlain Aqua Allegoria Florabloom,
from $191
Fruity mango accord pairs nicely with white tuberose
in Guerlain’s Allegoria Florabloom Eau de Toilette.
The feminine floral fragrance also combines delicate
centifolia rose from Grasse with violet and iris, and
a touch of soft green moss that lingers on the skin
for hours.
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3. Rouge Hermes lipstick in #47 Rouge
Cinetique, $132
Boasting a matte finish, the conditioning formula
of the Rouge Hermes range of lipsticks skims
over lip lines, making your pout look smooth and
plump without flaking. We love this coral-leaning
hue, which is great for reviving tired skin. Bonus:
It comes in a stylish refillable case.
4. Clarins UV Plus SPF50 Rosy Glow,
from $86
Made specifically for Asian skin tones, this sunscreen
illuminates your complexion without feeling heavy
or greasy. The hard-working product also has white
tea, blackcurrant and nipplewort to fortify skin
against environmental aggressors.

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5. La Prairie Skin Caviar Eye Lift, $865
True to its name, this luxurious dual-phase serum
combines caviar extract-infused encapsulated
beads with a gel-cream emulsion. It also contains
ceramides to boost hydration, while depuffing and
lifting the delicate skin around the eyes.
6. Kyor Outglow Radiance Tri-Factor Jelly,
$89 (for a 15-day supply)
Packed with ingredients like Nano-Molecule Marine
Collagen Peptides, ceramide and white tomato, this
Kyoho grape-flavoured jelly works to plump skin,
while minimising the effects of sun damage.

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ASK THE EXPERT

Air-dry or blow-dry –
which is worse for your mane?
Haircare experts share their advice.

We’re often warned about the heat damage caused
by using a hairdryer, but does this mean it’s better
to let our tresses dry naturally? You might be
surprised to find out that air-drying comes with
its own set of risks too.
Arica Sen, senior retail education manager at
PHS Hairscience, explains that wet hair has a high
tendency to become tangled and frizzy. Also, the
additional weight of water on hair leads to added
stress on follicles, which causes hair to “stretch”,
hence weakening the follicles. Plus, leaving your
hair wet for an extended period can attract bacteria
and fungus, causing scalp inflammation and
clogged follicles.
Leonica Kei, founder and principal trichologist
at Leonica K Trichology, advises against sleeping
with wet hair. “Wet hair is weak and fragile, so
tossing and turning in your sleep can damage it,”
she explains. “Damp hair may also cause discomfort
in countries with cold weather, and this could lead
to scalp issues for people who are more sensitive.”
On the other hand, Leonica notes that blowdrying causes damage if the heat is set too high, or
if your hairdryer is too concentrated on one area.
“This can cause overheating and a loss of moisture
– your hair could become porous and it could cause
permanent damage,” she adds.
According to Arica, the heat from a hairdryer or
styling tools can damage hair and cause split ends

and breakage. Also, constant pulling during blowdrying may cause added trauma to your follicles,
which may eventually lead to hair loss.
However, she states that there is little evidence
as to whether air-drying or blow-drying your mane
is better, as there are advantages and disadvantages
to both methods.
THE BEST PRODUCTS FOR HAIR
MAINTENANCE
Singapore’s humid weather could also be the
reason why you choose to blow-dry your hair. “To
achieve a sleek look, a hairdryer is a must, as there’s
no other way to create the kind of look you want,”
shares Leonica.
To reduce heat damage, she suggests using
a hair cream before blow-drying. Leonica also
recommends using a protein spray to protect your
tresses from the elements, whether you are in the
sun or an air-conditioned room.
Regardless of your hair type, Arica says longterm maintenance should involve keeping your
roots clean and dry to prevent frizz and limp hair.
Using the right products helps too.
“Hair is most fragile when it is wet, and tends
to tangle easily. Apply a product that helps to
detangle hair ends immediately after shampooing,
and follow with a nourishing hair oil to repair and
protect your mane from thermal damage.”

Got a question about makeup, skincare, haircare or beauty in general? Write in to lettys@sph.com.sg
and get your query addressed by an expert.

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Timeless Beauty

The skincare landscape is ever-changing, but the tools,
materials and ingredients that draw on ancient beauty
wisdom will always have a spot in our routines.
Text Vanessa Chia

When it comes to beauty remedies, the adage, “Old
is gold”, often rings true. Despite advancements
in technology, traditional remedies continue to
inspire modern solutions, and remain sought
after by many women. Tried and tested, but with
a contemporary twist, these tools and ingredients
prove that they’re still used and loved today.

NATURAL INGREDIENTS
1. Rose Quartz

While it’s commonly known as the crystal that
attracts love, this mineral has also been found
to have skin-loving benefits. It’s been said that
Cleopatra not only bathed in sour milk, but also
with rose quartz crystals because of their healing
and anti-ageing benefits. Today, the precious stone
has been made into massage tools, facial masks
and scrubs.
TRY: EVOLVE ORGANIC BEAUTY ROSE QUARTZ
FACIAL POLISH, FROM $25
Besides rose quartz particles that gently slough off
dead skin, this scrub also has organic rose hip oil
and hibiscus extract to promote cellular renewal
and prevent future breakouts. Available at Tangs
at Tang Plaza and Tangs.com

2. Coconut Oil

With its antifungal, antibacterial and antiinflammatory properties, coconut oil has been
used in Ayurveda for its weight loss and gum
strengthening properties. As a beauty elixir, it
nourishes and moisturises parched skin and dry,
frizzy locks.

TRY: NILA BOTANICS BLOOM ORGANIC HAIR
VITALITY OIL, $80.97
An immensely hydrating oil, this works to
moisturise the scalp, strengthen hair follicles and
restore dry, brittle hair to its full glory. Best used
before shampooing or as a leave-in treatment after
styling. Available at Nilabotanics.com

3. Ginseng

Touted as a wonder herb, ginseng has been prized
for centuries for its healing and immunity-boosting
properties, especially in traditional Chinese and
Korean medicine. Besides its anti-inflammatory
and antioxidant-rich benefits, studies have also
found that ginseng can help reduce signs of ageing,
boost collagen production, and protect against
free radical damage for a more youthful-looking
complexion.
TRY: THEN I MET YOU RENEWING RICH BEAUTY
CREAM, $97
Enriched with a proprietary quad ginseng complex
coupled with actives like baobab, squalane and
hyaluronic acid, this deeply nourishing moisturiser
leaves skin dewy and plump. Available at Sephora
stores and Sephora.sg

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optimally while activating the lymphatic system,
improving blood circulation and aiding in deep
tissue repair. While usually done on the body, facial
cupping has slowly been gaining traction. Based on
the same principles, it stimulates microcirculation
on the face, and promotes cellular repair and
tissue regeneration.

TRADITIONAL TOOLS
4. Gua Sha

Gua sha, an ancient Chinese healing technique, has
gained a resurgence among beauty communities
globally for its ability to promote circulation and
lymphatic detoxification. Today, gua sha tools are
used on the face to soften the look of fine lines
and wrinkles, while boosting collagen production.
These facial tools can also relax tight muscles and
reduce puffiness to give you the appearance of a
more toned and sculpted-looking face.
TRY: JANS TULIP GUA SHA, $56
Instead of the usual flat gua sha tool, this tulipshaped one allows for an optimal grip, making
it easy and comfortable to use. The thinner,
pointier tips are also ideal in helping to loosen
tense smaller and finer muscles on the face and
scalp. Perfect for your at-home massage sessions.
Available at Ksisters.sg

5. Cupping Therapy

According to Traditional Chinese Medicine
(TCM) practitioners, cupping is used to promote
circulation and energy (qi) flow, addressing health
issues such as muscle aches, flu symptoms
and overall well-being. Working on the body’s
meridian system, it uses glass, plastic or even
bamboo cups to create a partial vacuum, which
reinvigorates the flow of the body’s qi. This, in
turn, encourages the “stagnant” qi to flow more
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TRY: DAILY HABITS FACE CUPPING KIT, $80
(SET OF TWO CUPS)
Designed to boost microcirculation by stimulating
the cells responsible for collagen production, this
at-home facial cupping kit comes with a big cup
for the chin, jaw and cheekbones, and a small cup
for the forehead, eyebrows and under-eye area.
The promise: a sculpted and revitalised visage.
Available exclusively at Sephora.sg

6. Dry Brushing

Celebrities like Miranda Kerr swear by this,
and for good reason. Dry brushing, an ancient
Ayurvedic practice from India, is used to stimulate
circulation and blood flow. It’s even said to help
reduce the appearance of cellulite. Start at the
feet and work your way up using upward strokes
on the limbs, and circular movements on the
joints, stomach and buttocks. Best done on dry
skin before showering, it’s a great way to gently
exfoliate dead cells to reveal smoother, softer skin.
TRY: DR BARBARA STURM BODY BRUSH
SOFT NO. 1, US$45.13 ($62)
Crafted with natural bristles, this ergonomic
brush fits comfortably in your hand to stimulate
circulation, reduce the appearance of cellulite,
and exfoliate the skin at the same time. Besides
using it on dry skin, you can also use the brush
in the shower for a gentler effect. Available at
Net-a-porter.com

THE
CORTISOL
CONNECTION

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Is it possible to undo the ravages of stress while living
in a fast-paced world? We dive into how our levels of
cortisol – our body’s primary stress hormone – can be
regulated, and ways to manage its effects.
Text Syed Zulfadhli

There’s been plenty of debate online about the
recent findings of the 2024 World Happiness
Report in March, which ranked Singapore the
happiest country in Asia. The United Nationsbacked report – which surveys about 1,000
individuals per country – placed the Lion City at
the 30th spot among a total of 143 nations globally,
down five spots from 25th place in 2023.
In a similar vein, a 2022 mental health and
wellness survey conducted by Rakuten Insight in
Singapore revealed that 59 per cent of respondents
aged between 24 and 34, and 52 per cent of
respondents aged between 35 and 44, indicated
higher levels of stress or anxiety in the past
12 months.
It looks like we are one stressed out nation,
which begs the question: What are the harmful
effects of being chronically wired and tired? And
is it possible to undo all the damage caused to our
physical and mental health?
WHAT IS CORTISOL AND HOW DOES IT
AFFECT US?
First, we need to get acquainted with cortisol,
a steroid hormone produced by the adrenal glands
that is often referred to as the body’s primary
stress hormone.
Dr Andrew Fang, family physician at Doctor
Anywhere, shares that cortisol plays an important
role in orchestrating numerous bodily processes,
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such as managing our stress response, controlling
blood sugar and blood pressure levels, and even
regulating our circadian rhythm (sleep-wake cycle).
“Cortisol production is regulated by a complex
system known as the hypothalamus-pituitaryadrenal (HPA) axis,” explains Dr Fang. “On a regular
day, the HPA axis maintains cortisol levels to carry
out normal bodily processes.”
For many of us, the stressors of daily life can
be hard to predict. Is there anything can we do
about it then?
IDENTIFY YOUR TRIGGERS
“Anything that triggers the body’s stress response
ultimately leads to cortisol production,” shares
Dr Naras Lapsys, dietitian and Longevity
Medicine consultant at Chi Tree Health.
Psychological stress, whether it’s from work,
financial concerns or relationship issues, as well
as physical stress, including illnesses, injuries
and sleep deprivation, can all send our stress
response into action.
This all sounds like anything but good news.
However, Dr Lapsys assures that stress response
isn’t anything to sweat about. It is simply the
body’s way of adapting to these difficult moments.
For example, if we are meeting back-to-back
deadlines, more cortisol is produced to raise blood
sugar levels, heighten alertness, reduce pain, and
even curb inflammation.

“In circumstances where cortisol
levels remain abnormally elevated for
a long period of time, a condition known
as Cushing’s syndrome can develop,”
– DR ANDREW FANG, FAMILY PHYSICIAN AT DOCTOR ANYWHERE

This fight-or-flight response ensures that our
bodies are equipped with what it needs to pull
through those taxing times. Typically, cortisol levels
return to normal shortly after this period is over.
But what happens when we’re constantly on edge?
THE PAINFUL EFFECTS OF CHRONIC STRESS
According to both Dr Lapsys and Dr Fang, serious
health problems like poor sleep quality, diabetes,
high blood pressure, osteoporosis, muscle
atrophy, depression, and even anxiety can
manifest if we are frequently stressed. Women
who are looking to start a family should also
take note, as some studies have shown that
abnormalities in cortisol levels may have an
impact on fertility.
According to Dr Fang, elevated levels of stressinduced cortisol production will disrupt the
production of female hormones like oestrogen
and progesterone in the body. Not only can this
result in irregular menstrual cycles or changes in
the menstrual flow, it could also potentially affect
a woman’s ability to conceive and maintain a
healthy pregnancy.
Alongside these health risks, prolonged elevation
in cortisol levels can also manifest physically.
“In circumstances where cortisol levels remain
abnormally elevated for a long period of time, a
condition known as Cushing’s syndrome can
develop,” adds Dr Fang. He reveals that common
symptoms of this hormonal dysregulation include
poor hair quality and hair loss, as well as excessive
weight gain, which then results in “moon face” (a
symptom characterised by excess fat deposition
in the face, giving it a rounded moon-like shape).

UNDOING THE DAMAGE, ONE STEP
AT A TIME
For those who are overwhelmed and overworked,
stress management is key. Dr Fang recommends
that we aim for a healthy and balanced diet,
establish a regular sleep cycle, and practise
techniques or activities that promote calmness in
stressful situations.
“Engaging in physical and emotional well-being
practices can effectively mitigate the adverse
impacts of cortisol,” he shares.
When it comes to managing our workload,
Dr Lapsys recommends delegating responsibilities
and establishing healthy boundaries, as this will
prevent us from feeling overwhelmed. He also
suggests practising relaxation techniques like deep
breathing, meditation and yoga, as well as clocking
at least seven hours of quality sleep each night.
Regular physical exercise is also great for
maintaining bone density and good muscle quality.
Calorie management, matched with cardiovascular
exercise, such as jogging, running, kick-boxing and
spinning, can help with weight loss. However, he
warns against overtraining as it increases cortisol
levels in the body.
Where nutrition is concerned, Dr Lapsys
highly recommends opting for fresh produce,
including whole grains, lean meat, as well as fruits
and vegetables, as they provide the body with
necessary nutrients for optimal health. This can
have positive effects on hair quality and regrowth,
as well as enhance one’s mood. For those who are
planning to start a family, Dr Fang recommends a
diet that is nutritious and balanced, rich in vitamin
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reproductive health. The experts collectively warn
that one should avoid processed food as they are
high in sugar and preservatives, which can disrupt
the body’s hormone regulation.
Supplements are also something to look into.
Dr Lapsys shares that adaptogens, like ashwagandha,
rhodiola rosea, and schisandra, may have stressreducing properties. Leonica Kei, founder and
principal trichologist at Leonica K Trichology
recommends magnesium glycinate as it promotes
relaxation and quality sleep.
“However, many studies on adaptogens are smallscale or lack robust methodologies,” Dr Lapsys
points out.
As for cortisol-related hair health, Leonica says
that elevated cortisol levels can precipitate the
onset of pattern baldness and weaken hair follicles,
resulting in thinner strands. She recommends
those who are experiencing hair loss or thinning
to consider undergoing scalp treatments.
“These treatments are specifically designed to
cleanse the scalp thoroughly, eliminating dead cells
and excess sebum. By improving blood circulation,
they create a more conducive environment for hair
follicles to produce healthy hair,” she shares. She also
suggests using a scalp tonic designed to stimulate
blood circulation and block dihydrotestosterone
(DHT). DHT is an androgen that can shrink your
hair follicles and shorten the hair growth cycle, thus
causing hair loss.
If all else fails, are hair transplants a solution
to consider?
“This procedure is not suitable for everyone, as
it requires a sufficient quantity of good quality
donor hair,” she warns. She further explains that
even though the transplanted hair might grow
successfully, there can be continued deterioration
of hair at the frontal and crown areas. “This may
result in unsightly patches of transplanted hair
surrounded by areas of thinning.”

And before you decide to book an appointment
with your doctor to sculpt your “moon face”, Dr
Rachel Ho, medical director at La Clinic, notes
that aesthetic treatments will not help much in
this pursuit. “I would only recommend patients
experiencing these changes in their physical
appearances to seek aesthetic and dermatological
treatments under selective conditions,” she says.
One of the most common aesthetic treatments
to sculpt and contour the face is Botox. However,
Dr Ho explains that Botox is not recommended
when addressing a moon face, which is due to
abnormal fat deposition in the face.
“When used for face slimming or contouring,
Botox is injected into the masseter muscles or
the skin (eg Dermalift) to slim down enlarged jaw
muscles or to lift saggy skin respectively. Botox is
unable to remove the abnormal fat deposition in
the face,” she explains. “Instead, treating the cause
of Cushing’s syndrome should be the priority.”
THE BOTTOM LINE
While it is impossible to completely avoid stress,
especially in a time when there’s a constant
need for speed, it is important to know when to
slow down. Feeling run down from time to time
is normal, but look out for tell-tale signs and
persistent symptoms such as a loss of appetite,
changes in your menstrual cycle, poor sleep
quality, and drastic changes in mood. Physical
manifestations of stress, such as hair loss and
the building up of fat around the belly, face, and
between the shoulder blades, are also red flags to
take note of, as they can potentially be symptoms
of Cushing’s syndrome.
“Consider taking the holistic steps to reduce
stress first. However, if you’re experiencing
any concerning symptoms or suspect a cortisol
imbalance, it’s always best to consult your GP or a
healthcare professional,” advises Dr Fang.

“Individuals should consult a doctor
when their daily functioning is affected,”
– DR ANDREW FANG, FAMILY PHYSICIAN AT DOCTOR ANYWHERE

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B AC K TO B O L D
Dress and bralet, D&G

Say goodbye to low-key and hello to
decadence with over-the-top makeup trends.
Here’s why maximalist beauty is taking over.
Text Balvinder Sandhu

Thanks to our new-found love of maximalism, we are looking
to 2016 again for makeup inspiration. While we’ve embraced
minimalist looks in recent years, like the no-makeup makeup look
or the minimal, clean-girl aesthetic, the trend has shifted towards
bold and colourful beauty styles. The runways have showcased
the “more is more” beauty trend, and social media is filled with
content creators posting 2016 makeup tutorials. In fact, Tiktok
even introduced a 2016 makeup filter a few months ago.
In case you need a refresher, makeup artist Lasalle Lee takes
us through 2016’s “Instagram Face”: intense and smoky eyes,
clean-cut creases, strong eye liner and brows, heavy contouring,
heavy concealing and baking (which involves setting your
concealer with loose powder for a flawless, crease-free and
matte look), matte foundation, and thick, matte lipstick. The
look was popularised by the Kardashian clan.
“In addition to 2016 makeup trends, the current maximalist
beauty trend also includes encapsulated nails, 3-D
embellishments and graphic liners,” he adds.
Think blue eye makeup by renowned makeup artist Pat
McGrath at the Maison Margiela haute couture Spring/Summer
2024 show in January, which featured models with doll-like skin.
The Fall/Winter 2024 shows also featured lipsticks prominently,
with colours such as bold red and deep maroon from labels such
as JW Anderson and Richard Quinn.
Melvin Tseng, a producer, professional makeup artist and
content creator, thinks 2016 was one of the best times for
makeup as “people were not afraid to play with makeup”.
“The best part is, makeup is so individualistic, and 2016
makeup embraces exactly that! It’s all about self-expression.
Whether you’re doing a colourful glam or a nude smoky eye,
2016 makeup just amps it up and gives it that extra oomph,”
he explains.

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H AV E I T
Dark eyeshadow
for sultry eyes, and
natural lipstick for
the perfect pout to
up the sexy factor.
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ART DIRECTION &
STYLING ADELINE ENG
HAIR AUNG APICHAI/
ARTISTRY STUDIOS
USING KEVIN.MURPHY
MAKEUP LASALLE LEE,
USING FENTY BEAUTY
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“It never went out of style – we just
found different ways to do makeup
during the pandemic and, honestly, it’s
time to get the glam back!”
– MELVIN TSENG, CONTENT CREATOR

Makeup artist and coach Mary Victor especially loves the
eyeshadow looks from 2016, as they were super focused on cut
crease, colours and smoky eyes with a matte base. She thinks
it was what made 2016 makeup iconic, and even tried the look
herself back then.
“My makeup in 2016 was all about black smoky eyes with a
silver shadow as highlight,” she recalls. “It was something I did
almost all the time, and my base was matte with a red lip. It was
extremely maximalist!”
NOT AFRAID TO STAND OUT
So, why is this look returning now? It could be a reaction to
the minimalist trends we’ve seen in recent years, with many
of us yearning to express ourselves in a bolder and more
vibrant manner.
In a way, it’s also our way of finally moving on from the
pandemic. “The clean girl aesthetic was alright when we had to
stay home and attend Zoom calls during the pandemic. However,
with things getting back to ‘normal’, who wouldn’t love some
glam? It never went out of style – we just found different ways
to do makeup during the pandemic and, honestly, it’s time to
get the glam back!” says Melvin.
Melvin admits that he has always been a fan of maximalist
beauty: “It’s all about a clean and sharp brow, matte base, lifted
blush, a snatched nose contour, bright under-eye, strong lashes
and, finally, only the best eye makeup.”
Going for a nude or neutral look? Melvin recommends Huda
Beauty and Makeup By Mario Eyeshadow Palettes. If you lean
towards colourful eyeshadows, he suggests Norvina Cosmic
Eyeshadow Palettes from Anastasia Beverly Hills, and Bperfect
x Stacey Marie Carnival Palettes.

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LADY IN RED
Let your eyes do
the talking with
bold mascara and
eyeliner. Add a
deep red lipstick
for extra glamour.

Top, Max Mara

Top and bralet, D&G

“It doesn’t matter if the 2016 makeup look or
clean girl aesthetic makes you feel beautiful
– do what works for you. At the end of the
day, makeup is for everyone.”
– MELVIN TSENG, CONTENT CREATOR

COLOURS SHOW YOUR CONFIDENCE
For those eager to revisit the 2016 trend, our experts offer some
advice. Lasalle emphasises the importance of understanding
your own features to enhance them effectively. This allows you
to confidently experiment with colours and embrace bold lips
or mascara.
With this in mind, Mary encourages one to add “wilder”
colours into their beauty routine. She loves that, like fashion,
the beauty industry is always changing, with new trends coming
and going – only to resurface time and again.
“As long as beauty evolves constantly, we have lots of things
to look forward to,” she says. “Try new styles with different
outfits. Own a colourful eyeshadow palette! It always inspires
me to create new looks by playing with colours. I have a Beauty
Bay palette (in bright matte) that has 42 colours, ranging from
yellow to dusky purple to hot pink; it’s my go-to.”
Melvin recommends trial and error, as well as experimenting
and having fun, to see what works best for you.
“I set my makeup with a translucent powder, then ‘bake’
my under eyes while I do the rest of my makeup, to brighten
my under eyes,” he explains. “After I dust it off, I go in with a
compact or brightening powder to add more coverage and create
an ‘airbrushed’ look. Lastly, I use a fixing spray to melt in the
powders and make my skin look more hydrated, then finish the
look with a setting spray,” he shares.
Ultimately, Melvin says, women should go with what suits
them best without fear of judgment. “It doesn’t matter if the 2016
makeup look or clean girl aesthetic makes you feel beautiful – do
what works for you. At the end of the day, makeup is for everyone.”

NAKED
AMBITION
Keep it simple
by pairing nude
lipstick with silver
eyeshadow.

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Cosmic Love
The wind rose of Granville and the 30 Montaigne lucky star are
renowned for their influence on Monsieur Christian Dior, who
embraced these symbols as his personal lucky charms, and as
recurring motifs in the French house’s repertoire over the decades.
In 2015, 58 years after his death, creative director of Dior Joaillerie
Victoire de Castellane reimagined these iconic symbols as the

Rose de Vents jewellery collection. The latest range of necklaces,
bracelets and earrings, launched earlier this year, is crafted in soft,
dusky tones of pink, rose gold and mother-of-pearl. Delicate rice
grain details, double-sided medallions, and sparkling diamonds
anchor this unapologetically romantic interpretation. Available at
Dior boutiques and Dior.com.

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